husband and wife

I am about to get married and there is something that is bothering me a great deal. I have done a medical checkup and found out that I have herpes. I have been taking medications for this disease in order to prevent or suppress the virus from transferring. I talked to my doctor and she said that the medication would almost guarantee that the virus would not be transmitted. I have been hesitating to tell the truth to my fiancée. I am afraid that this will cause problems and I can't get married. Should I inform my fiancée of my disease?

I've been married for some years, but for the last 15 months my wife has refrained from engaging in sexual intercourse with me citing many reasons. She said that she does not feel well and that she is losing desire for sex and men. Am I permitted to seek sexual gratification outside marriage? What other alternatives do I have?

I have proposed to a girl. However, her father has requested a high dower (around 30,000$) only to be registered in the marriage contract (not to be paid in advance). Please inform me about the religious and the law commitments in case of my agreement on his request and what is the Islamic opinion on the high dower that is only registered on the marriage contract but not paid?

As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a Muslim living in France, and I am married to an Arab. I deputized my father to divorce my wife on my behalf in front of an Arab court. However, I do not have the intention of divorcing her. I just want to do that to be able to get the needed official papers that prove that I am single. By proving so, I would be able to marry a French woman here to acquire the nationality because the law in France does not approve of having more than one wife. The problem is that I do not want to leave my wife, so what is the Islamic ruling for such a divorce?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a German. My husband and I were married in Germany according to German law. I was Christian and then converted to Islam after my marriage. Some time ago my husband got to know that we have to be married Islamically, so that our marriage would be legal. So we decided to do this. But then my husband found out about a hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) which states that there has to be a wali for a Muslim woman in order for her marriage to be legal. But when my husband asked the person in charge of Islamic marriage measures (the Imam of the local mosque) whether there has to be a wali for me, the Imam said that this is not necessary for a woman who doesn’t live with her parents any more. I was a thirty-six-year old woman and lived on my own. We had our wedding with two Muslim witnesses and with the Imam, but without a wali. So we are worried concerning the Prophetic hadith which my husband knows. We want to know whether our marriage is Islamically legal or not. What should we do? Please give us your sincere advice. Jazakum Allah khayran.

I am a Christian woman married to a Muslim man. Before marriage, I asked him if it is ok that I remain Christian, for I didn't want to convert. He said it was ok and that it did not disturb him at all. After we had been married for six months he said one day that I have to become a Muslim otherwise he’d leave (divorce) me. This was totally a shock to me and it disturbed me a lot to the extent that I wept for many days. I love him very much, but I don't know what to do. Is it right for him to do this? Please give some advice.

As-Salamu `alaykum. I embraced Islam a year ago. I have been married to a pious Christian woman now for 10 years and we have two daughters, ages 6 and 2 years.My wife refuses to raise them as Muslims but insists that they should be exposed to both religions and make a choice when they become of age. They hear all about Islam from me, ask questions about the Qur'an, prayers, etc., and I answer them.Some brothers claim that I can't be a Muslim because of this. I perform my prayers and I am learning Arabic. Everyone who knows me sees what a good change this has made for me, but this is starting to worry me. Is it true that I can't be a Muslim because of this?

As-Salamu `alaykum. One year after marriage, I divorced my wife due to disagreement and her excessive demands, which I could not meet because of my humble financial state, as I am married to another and I have chi ldren from the latter.I traveled with my first wife to let her visit her family, and it happened that I divorced her there and came back home. About one month later, I had to meet her in a hotel in her country to give her back her belongings. While we were alone there, we kissed and hugged lustfully out of missing each other. Now the `iddah (waiting period during which divorce is revocable) has passed, and now I want to remarry her. So, do I have to remarry her with a new marriage contract, or are the kissing and hugging we did regarded as legal remarriage? Keep in mind that I did not have the intention of remarrying her when we kissed and hugged.

