husband and wife

asslam o alleikum. Dear Scholar, me and my wife have been away from eachother for more than 8 months and miss eachother alot. To satisfy our sexual deires recently we have been watching eachother on webcamera and pleasing our private parts. I want to know if this is allowed or not?thank You

IF A HUSBAND LEAVE ISLAM IN 2001 AND HIS WIFE GET IT KNOW IN 2003 WHEN SHE COME TO JOIN HIM AN OTHER COUNTRY.tHEY MARRIED IN 1985 AND HAVE 5 CHILDREN BEFORE THIS ACTION. WHAT IS THE STATUS OF THEIR NIKAH ? WHEN SHE ASKED HIM HE SAID THERE WAS NO WAY TO STAY HERE AND GET IMMIGRATION,HE ALSO SAID I AM STILL MUSLIM.HIS WIFE HAS STOPED PERFORMING AS WIFE BUT LIVING AS MOTHER OF CHILDREN. PLEASE JUST TELL ME IF YOU SEE ANAY PROBLEM IN THEIR NIKAH'S STATUS. WASALAM JAVED RANA

How far husband will be responsible for wife not in hijab and if she is not at all ready even husband tells her many times and whats the role of the husband in that case

Dear Scholars Assalamu Alaikum.I have this question about Marriage. I would be very very greatful if one of you taketime to answer my question.My Question is What I know is Marriage in court office is demed legal given that Bride and Groom consented, There are at least 2 Muslim witnesses , Mehr is determined and Wali for Bride gave consent . My question is whether it is necessary for the person who is conducting the marriage to declare the Mehr. If he/she does not declare it loud the Marriage is valid ornot ?Thank you for your time.Allah Hafiz

i have been trying hard to find the answer to this question so please do not ignore, or delay it as much as you can, jazakom allah khairan... I'm a muslim wife, my que stion is about the relation with my husband, is it haram for a woman to perform any act on her body after the sexual process has ended to fulfill her needs? in other words like is it haram for her to kind of squeeze her thighs together after the process is done & the husband might not be next to her, is that masturbation & haram? or is it ok since it's linked to the original halal act which is the relation wtih her husband?

What is the Islamic view regarding the wife giving charity from her husband’s wealth with or without his knowledge?

As Salaamu alyakum.how important to apply (and to wait till it will be granted) for civil divorce (divorce in Western court) if Talaq already has been given long ago?Can I get married again (Nikah) if I am still waiting for the western divorce procedure but finished my Iddah etc.

assalam o alaikum I have a 3 month old daughter, who sleeps in the same room as my husband and me. she sleeps in a seperate crib attached to our bed. we usually donot have sexual intercourse while she is awake. but what i would like to know what the islamic ruling is about this. how long can we let our baby sleep with us in our bed or in a seperate bed but in our room? whats the ruling regarding having intercourse with a child in the room?thanks a lot for your help.

Salaam, Regarding khula, Is the husband entitled to get anything more then the mahr, specifically tuition for education of the wife while married and expenses for minor surgery? Can she separate herself from him while in the process of getting a khula? If a wife asks for khula and her husband refuses what can she do in a country where there are no Islamic courts? JazakAllah

