husband and wife
What is the ruling on a man having intercourse with his wife in the bathroom? Some people take a bath with their wives and may become aroused. Is it permitted?
Respected scholars of Islam, as-Salamu `alaykum! When a husband and wife have to part for a period of time from one another, perhaps because one is leaving on a business trip, etc., what is the proper way to say goodbye to one another? And, should they part with one another without first seeing each other in person? I guess this is kind of a double question. Thank you.
As-salam `alaykum. I would like to ask you about the concept of obedience of a wife to her husband. It is my belief that this relates to religious matters, not to trivial issues such as making a cup of tea when told so. I understand that doing such a thing for one's husband is out of courtesy and a means of strengthening marital relationship; but is this the meaning of obedience? There is much discussion and misunderstanding on the concept of a wife's obedience, so please answer this question as fully as possible, making a clear distinction between courtesy, respect and obedience.JazakumAllahu Khayran.
We would like you to shed light on the case when a husband accuses his wife of committing adultery and thus denies paternity to the child born in their wedlock: is it the husband or the wife's right to ask for a DNA analysis to establish paternity? Could you provide evidence from Shari `ah for what you say in this regard?
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. A man said to his wife, “You are forbidden to me as my sister if you smoke cigarettes again behind my back,” and later on he discovered that she smoked cigarettes behind his back. Is she then considered prohibited for him as a wife? Please tell me the answer. May Allah reward you.
I am a housewife and I like giving in charity. Is it permissible for me to take from the house expenses or food, for example, which are provided by my husband, and give in charity? May Allah reward you!
I have been married for five years now. I experienced very hard psychological and financial problems, which, thanks to Allah, eventually came to an end.I love my wife so much and she loves me, but she always accuses me of not expressing my love to her, and of being practical more than necessary while she is so romantic. She has been repeating such words so many times that I have grown to hate myself recently, though I do my best to ensure happiness for her and for my home. What shall I do?
As-Salamu `alaykum. If a man is unemployed, is it against Islam for him to live on the income of his working wife? Now the only income we have is that which I am earning. My husband thinks that it is haram for him to live on my earnings, even though unemployment is endemic here in Sudan. We are not Sudanese, but came here because I had signed a 3-year contract in January this year, and we married unexpectedly in June. We had hoped that a job would become available for my husband, and he has diligently searched, but nothing has been forthcoming. The job that I am currently occupying is a big step professionally and will allow us to save enough money to buy a home in the near future. I have happily and willingly turned over all funds to my husband, and I know that this situation is of a finite nature, but he grows increasingly concerned that he is not fulfilling his obligation to cater for me. I hope you can allay his fears. Thank you for your help.
As-Salamu `alaykum. It is well known that Islam permits the use of In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF) for the husband and wife who are incapable of normal fertilization. Can the wife use her husband’s frozen sperm kept for future use in case she is divorced or her husband is dead?
Scholars of Islam, as-salamu `alaykum. Can a husband make his wife work outside the house in order to buy unnecessary goods such as a fine car or the like, bearing in mind that he will be bothered if she refuses? What is the Islamic ruling on this?
Scholars of Islam, as-Salamu `alaykum. I’m a Muslim and have a child. I face a serious problem. My husband leaves me for a long time without intercourse because of traveling and I find my self obliged to masturbate. What are the Shari`ah-based rules regarding this issue?
Is population control allowed by Islam? There is population explosion as we all know. It’s right that God knows how to manage its population; He has his own system. The population is decreased by sudden deaths accidents, etc. but their will be economical burden on the head of family if he has 12 children instead of 2. Do u agree with me?
As-Salamu `Alaykum. Is it permitted for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman who is divorced and has kids, if she agrees to embrace Islam?
As-Salamu `alaykum! I would like to inquire whether the wife's property is considered solely hers and to be handled as she deems fit, or her property is considered to be under her husband's assets. In case of death, would the wife's property be distributed according to her will or that of her husband?