Assalamu 'alaikum I have come to learn from my friend that her husband does not follow the halal and haram of marrital relations during her monthly period, mainly that he still continues intimate relations, dispite her telling him it is haram. My question is regarding how responsible she will be held for his action? and since she is involved also what will be her punishment? she has been married for more that 10 yrs. and has 4 children, and so leaving him is a really hard thing for her to do. what is her religious obligation at this point? and how can she minimize her punishment? Jazak Allah

asamualykum warahmatullahi wabarakatudear scholars, i need to know the exact words that invalidate the marriage, the allusive words that doesn't invalidate the marriage. jazakumullah

In the first place, Islam acknowledges the difference between couples’ personalities and inability to blend in together sometimes however, we would like to stress that Islam considers divorce to be the most hated of all the permissible acts in the Sight of Allah. It is each spouses’ role to enhance the positive aspects and guide

Salaamoe aleikoem,I am maried for 5 months now and i love my wife very much and our marriage is going fine alhamdulilah.the only things that bothers me is that my wife in some cases talks much with males I mean salespersons. She is very spontaneous and sometimes laughs with them and make jokes and the I feel like she is playing with them. There was a guy who was working in a butcher who even asked her if she married because she was very special. My holiday in morocco was a difficult one because it happpend al the time when she is buying things she starts a whole conversation with the saleperson about different things in life. Sometime its an old man but even then. I am tired of people who ask if I am here husband it makes me feel bad. She also exaggerate in greeting when she leaves the store like"May Allah bless you may Allah protect you etc etc".My question is how far can a woman be spontaneous and  in talking from a islamic view? I know jalousy isn't good but am i jealous?( because my wife says i am). And what are the boundery of this form of caracter?May Allah reward you wa salaamoe aleikoemAbdel aziz

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum, i am an egyptian moderate muslim who prays and fasts and follows sunna as much as i can , i got married one and half a year ago , my husband suspects everything although i dont go out for long days ? for 10 or 15 days i dont see the street- as i am a foriegner at this country , i know no one but my husband i just go out of home with him even for the market. ?t is the second time since we r married that he accuses me of cheating him, he thinks that i may have a relationship and i get men at home while he is at work , and i am wallahi never thought of such an idea and i dont do anything that might make him suspect ,even i told him u make me feel insecure that i dont want to think of a baby because u might ask me whose baby is this and his answer was that he will make the DNA test!!! i married him and i was virgin nothing in my past to make him say that really am innocent from all his accusations i am wearing hijab too.i told him that its so bad to accuse a pure woman for her chastity...and i was crying, he told me when u cry u make me feel that i am right , but i was crying because i felt  injustice and lonliness,and if i told my family about what is going on everything will b destroyed,i really love him so much and am sure he do too, what can i do?shall i end this marriage? And i want a proof from qur'an or hadith that support that situation. Jazakum Allah khayran

If wife passes away while the husban has not paid her Mahar as it was agreed to be paid at a latter stage "Moakhaar". Will the husband in this case inherit 1/4 of this Mahar which should be paid to the sons and daughters. Furthermore, the husband passed away before settling the Mahar to his sons and daughters as her parents were not alive when she passed away. What should be done in this case, should 3/4 of Mahar be paid to the sons and daughters and 1/4 put back for sharing among all other sons and inheritants?

Im a married women,since14yrs.the issue here is the rigid and xtremely egoistic temperament of my husband.after reading alot about his attitude and behavoir,i found out he has passive aggressive disorder.He only fulfills his responsiblity to feedus,house us,and clothe us.thats all.no compassion,no quality time with me or kids,tries to avoid communication,and intimacy.gets angry at mino r things.kids and i dont like the duration now when he is at home. Ihave tried my level best to communicate with him via face to face talk,email,letters,and sms.no use.hopeless case.he says there is no problem with him,its in my thinking and im putting too much pressure on him.i feel resolving the issues of discord as soon as they come between us is very practicle and should not be ignored.He is perfect,his high social status and too much pampering from his family,whom he gives lots of money and expensive gifts,make him believe to be perfect and avery nice human being,nobody will understand my view.he shows his best side to the world and at home just the opposite. My kids see worst of married life,is there any solution to my problem,i make lots of duas 5 times for this issue.any other solution you can think of please.thankyou.