asalam-u-alaikum, i signed my marriage contract (nikah) in summer 2007. i have read many fatwas posted, though all gave me a good understanding but i still need more answer, a bit more specific to me. my wife is a cousin of mine who i have secretly loved (never mentioned to anyone simply prayed to allah that i may marry her someday and that someday finally came) her mother passed away when she was only about 9 or 10 years of age and i felt a lot of pain for her as she would be deprived of a mothers love. after signing the contract we quickly connected as i told her my feelings for her. and i began day by day to carress her more and more to show her my affection, but not goingto the extent of any serious intimacy. my roots are in pakistan and i currently reside in canada studyingengineering, its a culture thing that husband is not to consumate before the marriage ceremony (different from the walimah) although my parents never intervened if we spent time together alone. i told this so you can possibly better understand my questions.now that im back in canada, my wife still in pakistan, we talk over the phone and via the internet, we listen toeach others harships confort each other along the way and show affection for each other everytime. we also indulge in cyber sex and/or phone sex, is this allowed for me and my wife? and i will admit it does relax me when im tenseand vice versa and really helps me guard my gaze. also ive read the fatwa that only 4 months of separation isallowed from one's wife, is this true even if i have not yet consumated?also sometimes she tells me that she really needs me, like be with her, and i feel really bad and useless that i can't satisfy that need of hers. and the same thing goes for me somtimes i feel really alone, somtimes i can'teat properly, sleep is disrupted, i even cry sometimes while reciting surah Ya'sin. i know i have to be patient, but its getting harder n harder im begining to doubt that my prayers are not being accepted because of my own fault. what can i do? also is it ok for me to fantasize about my wife ( ie intimate fantasies)?also, what is the ruling on enlargment remedies for the private parts? one thing how short ca the beard be? my wife asks me shorten it. please provide me answers with as much detail as possible. thank you for listening, may allah bless you and helpeveryone attain jannah. ameen.

Dear Sir, First of all, I'd like to thank you for the efforts you make to give guidance to Muslims around the world. My question is that my wife once called me father. She didn't realize what she has done. This incident occurred for fun. I mean when I asked her why she said it, she told me she called me father without being serious. She didn't mean it, and she was not aware of the consequences. Now I am very confused: Has this caused any harm to our marriage? Or is there any expiation of this, like feeding 60 poor people? Please help. My wife and I love each other so much. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear sir May Allah reward you for answering my question.It is too urgent that requires no delay. I read some fatwa on the necessity of writting marriage If the marriage is not written.IS IT LEGAL OR ZINA,bearing in mind that the two parties agree and there is witnesses , dowary  a party attended by the family .Can one rely on the telepone or webcome to receive the consent  of the WALI  if he lives in an other country or the woman is a widoww

As-salamu `alaykumI am married to a non Muslim women (in sha Allah will help her to convert!)after she finishes her menstruation period she takes a complete full bath But without niyyah  or proper Islamic method of ghusl.am I allowed to have sexual intercourse with her?

Respected scholars, I?m a married Muslim lady and do not have any children. Does my husband have a ?right? in deciding if the time is right for me to pursue my education? Please give me an exact answer; does Allah give the husband the right of deciding about his wife?s education or work? Does his right of ?obedience? extend into my study and work and whether im ready to drive a car or not?  Please help me, as I can?t believe that Allah could be unfair to women. Is the issue of ?obedience? only concerning family issues or also about the wives issues that include when she can go out or what she can wear??thank you very much and appreciate your help.

Assalam u alikum, How are you my Question is that iam getting married next month this is love cum arrange marriage my spouse says that she does not need childern till 2-3 years due to our profession and career she is telling that either she will take birth control pills or do intercourse with condom can you please give me the reaplly whether islam gives permission to this please help me  Allah hafiz

Salam 1.What r the things that a bride must do on the first day of marriage(1st night)... not groom!!! 2.After Caesarian as the women cannot do anything by their own the nurse remove thier surgery dress & put on normal dress.They also put the tube for urine to pass.So they'll see the entire Body(breasts & privates parts) of the women .Is it allowed?Even for 2 to 3 days they forcibly take sponge bath & change the drees.Whats the ruling? 3.again in hospitals after delivery doctors & nurses come & touch the breasts of moms , they squeeze it & they put it in the mouth of babes even if we object.Whats th e fatwa? 4.After delivery in india, it is compulsory that home nurses put oil (maassage) for the entire body of new mom & bathe her up for 40 days.So she'll see the awra.. Whats the ruling?Which all parts must be covered while she makes us bathe? 5.Whats the general ruling of awra while bathing alone... for women?CAn she bath naked?