I would like to know what Islam says regarding Prenuptial Agreements. I am a Muslim girl and the Muslim boy I may marry would like me to sign a Prenuptial agreement. Although he has not made it a condition for marriage (he will still marry me if I do not agree to one), he says he would like to protect himself and his property in the event of a divorce.Is it okay to agree to such a contract? Is there an Islamic alternative to a Prenuptial Agreement? Even though I know he is a reasonable person, I am a little offended that he has even asked me to sign such an agreement. Does a Muslim man have the right to ask a woman to sign a Prenuptial Agreement? Your advice will be much appreciated on this issue.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it haram (unlawful) for me to ask a potential suitor asking for a marriage if he had any illicit relations with women in his past? I just do not want to marry a brother who has committed adultery or zina for fear he might find it easy to do it again in the near future.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What amount of affection can a husband and wife display in front of their children? Can they hug, kiss lightly, and hold hands in front of their children? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum! Is a husband responsible for paying Zakah on his wife's jewelry that was given to her by her parents at the time of wedding? What if it is difficult for the husband to do so? Also, what constitute everyday jewelry on which you don't have to pay Zakah?
As-Salamu `alaykum! I wonder if it is permissible for husband and wife to pray together as a jama`ah. Then kindly enlighten me on how to perform such prayer.
My question is regarding remarriage of a divorced Muslim woman with her former husband. Under what conditions or circumstances is this permitted? Is it possible for her to remarry him without resorting to a 2nd divorce (meaning marrying someone else and divorcing him first)? I would greatly appreciate your guiding me on this.
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible for a husband to take from his wife’s dowry while she does not agree with that, but she only gives him out of shyness? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum. My question is that I want to know if a wife is not interested in sex, does it become compulsory on her to obey her husband in having sex? Please let me know as I am confused!
Is it allowed in Islam to marry a non-Muslim, with the intention of divorce?
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. "Only two things are obligatory upon the woman; keeping herself ready and prepared [sexually] for her husband and staying in his house" (Commentary on the Forty Hadith of an-Nawawi by Jamaal al Din Zarabozo, p. 18). My question is, does she have to be ready at any cost? Does she have any excuse and if so what are the excuses? What’s obligatory on us from their side? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-salamu `alaykum. I am a twenty-eight year old Muslim woman who has found a man who wishes to marry me. He is a few months older than me and I wish to marry him in the name of Allah. He has come to ask for my hand and my parents have agreed. However, his parents are against the marriage simply because they think I am too old, even though I am younger than him. I am not his parents' type or culture even though he and I love each other.
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. What is the meaning of Allah’s words: “Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so)” (An-Nisa’: 129)? Does it imply that polygamy is prohibited as some claim? Jazakum Allah khayran.
do i have to do ghusl before suhoor ends if i have had sexual intercourse with my wife during the night or can i do ghusl after and will my fasting be accepted.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I read in a book written on Ramadan that if a man has forced his wife to make love to him during the day of Ramadan, she is not sinful and her fasting remains valid and that the husband incurs the whole sin. Is that correct? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. My questions are these: Is it my duty to cook and serve food for my husband during Ramadan when he doesn't fast during the day? He takes medication that is not prescribed by the doctor, and I am sure he does not need to take it three times a day. He doesn't even pray. I am not happy about the situation, and repeated efforts to make him understand that he must pray do not yield any results. He says it's not haram not to pray. He uses this non-prescribed medication as an excuse not to fast. He doesn't make up for it in other ways, though he knows they exist. Jazakum Allah khayran.
Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. While fasting I slept with my wife and had foreplay that led to ejaculation. What should I do to compensate? Jazakum Allahu khayran.
Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible to have intercourse (sex) with husband during Ramadan time? Jazakum Allahu khayran.
My question is regarding Ghusl. Having oral sex with one's wife is allowed but is Ghusl Wajib? And if their having a skin contact (falling short of sexual intercourse) leads to secretion, do they need to make Ghusl, especially in the course of having oral sex? Thanks
As-Salamu `alaykum. What does Islam say about caring for family ties, especially parents, after a woman gets married? Can the husband for any reason forbid his wife from communicating with her family? Is that halal? What is a woman advised to do from the Islamic point of view in such a case?
As-Salamu `Alaykum. I would like to know whether it is necessary to get the permission of one's wife to work abroad for one year or more. I'm working abroad, and I have signed a two-year contract. I have heard that a husband needs his wife's approval to stay away more than four months. Is that right?
