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Bleaching Discolored Teeth

Alsalmo alaykum,this is the second time I am sending you this question as I sent it about 1 week ago and so far I was not sent any reference number. I am a dentist and I am asked by patients to improve the appearance of their upper front teeth or gums. This may be because: 1. Their teeth are yellow or discolored and they want them whiter. 2. They have some teeth that have are small in size or disfigured or too long, or displaced, or rotated or there are spaces between their teeth and they want that corrected. 3. Too much of their gum shows when they smile and they want more tooth showing or their gums have dark racial dicouloration in form of areas that are dark brown and they want that removed.In general as a dentist for these problems the following could be done: 1. Bleaching teeth to make them look whiter but this has only a temporary affect and usually needs to be redone in the future. 2. Placing composite restorations, porcelain veneers or crowns depending on the problem the patient has whether it is to cover discoloured teeth, make teeth bigger and close spaces between teeth etc. Composites can be removed and redone as they may discolor or fracture due to the weakness of the material, where as porcelain veneers and crowns are more of a permanent solution as they are stronger. 3. For the gums showing too much on smiling, periodontal surgery could be done and the dark pigmentation of the gums could also be removed.Dentists are always taught to do what is ideal for the patient and a pleasant dental appearance is one of the aims of their work. Also lots of patients are very embarassed because of the appearance of their teeth and may withdraw from social events or not smile so much or hide their teeth as much as they can because of this and when their teeth are done they have more confidence and are much more happier.the aim for the dentists is to get the ideal color, shape, size and appearance for the patient's teeth so that everything looks natural and pleasant. Jazak Allah kul kair.

Relationship Between People of the Opposite Sex

* Assalamu alaikum.I have a problem which insha allah i hope you can advise me in and help me with... Alhamdulillah when i became a practising muslim, i stopped talking to na-mahrams, stopped listening to music, etc..  i used to visit islamic forums etc, to keep contact with other muslims,discuss islam, learn more, etc. on one particular forum i came across one brother. we simply private message'd eachother to ask about a general thing. then, the brother asked for my email address, so that we could discuss islam over the internet. like this, we discussed islam and so on. intentions were pure, everything was pure. the brother himself is pracitising and religious minded alhamdulillah. what so happened is - we began liking each other and basically due to it being haraam for us to talk in such a way, he began mentioning marriage. what we decided was,that when both of us were at university-we could say we came across each other and he proposed to me, and then id go on to tell my parents. my parents have 'traditional asian' views.. i couldnt ever tell them that i came across him on the internet and so on.. if i tell them about him now, theyd ask how i know him, why im talking.. and so on.theyd completely twist everything and...just dwell on that onething. i kno i made a huge mistake and committed sin in talking to him in the first place..may allah forgiveme and him.. then- i said to him that one way or another i could get my parents to agree later on. there MIGHT be a chance at uni,MIGHT not.. but i could only have an answer at uni level wen i mention him to them. he said that ws ok, he'd wait. we continued talking,with the intention of marriage. he lives down in luton, while i am up northwest in lancashire. the problem is, that now im thinking it cannot happen-my parents wouldnt agree. this is for the reason that i have a cousin who i know my parents are interested in for me, and his parents are interested in me for him. the cousin-is my mothers, brothers, son. my uncles son. both our families are very close. i am now scared that if i try to go ahead and tell my parents about the luton guy, our familiy ties will break with my cousins,my parents will be angry with me, and so on. i myself, do not like my cousin. he is not practising islam properly, and i dont like him in the sense that i would want to marry him... i'm confused. the luton guy has currently gone to the UAE for holiday for 4 weeks.. in the mean time i want some advise from you as to what i should do.. i really like him, not jus because of his personality an so on,but because of him being a practising muslim-and the religious side of him. i hate committing the sin of zina, therfore i would love to get married to him as soon as.  yet, i know my parents myt not allow me as 'easily as that'. i keep remembering that it might be possible, then once ina  while i begin thinking i shouldnt talk.he says he's willing to wait as long as it takes. we did discuss the sin of it all- we even  made 'intervals'. where we wouldnt talk to each other, and then, once in a few months, he'd ring to jus basically-know the other person is alive and well! then we wouldnt talk again, until the nex few months.this did go on-we didnt talk for about 3 weeks. in them 3 weeks i alhamdulillah went to do umrah in saudi.. when i came back, he rang and we talked, and he said it was too difficult for him to not talk for so long.. what i want to know is, is what should i do.. i know its a sin thats whyim so desperate in making it halaal.. he thinks the same. but family is the main problem. i know we sinned in talking from the beginning-our intentions were clean and id never have thought itd turn into this. there is a chance that it might not work out-even when we both get to uni and i tell my parents that 'oh, theres this guy at uni whos propsed etc etc'. but he says if it doesnt work out then-once ive told my parents, he'llwalk away, and wont say anymore. and itll be done over with then-as long as i mention it to them. i would mention it now to them, if only i could! but the way they are, and my family etc, i cant mention anything to them at the moment. my cousin is the main problem,the cousin i wouldnt want to marry! and that cousin also told me before, that he 'loves' me ... so now im stuck. should me n the luton guy wait until we both reach uni (he is inshallah applying to the north unis where i will be). should we wait until then, and in the mean time, go with the'intervals' wher we dont talk, and jus once in a while get in touch to know the other is alive! n once we're inshallah at university, i tell my parents, and if they say yes(inshallah)-alhamdulillah, if they say no-he'll walk away n thatl be the end of it. would this be the best thing to do, considering the situation and the fact that there Is nothing else i can do.. he is very adamant in this.. we also prayed istikhara-he prayed it around 3 times, his intentions were along the linesof, 'should i continue talking and take it to marriage'and that came out positive-all 3 times. i prayed my istikhara too-and mine came out once-no feeling, second time-positive, and the third-negative. my intentions were too-should we continue an take it marriage. mine have probably been affected wth the thought of my parents and them rejecting, and how difficult itd be if they say no after so long.. but when i did read it with an open mind, properly, i had a good dream regarding me n him, my day, my mind, my heart, everything was so settled, so peaceful, n so happy n content. so please could you help me...inshallah.. i really want my parents to understand that its not relations we should go for-its those who are practising and islamic.. the only thing that seems to be holding us back ryt nw, and not allowing us to make this halaal right now, is from my side - not being able t tellmy parents and so on...please reply back as soon as possible if u can.. jazakallah for ur timewa'alaikumussalam