my brother plans to marry a second time without informing his first wifehe has 3 children from the first wifehe intends to keep the marriage secret . i donot know how long he plans to keep it secret. is this allowed

Assalamalikum I married a second time without the consent of my first wife. Is it permissable.secondly my second wife has left and gone to another country for a job even though i can look after her comfartably .I even do not know what type of job or where and how she got a job for 2 years is the marriage nullified or have i to give her a Talaq(divorce) Please advice Jazakallah

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. How much nudity is allowed during intercourse? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear Respected Scholars,Is it permissable to practice oral sex with my wife during intercourse?Jazakum Allah kull Khair

A friend of mine wants to have children but her husband does not have want to, to such an extent that he uses contraceptives. What is the viewpoint of Islam on this matter?

Alsalam alaikum,1-Islamically, is cooking and cleaning solely part of a womens (married/unmarried)duty? Is it something she must learn to please Allah (SWT)?2- Does a (married/unmarried) women really need to seek permission from a male relative if she's going s omewhere. Especially when the male relative leaves whenever they want, and returns whenever they want. Put in mind that the women might leave to do necesary things like picking up kids from school, paying bills, getting groceries..etc. Letting that person know is understandable but Asking Permission every single time?

Is there such a thing as rape in a marriage, according to Islam?

My question seems to be provocative, so please ignore it if you think so and I will understand the answer is no. I have too wives, would it be possible (halal) that we have sex together?

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I'm married to a non-Muslim woman (in sha' Allah will help her to convert!). After she finishes her menstruation period, she takes a complete full bath but without niyyah (intention) or proper Islamic method of ghusl (ritual bath). Am I allowed to have sexual intercourse with her? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Assalamua AlaikumIs mufa khathat (penis between thigh) are allowed among husband & wife during menses or other time, is there any evidence in the shariah?

Will a muslim wife and a muslim husband live in Jannah together if they are a pious couple as well as love each other a lot.

What are the responsibilities of a married woman towards her parents?

Do I have to repeat my wuduu' if I touched my husbands hand? And same for my husband.

Respected Schollars, Assalamu Alaikum wa rehmatullah! One of my close friends is a married man having 5 children, he is financially in a miserable condition not able to provide properly for the needs of his family and keeps on being very anxious, sad and hopeless for the same. On telling him to keep his family according to his financial limits, he says ´I CAN´T HAVE A WAR WITH GOD TO STOP HAVING CHILDREN´ for the fact that some other muslim told him that family planning is something not appropriate according to islam and that as long as you are married you have to get children.My question is, is it really a war with Allah Almighty for such kind of act? Can we think of having our family (children) according to our financial sources in order to provide them better nurturing, and for the fact that they don´t feel deprived of things that other children have and they do not have, when we (the parents) can´t provide them the same things others have coz we have many children and to come up with thier demands is out of our reach. I would like to help him in this matter after your response. Jazzakum Allahe Khairan wa fe aman Allah!

Assalamo alykom, Dear scholars, I would like to know how often should a man and his wife have sex per week? Is there nat thing in our ahria about that. jazakomo allaho khayran

My wife finds sexual intercourse painful so we havent consumated our marriage in almost a year, this is causing problems in our marriage. Could you please offer me a solution?

Respected Scholar,asalam-o-Aleikom. Is it permissible for a wife to dance for her husband?s pleasure, in the privacy of their own room? If yes, can it be a provocative dance. You might have heard about one of these dances, which includes belly dancing. It is one of the dances that provoke desire and I think it is prohibited in our religion for women to perform it.  But what if a woman performs belly dance for her spouse enjoyment, would it be permissible?  There is one other thing I wanted to ask to make it clear for myself. If a wife is allowed to please her husband by dancing, can she do it with music? Please enlighten me on this topic in the light of Holy Quran and Hadiths. I would appreciate your detailed answer to my questions to increase my knowledge, as these queries come daily in our daily life and we have to clarify them. I also would like to thank you for giving your precious time to our queries. May Allah reward you in this life and the hereafter.

