Making up for Fasting Neglected for Years

Dear ScholarsMy question is about making up for the missing fasts. I have had my very first monthly periods at the age of 9. Now I am 24, But until a couple of years ago, I didnt know that we have to make up for those missing fasts. Hence, I never made uo for them for all these years. Now I dont have a count for those fasts, neither do I find myself able to make up for those fasts by fasting now. I am in good health but I have a hectic study schedule. I cant get up early in the morning for having suhurs and I have heard that if one wants to fast on days other than ramadan, sahurs are a must, otherwise, the fast isnt valid. For this very reason and also because i m not very pious and practicing muslim, a person  having a very low level of iman, who usually finds herself unable to perform the obligatory acts even, in past 3 years, I could not make up for more than 10 missing fasts, and this number is not even sufficient for the missing fasts of these 3 years. Now, I want to pay the compensation money (fidyah) for these fasts, because we never know when are we going to die and I dont want to die with so much burden on my already extremely sinner self. Hence my questions are:1- Can I pay the fidyah? Do I fit to the critera of people who can benefit from this blessing?2- What is the amount of fidyah for one fast?3- Will I have to fast even after paying the fidyah, because im young and healthy?4- Can I pay the fidyah to some charity organization or not? Can I give this money to some poor student from my country, pakistan, to use it for his education purpose? while not informing him of the nature of this charity?A detailed and quick reply will be highly appreciated. JazakAllah!

Du`a’ and Qadar

As salaamualaikum wa rahmathulaihi wa barakathuhu May Allah bestow his blessings and mercy upon you for guiding those in need.My question relates to Qadr or predestination in Islam. It is a belief that dua can to an extent change and influence a persons predestined path of actions. My question relates to marriage. I?m currently in a relationship with a woman and things aren?t looking too good for us in terms of getting married due to vast cultural differences. We are praying hard that things work out and we do get married. My question is that if we do ask dua and if Allah does will for us to get married then is it in some way gonna affect the way our destinies should have been and cause a big change in out futures for some reason. Also we are asking dua because we are in a relationship which is not allowed in Islam in the first place and if we do get married then will it in any way bring in a bad affect to our marriage if we were predestined to be with someone else.My second question is that if marriages are predestined and being in relationships is wrong then how would Islam explain a couple in a relationship who go on to get married. Would they have found each other and gotten married anyway.Finally if dua can change a persons predestined path of actions then does a person who asks a lot of dua in someway decide his own destiny, maybe not at everything but some major aspects which may have a big impact on his future.If the best thing in pleasing Allah is ending this relationship I would appreciate some advice on how best to do it. Jazak Allah Khair.

Giving Zakat al-Fitr in Cash and Sending it to Other Countries

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. For a long time, I used to pay the value of zakat al-fitr, which is a saa` (about 2.176 kg) of the food mentioned in the Prophetic hadith for myself and my family in money. I usually send this money to the poor kindred, relatives and neighbors in the occupied territories inPalestine. I was quite sure that this act is permissible, relying on many fatwas I heard from you and from many other scholars such as Sheikh `Abdullah ibn Zayd Al-Mahmud, the chief of the Shari`ah Courts in Qatar.However, one day while I was listening to the radio, I heard one of the sheikhs state that paying the value of zakat al-fitr in cash is not permissible in any case; and if anyone does so, his zakat is invalid because it is contrary to the Sunnah. Moreover, the sheikh launched a severe attack on scholars who permitted paying it in money and accused them of being contradictory to the texts of Shari`ah.Frankly, I became confused after hearing this fatwa, especially after I heard a hadith that states "Fasting in the month of Ramadan lies suspended between the earth and heaven; it is only raised (to heaven) by zakat al-fitr." This means that the fasting of my family lies suspended all during these years and was not accepted! Then what is the value of our acts of worship if we perform them while they will be invalid or unaccepted, as the sheikh said? What should the layman Muslim do when the scholars differ over a certain fatwa?I hope you disburden my mind and the minds of millions who pay the value of zakat al-fitr in cash. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Managing with Repeated Pregnancy During Ramadan

Assalam alikumI have couple of questions that I would like to know the answer for.I know that you are allowed not to fast during Ramadan if you are breast-feeding and fear the health of your baby. But is it the same when you are breast-feeding a 1 year old, who is able to eat solids fearing that he is ?not eating well?, or ?not feeling well?, and therefore, he needs the milk?Also, if one was to follow the scholars that say that you should both make up the fast and feed the poor, do you have to pay once for each day you missed because of pregnancy and breast-feeding, or is it every year until you make that fast?Another thing, I have read in one of your answers (by Br. Ahmad Kutty ?Making Up for Fasting Days Missed Because of Pregnancy?)about the lady who has about 16yrs of missed Ramadans because of pregnancy and/or breast-feeding, and the answer was that she is better off with the paying option since she has lots of missed days and she would have to be fasting almost all the times for couple of years to make up that fast. But is it the same when she has lots of missed days because of the monthly period, that she has never made them up for no specific reason? ( about 10 yrs or so * 7 -9 days a year). She also has missed couple Ramadans for pregnancy and breastfeeding.  Should she consider paying for the Ramadans missed for pregnancy and breastfeeding and making up the ones that she missed for the monthly period?Last thing is, can someone skip fasting because he/she has a cold/ runny nose ( in other words, what goes under being ?sick? when it comes to fasting)? What about the feeling that she wouldn?t have the energy to look after the kids if she was fasting? Also, is feeling the need to throw up and upset stomach ligament for one to miss the fasting or is it part of being fasting??Jazakum Allahu Khair