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is it Halal to have intercourse with a husband who doesn't pray? He always promises to do so. Also, he sometimes drinks, but Al-Hamdulillah he is not an alcoholic. He promises he'll quit, as his wife is a good Muslim and tries to help him. His character is good but his only faults are these two matters: laziness in praying and drinking from time to time. What is Islam's view on this? Jazakum Allah khayran.
What does the Shari`ah say in regard to the pills that people use to enhance their sexual desire and to be stronger and create more excitement?
Respected scholars! Is a Christian woman who is married to a Muslim required to observe `Iddah after divorce or death of her Muslim husband?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Does a man have the right to enforce the Islamic dress code on his wife against her wishes? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Do I have to divulge my past to a man that could possibly be my prospective husband? I am ashamed of some of the sins I have committed in my past and I have changed my life style drastically. Does he have the right to know if I don't feel comfortable sharing my past, and am afraid he will not talk to me anymore? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a wife ask to be divorced from her sinning (fasiq) husband who neglects prayers? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible for the husband and wife to pool their wealth together in order to meet life expenses? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Does Islam enjoin that a wife should stay at home like an insignificant object, looked down upon and treated like a maid?
I have a question regarding Hajj. One of my friends told me that she read in an authentic book that the cost of a woman's Hajj is not compulsory on her husband. Is this true? Meaning, does a woman have to do her Hajj with her own money not her husband's?
My husband was away on business for five months and after he came back he told me that he’d like to marry a second wife. Hearing him I was upset when I know that his would-be se cond wife lives in Morocco and I am in UK. How can he divide the days equally if he spends more time in Morocco than here in the UK. How can he give us equal treatment? Please reply as soon as possible.
Can a Muslim woman perform Hajj without seeking the permission of her husband?
Is the husband’s verbal commitment before concluding the marriage contract not to marry another woman binding? Bearing in mind that the couple in question have been together for seventeen years and the pledge was given to the wife’s family; yet he threatens to marry another woman.
Dear respected sheikhs, as-salamu `alaykum. I was surprised by the talk of some women. I know them to be God-fearing, and I hear their husbands are righteous and pious. However, they complained greatly and painfully about their husbands. They said that their husbands are selfish, rude, unkind towards them and treat them as slaves. One of them said to his wife, when she was giving him advice, “A woman should never be listened to unless she invites her husband to prayer or fasting.” I know this is not the Islamic way of treatment and mutual respect between husband and wife. What do you have to say about this issue? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Could you please shed more light on the mutual rights of the husband and wife? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible to read articles on how to stimulate your wife sexually?
I would like to ask that whether Islam permits husband and wife to take bath together.
Dear Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. My Christian wife and I are thinking about divorce. We have children. Who is going to bear the responsibilities of our children? Yarhamu kum Allah (May Allah have mercy on you)!
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it haram for a woman to ask her husband for a divorce because he wants to marry another wife? And if she does and he divorces her, is she going to be punished by Allah for that? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. If a Muslim's wife does not follow Islam totally and completely, and the husband does not make her change, will he be considered sinful? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykm. What does ghilah—which is mentioned in the hadith “I intended to prohibit ghilah. . ."—mean? And what is the legal ruling pertaining to it?
As-Salamu `alaykkum. Is it permissible in Islam for a husband and wife to have sex completely naked, while being covered with a black-colored sheet?
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is there such thing as rape in a marriage? Is a wife obligated to do EVERYTHING her husband demands of her? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear Sheikh! There are many uproars nowadays condemning women’s staying at home and blaming Muslim woman for preferring house to having a job. I myself see that the main role of a Muslim woman is her role as a mother and wife. Can you shed light on this?
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. What do you say about a husband who refuses his wife's demand to have sexual intercourse? Does this mean that he will be cursed by angels the same way a woman who does the same act will be cursed? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I read somewhere that during the woman’s menstrual period, it is haram to do sex below the woman’s waist, while it is halal above the waist and there is nothing wrong taking part in sex with husband with upper body only. Is this correct in the light of true Islamic teachings? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `Alaykum. Could you please enlighten me about the Islamic ruling concerning divulging one’s bedroom secrets in public? Some people find no shame in discussing such secrets in public. Is such a thing permissible in Islam? Please cite an evidence in support of your view. Jazakum Allahu Khayran.