can a husband  kiss his wifes vagina in order to please her and vice versa

Dear Scholar Assalamoalaikum Thanks for providing a plateform where we can discuss our issues openly. I was married a few months ago.My husband is a wonderful man. We have been sexually active for the last two months but ordinary sex does not satisfy me and I am unable to reach orgasm. I want to try new things in bed. Can I ask my husband to lick my clitoris ? I just want him to lick my clitoris not to taste any filth. I remove my pubic hair regularly and wash my genitals after using toilet. I change my panties everyday. So under these conditions,Am I allowed to ask my husband to lick my clitoris ? I have already read articles regarding oral sex on this website but they donot clearly describe whether licking clitoris is allowed or not. My question is not about licking the vaginal opening it is about clitoris only. Clitoris does not have secretions like vagina. So if a man licks it there no filth gets into his mouth.Since I am a doctor so I know that It has been medically proved that Clitoris is the most sensitive area of woman's body and she reaches orgasm easily when it is touched with tongue.

Me and my husband live in a seperate apartmen. We dont have kids yet. The bedroom where we sleep in, has an attached bathroom. Sometimes I urinate in bathroom without closing the door. Is it ok for a couple to use toilet in front of each other or it is necessary to close the door ? Can we take bath together or can I take a bath without closing the door ?

Dear ScholaraOA I married my husband a year ago. I have been sleeping in the nude with him . Recently I have given birth to a baby girl. Now the little girl sleeps with us. Now I sleep in the topless (without shirtand bra ) because it helps me when I breastfeed her. I donot have to get rid of clothes every time I feed her. Can I continue sleeping topless as the baby can not understand anything at all ? By the time she gets mature enogh to understand things I shall stop doing that.

Salam Alaykom. I have a question. My wife apparently does not have orgasms and I would like for her to have them, especially since my wife is upset about it. Is it ok if my wife takes a medicine to help her acheive this and what is islam's ruling on orgasms? Jazakum Allah Khayran

As Salaam O Aleikum. Please answer my question as this is my fourth try in two weeks. Firstly, according to the hadith when a wife is menstruating, it is said "Do Everything Except Intercourse". So if a wife can masturbate her husband, is is permissible for the husband to masturbate his wife during her menses (periods) ?

My case involves a Muslim woman who separated from her husband some time ago and sought refuge and alternative accommodation.due to domestic violence. Her separated husband had sought her out and demanded sex with her; on her refusal he would force her to have sex with him. I understand that If she had no valid excuse then she was sinful in denying him sexually but is the husband sinful for forcing her to have intercourse? If he is not sinful, would it be sinful  for him if forcing her caused her pain. She hasn?t made complaints to the police stating that she is still married to him; and there is no rape in Islam.  What is this woman?s rights given she has separated from her husband and does not wish to have sexual relations with him, is she in a position to make a complaint against him to the Police under the pretence that he is raping her?

Dear respected Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum wa rahamtu Allah wa barakatuh ! Is is permissible for a wife to sing or dance for her husband only without the use of any musical intruments. And can you please clarify what is the ruling using daf (tambourine) between the two spouses. Jazak Allah Khayr

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. If a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim women, is there a specific time restriction to make her convert or doesn't she have to convert her at all? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Assalamualaikum wrt. Fadhilah syeikh, what is the real meaning of fiance or khitbah?does when a man said to a woman that he want to marry him and she tell her father about that and her father agree with that considered as khitbah?or we must done the a ceremony for that?Jazakumullah khair

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Some Indian newspapers reported that some Indian Muslim scholars in India 's eastern state of West Bengal ordered a couple to separate after hearing that the husband had uttered the divorce word thrice in his sleep. Could you please enlighten me if uttering the word "divorce" while sleeping renders the divorce as valid. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Is it allowed or forbidden to ejaculate between your wife's buttocks and outside her anus?