The Rights of a Christian or Jewish Mother

Salam. I have a question regarding the rights of a christian or jewish mother ( I will use the abbreviation POB from now on for simplicities sake) over her muslim children after she gets divorced from the muslim father. As I understand the children can stay with their mother until they are seven if there is no threat of her trying to convert them. After that they must go stay with the father to preserve their muslim character. However, does the POB mother still have visitation rights? If so are those visitation rights equivalent to the rights she would have if she were muslim?Also I understand once the children are mature they can choose whichever parent they want to stay with. Once the child reaches this age can he/she decide to stay with the POB mother? I would assume that by then they would be grounded in islam enough to make a good decision. Plus, everyone wants to stay with the mother at some point even. If they decide to stay with the father does the mother still have visitation rights? Also does the POB mother have the right to be consulted considering major and minor decisions about the child.I have asked these questions because I am shocked when I read stories of muslim people who abduct their children and never let the mother see them and be a part of their lives, just because she happens to be POB or some other religion. The mothers love is such a special love that it cannot be replaced by any other female relative of the family. Many of these people say that their actions are justified by islam, but I fail to understand this. Why would Islam allow a POB woman to be the head of a muslim household and be the mother of muslim children, and then, in the unfortunate case of divorce, tell the family to throw her out of their lives?

Working as a Writer or Producer in a Film Industry

As-salamu `alaykum?.Can you please tell me if it is permissable to work as a writer or director or producer in the film industry, for eg. making big budget hollywood movies, obviously paying particular attention to the subject matter & content. I also have read articles where making movies is halal but the inclusion of 'violence' is haraam. Can you please further clarify exactly what type of violent scenes are haraam or are they all haraam? I mean ive sat through The Matrix & Lord of the Rings movies - Would it be haraam to execute the 'action' sequences in these movies? If so how are we to compete with the likes of these films as movie makers (the industry is very competitive & if you exclude these factors your career is dead even before it has started!!) & as muslims in the west? On a final note I agree that scientific & psychological evidence proves that violent images shown to children have an adverse effect on behaviour. However the MANY studies conducted on adults are non-conclusive or contradictory indicating violent influence derived from means other than video images to be a contributing factor. There is no UNANIMOUS opinion or evidence that violent images have an adverse effect on the behaviour of adults since they can clearly distinguish between fact & fiction. I particularly ask seeing the number of movies/tv series etc that are released without any 'muslim influence' attached to them. Surely this is an industry which needs attention - The media does influence the lives of millions after all, particularly in this day & age when everyone has a TV in their home? It is also something I have always wanted to do but have been met with conflicting opinions and critisism. I do however strongly feel the need for fellow muslims in this area. Plenty to think about, im sure ? Please elaborate...?. Jaza Khallah Khair?I would appreciate if you could reply to this email ASAP seeing that i have an opportunity to work in this industry right NOW & i need a verdict to i can get back to certain people. If needed, please feel free to reply to this through my personal email. Wassalam

Getting a Conventional Mortgage for a Short Period of Time

Assalamu Alaikoum Wa Rahmatou Allah Ta3ala wa baraketouhou. Bismi allahi arrahmani arrahim. Dear Scholars can you please clarify and if possible give me a definite answer to my Question which is in regards to Mortgages. I live in the UK I have just married, the house we live in is a 1 bedroom house and we pay £600 rent a month. I have approached islamic banks for Mortgage (Amamnah finance), as I do have about 15% of the value of the house. even then they said I wont be able to afford it based on my salary, and it is true I will not be able to afford it at this time. I approached conventional Banks for conventional Mortgages and they offered us a good mortgage with repayments that we can actually afford and it will give us the chance to buy a bigger house than the one we live in. in regards to darurah of the matter, My wife is finishing her studies at University and she cannot actually do her work properly because of the lack of space, we are happily maried but the space issue gets to us and sometimes gets in the way of our marriage. I have asked about this and I was told that I do not have a darurah in this case because I have a roof to live under. My question is as follow, My intetion is to get a convetional mortgage for a short period of time to get the space and get a house which we can actually call home, inchallah and with allah's help improving our financial situation we will move to an islamic mortgage when we can afford it, I am working towards getting a better higher paid job? Second is my situation a darurah or is it not? Jazakoum allaho Khier