Allah has given each of us a lifespan. This is stated in the following hadith:
(When the drop of (semen) remains in the womb for forty or fifty (days) or forty nights, the angel comes and says: My Lord, will he be good or evil? And both these things would be written. Then the angel says: My Lord, would he be male or female? And both these things are written. And his deeds and actions, his death, his livelihood; these are also recorded. Then his document of destiny is rolled and there is no addition to and subtraction from it) (Muslim033 # 6392)
Allah grants each person a lifespan. In our limited knowledge, we cannot understand why some people are allowed very long lives, while others are taken when they are still young. I can’t give any answer for why this happens. Allah knows best.
Parents should remember that Prophet Muhammad lost three young sons. We know he cried after the death of his young son Ibrahim. Crying and mourning are natural expressions of release that accompany grief.
My advice to parents is to keep reading the Qur’an, trying to find peace in the words of Allah. Keep making their five daily prayers, and ask Allah to give you the strength you need to face this trial. Do not sit and recycle sad feelings about your son. Motherhood, is not about possessing another life, but nurturing another life and knowing when to let go.
Parents should find someone who will let them talk about him or sacred memories. Often, people think if someone experienced a loss like this, it’s best to avoid the topic. But I imagine you always think of your children, and perhaps you want someone with whom you can share the happy moments of his short life as well as the sadness. Turn to one of your relatives or close friends for this support.