As-salamu `alaykum. What should a man do if he finds his wife making love to another man? Can he kill both of them?

What If wife and husband both go in Jannah, but one of them go in higher jannah.

Assalam o Alaikum! Question regarding husband and wife intimacy. Is it permissible for husband or wife both, to touch or finger the anal region of each other during the act of intimacy? As we know the anal sex is not permitted. Does such touching also come under this restriction? Is there some definition of oral sex?

Assalamu AlaikumI know sexual intercourse is forbidden during menses, however is it permissible to engage in mutual masturbation to achieve climax (ejaculation for men)?Kindly provide any evidence from the shariaThanking you

I am engaged and I will register my marriage at the court in the next couple of weeks. I just want to know what is Halal to do with my fiancé and what is not in the period between our marriage registration and the official wedding? I appreciate your efforts.

My wife does not observe the religious obligation regarding the way she dresses, and one of my children does not perform Prayer. To what extent am I responsible for that?

As salam o alykum. I hope that you will be in best of health and faith. I am 24 years old girl and I got married more then 1 year before and I have spent very good time with my husband. Now Alhamdulillah I have a baby of 2 months. I am regularly breastfeeding him. My husband wants also to drink my breast milk and he has often tried to suck but I didn?t have allowed him although he has tried too much. And now he is angry with me because of my continuously deny. His behavior has become very rude with me from last few days. I want to know the point of view of Islam regarding to breastfeeding to husband. Is that allowed in Islam? If no then how should I behave with my husband if he pressurizes me? I also want to know more that will it be wrong and sin for him (my husband) if he takes my breast milk? ok if he do not kill the right of baby and only drink milk at that time when the baby's need becomes fulfill then is that morally and Islamically right? And can you provide me any evidences of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)'s life regarding to the above matter?Please reply me soon because I don?t want to see my husband angry with me. Please tell me the easiest way because I cannot live without him and I also want to follow the rules of Islam. I shall be very thankful to yo u. if u dont want to send answer on the board then plz reply me on my email id, which is "[email protected]" . Your Islamic sister, Khansa Jibran

My mother is constantly trying to turn me against my husband.  When I defend him (always speaking in a respectful way), she gets upset. She also provides me advice that, if I followed, would lead to my husband divorcing me. I love my husband greatly and have never complained about him to her or said anything bad about him.    She says I must put her first, not my husband.  What would the islamic ruling be in this situation?

Bismi Allahi Erhaman errrahimRespected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum.I am writing to you regarding a woman whose husband has recently died (Allah yerahmou).During their common life, this man, his wife and their four children were living from the income issued from a grocery store which was his property.This man was very fair towards his family and always had fulfilled his duty as devoted husband and father. His family never lacked of anything and he was always giving money to his children and/or his wife whenever they needed.However, his wife has for several years putting aside extra  cash money (in addition to the money she was receiving from him) by taking several times and for several years from the grocery store cashier without that her husband knows anything about it.She was operating either by herself or with the help of some of her children who obeyed rather with fear to her orders.According to this woman this money (which is worth several thousands of euros) was put aside for security in case of "financial bad times" (Only God knows the truth)Now that her husband has passed away, she has no more chances in this earth to tell him about her actions.This woman asked me to contact you by email to known if what she was doing is haram or not, and if it the case what does she have to do with the whole amount of money in order to be safe in front of God and in front of her husband el youm el quiyama inchallah.Thanks for your answer.Jazakum Allahu khayran

Asalam alaikum,I will like to know if Islam permit the use of contraseptic to stop pregnancy, in a situation where a couple can witstand sextual relations for as many times as possible which can limit the chance of the man looking for a second wife that he couldn't cater for or maintain equality. Jasakallah Khairan

My wife started bleeding on Friday and her period normally lasts 5-7 days, she stopped bleeding on Sunday but had a slight discharge, On Monday morning she had a shower and did not bleed for the whole day. We had sexual relations on Monday night. Were we correct in having relations or did we commit a sin, If we were wrong what should we do to avoid this in the future and how can we make up for it?

