husband and wife

Having Intimacy with Wife After Contracting Marriage and Before Consummation

asalam-u-alaikum, i signed my marriage contract (nikah) in summer 2007. i have read many fatwas posted, though all gave me a good understanding but i still need more answer, a bit more specific to me. my wife is a cousin of mine who i have secretly loved (never mentioned to anyone simply prayed to allah that i may marry her someday and that someday finally came) her mother passed away when she was only about 9 or 10 years of age and i felt a lot of pain for her as she would be deprived of a mothers love. after signing the contract we quickly connected as i told her my feelings for her. and i began day by day to carress her more and more to show her my affection, but not goingto the extent of any serious intimacy. my roots are in pakistan and i currently reside in canada studyingengineering, its a culture thing that husband is not to consumate before the marriage ceremony (different from the walimah) although my parents never intervened if we spent time together alone. i told this so you can possibly better understand my that im back in canada, my wife still in pakistan, we talk over the phone and via the internet, we listen toeach others harships confort each other along the way and show affection for each other everytime. we also indulge in cyber sex and/or phone sex, is this allowed for me and my wife? and i will admit it does relax me when im tenseand vice versa and really helps me guard my gaze. also ive read the fatwa that only 4 months of separation isallowed from one's wife, is this true even if i have not yet consumated?also sometimes she tells me that she really needs me, like be with her, and i feel really bad and useless that i can't satisfy that need of hers. and the same thing goes for me somtimes i feel really alone, somtimes i can'teat properly, sleep is disrupted, i even cry sometimes while reciting surah Ya'sin. i know i have to be patient, but its getting harder n harder im begining to doubt that my prayers are not being accepted because of my own fault. what can i do? also is it ok for me to fantasize about my wife ( ie intimate fantasies)?also, what is the ruling on enlargment remedies for the private parts? one thing how short ca the beard be? my wife asks me shorten it. please provide me answers with as much detail as possible. thank you for listening, may allah bless you and helpeveryone attain jannah. ameen.

Taking Husband’s Money without His Permission

Bismi Allahi Erhaman errrahimRespected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum.I am writing to you regarding a woman whose husband has recently died (Allah yerahmou).During their common life, this man, his wife and their four children were living from the income issued from a grocery store which was his property.This man was very fair towards his family and always had fulfilled his duty as devoted husband and father. His family never lacked of anything and he was always giving money to his children and/or his wife whenever they needed.However, his wife has for several years putting aside extra  cash money (in addition to the money she was receiving from him) by taking several times and for several years from the grocery store cashier without that her husband knows anything about it.She was operating either by herself or with the help of some of her children who obeyed rather with fear to her orders.According to this woman this money (which is worth several thousands of euros) was put aside for security in case of "financial bad times" (Only God knows the truth)Now that her husband has passed away, she has no more chances in this earth to tell him about her actions.This woman asked me to contact you by email to known if what she was doing is haram or not, and if it the case what does she have to do with the whole amount of money in order to be safe in front of God and in front of her husband el youm el quiyama inchallah.Thanks for your answer.Jazakum Allahu khayran