Should the husband divorce his wife if she refuses to wear hijab?
As-Salamu `alaykum. If a husband does not allow his wife to work, is it his duty to provide her with spending money for her needs?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a wife who has been living separately from her husband for the past three years because of oppression, ill-treatment and deceit from the husband, divorce the husband even if the husband is not willing? I read from some sources that a wife does not have the right to divorce. If yes, what is the procedure for it? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a husband prevent his wife from attending Islamic women’s gatherings? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. What is the ruling concerning the deferred dowry in case of a wife's death? Should the husband give it as charity? Or should it be considered a right that is relinquished due to her death? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-salamu `alaykum, I am a Muslim woman and I want to know if a woman and a man are obliged to live together when they are married or if they can be married and live separately?
Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to perform Hajj without taking her husband's permission?
If before passing away a man tells his wife to remarry and even tells her whom he would like her to marry, is it wajib (imperative) for her to follow his will?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is a man allowed to have sex with his wife if the maximum time (forty days) for nifas (postpartum bleeding) is not over, but she has stopped her bleeding? She had a stillbirth. Please answer as soon as possible.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Concerning names, is a woman supposed to change her family name to her husband's name after marriage as it is in the West?
Is it permissible to read erotic stories with one's spouse with the aim of increasing one’s pleasure?
Dear sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. I have only contracted nikah (marriage) with my wife with legal papers. But she still lives with her parents’. I am an immigrant in Canada and have applied for her immigration. After her papers come through, I will go there and consummate the marriage and have the walimah (wedding feast). My question is, am I responsible for her food and clothing or any other needs before the marriage is consummated and she is still living with her parents?
As-Salamu `alaykum. I got married four months back. I am a Muslim and try to follow Islam to the best of my ability. During the time of my wife's period (which is usually seven days) I get sexually aroused a lot. I would like to know if, during this time, it is permissible for me to masturbate? If not, is there any other option?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What is the point of view of Islam regarding a husband’s taking his wife’s salary by force? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Is the husband responsible to pay the education fees if his wife is willing to study subjects like Arabic and English for the purpose of knowledge or teaching in the future?
Can a husband look at the naked body of his wife and vice versa? Thank you.
As-Salamu `alaykum!How long can a husband stay away from his wife, e.g., traveling abroad?
As-Salamu `alaykum. I would like to ask whether or not it is permissible for a womon to use sex toys, i.e., vibrators, when her husband cannot satisfy her?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. May a newly-wed man divorce his wife if he discovered that she had lost her hymen? The woman swears by Allah Almighty that she did so by means other than sexual intercourse (such as practicing sport). Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible for the wife to open a personal bank account with her own income, or must she place her income in one account along with her husband's income, from which he could provide for the family? Jazakum Allah khayran.
I am married to a Christian and she wants to eat pork, but one of my Muslim friends told me I can prevent her since the Bible even spoke against it. Can you tell me what the Bible exactly says about that?
Could you please tell me whether a wife can ask her husband for money to buy gifts for her family whom she can only visit once a year, as she is staying in a different country? Should the husband give her? Is it not the husband’s duty to buy gifts for his wife’s family once a year just as he does for his family? Is it right for a husband to delay the debt he owes to his wife’s family when the wife repeatedly tells him that her family is in real need?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. After marriage, what should the husband’s priority be? Is it the wife, who is completely dependent on the husband, or his parents? Am I wrong to ask my husband to live separately from but close to his parents? Does Islam preach that we live in an extended family? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum! Is sucking one’s wife’s breasts haram? Does suckling one’s wife’s breasts make her as one’s mother (i.e., becoming unlawful for him)?
As-Salamu `alaykum. To what extent should a wife obey her husband? Must she agree unconditionally to whatever he says, or can she differ, if there are reasonable grounds? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum. A single woman committed zina (illegitimate sexual intercourse) with a single man. There were no witnesses. She is now married and confessed to her husband about it. Her husband forgave her and she also repented. She would like to be punished according to the Islamic laws. Can her husband lash her 100 times without anyone being present?