Assalaamu Alaikum. I would very much appreciate it if you can email the answer of this question to me becuz I feel shy to have it posted on the web for anyone to see. So metimes my husband feels lazy to have intercourse so he ask me to masturbate him. Sometimes this means that his private parts do not touch mine. Is ghusl obligatory on me in this case?? Jazakallah Khairan for your advice.

Assalamu aalikum wa rahmatu Allahi Ta'ala wa barakatuhu!Respected scholar and brother in Islam, may a muslimah associate two reasons for doing ghusl?She is sure her menses are over. She is going to do ghusl but her husband needs her. Must she do ghusl two times for each reason, or may she do only once for the two reasons?Jazakallahu khayran

alsalm we alaikom my wife ask me frequently to fuck her from ass?

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. Is it haram for a husband to put his finger inside his wife's vagina or anus? Thank you.

Dear Scholar,Assalamu Alaikum,I would like to know if it is permissible for a husband to caress and touch with hands his wife anal during intracourse for excitementJazakum ALLAH

Sometimes when I pray in my room, my wife used to change her cloths. Will my prayer be accepted?

Alsalam alaikum, 1-Islamically, is cooking and cleaning solely part of a womens (married/unmarried)duty? Is it something she must learn to please Allah (SWT)? 2- Does a (married/unmarried) women really need to seek permission from a male relative if she's going somewhere. Especially when the male relative leaves whenever they want, and returns whenever they want. Put in mind that the women might leave to do necesary things like picking up kids from school, paying bills, getting groceries..etc. Letting that person know is understandable but Asking Permission every single time?"

aslam-u-alaikum i have recently got married and would like to know the duties of a wife towards her husband.jazakallah

As-salamu `alaykum.has it been written anywhere or stated in Shari`ah that having children one after another is not right as the mother doesn't get "rest"? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Asalam-u-Alaikum, I signed the marriage contract in summer 2007. I'm going to visit my wife this summer (2008), we have not consummated since marriage ceremony has not taken place yet. it will be almost a year after the signing of the contract that I see my wife. My question is am I allowed to sleep with her? what if parents don't allow it? Am I allowed to demand my right to sleep with her (if I have this right)?Wasalam,

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. If the husband wants to sleep with his wife but she does not want to and she is not sick and there is nothing wrong with her; she just does not like it, so he ends up sleeping with her by force, is this allowed in Islamic jurisprudence? Is this considered a kind of a rape? Today many self-styled Islamic clerics claim that this is totally permissible according to the authentic narrations of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

salamaleykum. I would like to ask a question about pregnancy. I found some days ago that I am pragnant, and have baby of two month. I and my husband want this baby, but we did not plan to make baby so we did not pray before making this baby. Now we are worrying about this, because we did not pray before. Please let us know if it is good or not to give birth to baby, and what should we do.

as salam alaikum, iam married by contract and my husband is currently out of town, so we contact each other through msn,he does cyber sex which i dont feel comfortable doing. i wanted to ask you if cyber sex is halal or not in this situation? jazakum allah khair..

Assalamalikoum. I would like to know whether it is lawful to pronounce a divorce on the phone (my wife is temporariliy in another country visiting her parents) and if yes, if she can wait a few days before coming to me (her flight ticket is in 2 weeks time inchaallah). Then how long does she exactly need to stay in my home?

Assalamalikoum. I want to know whether it is lawful during the period of idda' for a divorced couple to practice masturbation as the tentation is high, living together. I don't find sexual intercourses being a valid reason for reconciliation. Jazakoumou'Allahou kheyr.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Why does Islam give importance to reconciling between quarrelling spouses as soon as possible? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto,Ontario, Canada, states: “It is perfectly all right to eat and drink and cook after sexual union before performing the ritual bath (ghusl). There is nothing in the authentic sources of Islam to suggest otherwise. One of the important principles to

Should I stay marry with a woman I don't love?

Dear Scholar/s, My question is about artifical/synthetic hair that is stiched to the original hair to lengthen and give body to existing hair, which normally lasts for 1 to 2 years.  Please advise if this is allowed. In my case I am considering it strongly for the purpose of making my relationship with my husband better and keeping him from straying (he is of weak character and always interested in other women & has cheated on me many times too). Since having kids I've become overweight and naturally i have thin hair, which has gotten worse since the children. I am trying to make myself attractive to my husband and hair is one of his weaknesses, hence I am contemplating the idea of artifical hair. Please note: I observe hijab strictly and Alhumdulliah, no man other than my husband will benefit from my change. Please advise.

Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Is it a wife’s responsibility to cook food, clean the house, and fetch household stuff from the market? Can the husband force the wife to do all this? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Respected scholars, please enlighten me on what Shari`ah says on the rate of wife’s sustenance? May Allah reward you!

As-salamu `alaykum. My wife has admitted to committing adultery. However, she says she has repented, and vows never to do it again. What should I do in this case? Am I to divorce her? I do not know what my Islamic duty is in this case.

As-Salamu `Alaykum. I am a married American Muslimah. Are emotional abuse and neglect suitable grounds for divorce (for women) in Islam and how can one prepare one's self to prove emotional abuse and neglect since these things bruise you on the inside, not on the outside?

If a woman lost her virginity as she made a mistake and repented, should she reveal this to her prospective spouse? Is it in the admittance of sin within that which should be disclosed before marriage? Jazakum Allah Khayran!

Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. I would like to know, after marriage, should one obey one's husband in opposition to the father, or vice versa? That is, if my husband wants me to do something different from what my father/mother want, should I obey him or my parents? Jazakum Allah khayran.

I have been married for almost a year now. My husband had been living in America for the past few years and I joined him here after marriage. When I came here, I discovered that he is involved in a lot of un-Islamic practices like drinking and such. I, however, try my best to cope with all these, as he is a very nice person aside from all that. However, the major problem I face is in wearing hijab. He doesn’t like me wearing it because he says it embarrasses him to be seen with me anywhere he goes. He doesn’t take me when he is out with his friends and says we can’t do a lot of activities because of my scarf. I take all this, but it has now come to the point where he stops talking to me for days entirely because he is upset about my scarf. I know I can’t take it off and I don’t want to take it off, but what to do? I don’t know any solution for it. From what I have seen, my family and his will tell me to take it off for peace between me and him. This problem is making me miserable. Please help.

As-Salamu `alaykum! What are the restrictions on husband’s jealousy? And does his extreme jealousy justify accusing his wife of anything evil?

I have been married for almost 20 years and we have 5 children. We have had a good marriage and have tried to raise our children and live our life according to Islamic values.However, I recently got to know that my husband has been having an affair with a non-Muslim woman for the last year. He says it didn't involve sex, but he spent a lot of time with her and was physically intimate. He knows this is wrong, but having done this, he feels responsible for her and will not give the relationship up. At the same time, he does not want to marry her. I am really shocked, stunned and heartbroken. I have tried to be patient and to encourage him to give up this haram relationship. Even our imam has talked to him. But he will not stop talking to her and seeing her. Do I have grounds for divorce? I cannot live like this, and I am frightened of the effect on my children, especially the teenagers, if they find out about their father's relationship. It's as if my husband has a totally new personality.

As-Salamu `alaykum! I am currently considering someone to be my wife. I have asked my sister to ask the person some questions regarding her aspirations and attitude to family life. Would it be permissible for me to eavesdrop the phone chats made by my sister and my would-be wife without the latter’s knowledge? Would this be considered spying? The only reason I would want to do this is because I feel the girl I am considering is more likely to give a true impression of herself to my sister rather than myself. I am aware of a hadith about a man hiding behind a tree to observe his potential spouse: what is the relevance of this?

As-salamu `alaykum. How can we balance between loving our kids and disciplining them? What are the best discipline strategies in the West?

I am a married woman and I agreed with my husband that he should give me a sum of money each month to provide for the household expenditures. However, from that money, I give alms for my neighbors who are in dire need So will I be rewarded for doing so? Or shall I take my husband’s permission before paying such alms?

Dear scholars, As-Salam u `alaykum. My marriage contract was witnessed by three witnesses, two of whom signed as witnesses. Then we discovered that one of the two witnesses was unrighteous, for he does not observe Prayer. Is the marriage contract considered valid in this case, or should it be redone with two righteous witnesses? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. A young man who is religiously straight and of good morals, education, and suitable soc ial class has proposed to a young woman whom he is in love with. He is diabetic, but there is nothing wrong about his character. The young woman’s family has refused him because of his disease, in spite of the fact that their daughter agrees to marry him. Do the parents have the right to refuse a man proposing to their daughter for nothing but that he is diabetic? Is their objection in this case lawful or not? And what can the daughter do to persuade them to give their consent to the marriage? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. I am a married woman and I have children. My husband is ill-tempered and has bad morals. I bear my life with him patiently, satisfied with what Almighty Allah has predestined for me. But I would like to ask if I am to get a reward from Almighty Allah for my patience in this regard. As well as this, I would like to know if Almighty Allah may compensate me with a better husband in Paradise, for I do not want to be married to my current husband in the Hereafter. In fact, I always pray to Almighty Allah that He will not make me a wife of my current husband in the Hereafter. Is that possible? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `Alaykum. I am 26 years old, married and I am currently studying. My husband and I agree to postpone begetting children. However, we fear that such an action is Haram. Could you please furnish us with a comprehensive Fatwa regarding the issue? Jazakum Allahu Khyaran.

What are the specifications of a wife's lodging according to Shar`iah?

Can a husband and wife think sexually of each other when they are apart, i.e., living far away from each other?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is a wife allowed to sleep next to her fasting husband when she has her menstrual period? Jazakum Allah khayran.

It is known that polygamy—more correctly, polygyny—is allowed in Islam. I would like to know the point of view of Islam if a Muslim living in a Western country, where polygamy is regarded unlawful, has to have a second wife due to some reasons.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible to make love to my fiancée` once our marriage contract is signed and finalized but before we have our wedding ceremony? Could you please elaborate on how should the relationship between the spouses be during this period according to Shari`ah and customs? Some parents are very strict in this regard to the extent that they prevent the married couple to be alone with one another? Jazakum Allah khayran.

A woman was married to a man who used to drink alcohol, beat her, and treat her badly. She ran away from him to another country with her child to marry another man who did not know that she had already been married. The second husband knew the fact after the death of the first husband. What is the ruling of the Shari`ah on this case? What is the ruling on the marriage contract with the second husband? Should she return to him with their first contract or should there be a new contract? Does she have to observe `iddah (waiting period) for her first husband?

Is it allowed or accepted Islamically for people to use Viagra or other kinds of drugs to enhance their sexual pleasure?

I am a Muslim youth and I want to marry a Christian girl, but she is underage, so her father is to be a proxy for her in marriage. Does Islam stipulate that women of the People of the Book also are to have proxies on marrying Muslim men, and if so, is this a must even if their proxies are non-Muslims?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. The law of courts in the State of Virginia stipulates that whoever wants to marry should have permission from one of the local courts, after which he may conclude the marriage contract according to his own religious beliefs. So I would like to know the ruling pertaining to the marriage contract concluded by a non-Muslim official or that concluded by a priest in the church between a Muslim and a Christian woman. Jazakum Allah khayran.