As-salamu-alikum,I have been married for almost two years. My wife was not brought up in religious manner by her parents.as a result she is very careless about islamic mandatory duties like prayer. I have been trying hard to pursuade my wife to be regular and serious in prayer which sometimes result in very bad situation between us. My question to the respected scholars is what should I do in this case? As a husband Should I be accountable to Allah if she does not pray or does not do her mandatory islamic duties?Please inform me and guide me what should I do to bring peace in my marriage life?Jazakum Allah

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. If a husband says to his wife, "Get out of this house!" in anger while keeping in mind that in that moment he doesn't want to see his wife for a while. Later on, he clams down and is ready to live with his wife as if nothing happened. Is this considered a divorce? Jazaka Allahu khayran.

i have 3 children the youngest being 7 months & i am pregnant (5 week)i found it very difficult with the last baby  both emotionaly & medicaly & to think i am have to go through all of it again would detroy my well being as a mother to my other children & therefore i am considering to abort this pregnancy for the well being of myself & my family, please advice

Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaikum. My question is regarding Obedience to one?s Husband. I have been constantly bombarded with fights and challenges when it comes to my wife having issues when it comes to listening to me due to the fact that if she listens to me it would mean she is lowering herself. She know that I listen to her so it?s not a problem of I don?t listen to her.  She fights for 50-50 in almost everything. I told her that as the Husband and the man of the house she has to respect my position, but she is not a person who if someone say to jump she would ask how high.the last fight I would explain to help you to understand what I am going through and would hope that you can give guidance. One of her guy friends brother had died recently, however, the friend is a person whom I dislike not the deceased, the brother who would be present at the funeral. My wife wanted to go to the funeral to show her respects. However, I informed her that I would not be comfortable with her going. She didn?t accept, she didn?t see anything wrong with going and so even though I was disturbed about it she still insisted on going and still went.  She is saying what about what she wants to do, she says it?s not like she is going to do anything inappropriate she is just going to meet her friends. Is this a sufficient excuse for her to go to the funeral even though her Husband is requesting that he would not like her to go because he is not comfortable and also not in the country? Should I have lightened up due to the fact that it?s a death; let me add further that it was not a Muslim funeral. I trust my wife however, if I am displeased with her going, is her excuse for going valid? I told her she could have sent a card or called the person whom I still dislike, or if I was in the country we would have both gone together, just I ask that you don?t go to the funeral.  This was still not enough because she still went to the funeral and met her friends and she was fine. She didn?t see anything wrong and I being displeased was not enough for her not to go because in her mine although I dislike the person she justified that it?s a death. How do you picture this situation and what do u foresee. I must add that I didn?t want her to go based on the fact that the deceased brother had a likeness for my wife whom she would meet at the funeral, I am not jealous but I prefer to eliminate risk instead of outing fires. She would be going to the funeral to send condolences and sympathy to the person whom I don?t like, cause at the time of meeting my wife this person knew that I was intending to be with her yet still he would want to be a close friend to her and she allowed it due to that fact that we were not married as yet or not close as yet. Can you please give guidance based on what is right as a Muslim married couple because we are trying to live an Islamic life?how can someone expalin to a woman that Man is the head? And it is equity not equality? Men are facing lots of problems with women when it comes to roles and responsibilities being mixed up.thanking you in advance and wish that you could answer my question in detail concerning the issue with the funeral and guidance for married women.

what things wife and husband should perform before umrah?

Respected scholar, as-salamu `alaykum. My father married his second wife seven years ago. Since then, he has not bothered to even look at my mother (first wife) nor with his sons and daughter from his first marriage, although we made no fault on our side. He has not been supporting my mother either financially or otherwise since then. He stays separately with his second wife. I have three questions: 1. What are the responsibilities of the husband (my father) to his first wife? 2. Is the relationship deemed void or is it automatically terminated? 3. My mother has plans set to go in 10 days on her second Hajj. My father was asked, and permission was granted by him  six months back. All preparations and planning for Hajj were done: Tickets paid for, visa issued, and things spent for. Now, my father suddenly has a change of mind and tells my mother that he does not give his permission for her to go for Hajj. What is the ruling, on such grounds, on seeking the permission of one's husband on going for Hajj? I tried reasoning with my father, but he seems to be adamant for no particular reason other than making things difficult for us.a local imam told me that although permission from the husband is necessary, I need to consider only the first time that was asked and permitted by him; any later change of mind does not count. Please help me in clarifying this situation. Jazakum Allahu k hayran

My friend & I are in saudi arabia. My friends wife is in india. they got married in June'05. He registered for Haj for his wife from india who will come to Makkah directly from india. my firned doubt and the question is, as his wife is comming 20 days before Haj, Can he stay with his wife and have sexual relationship with her. Please advice Urgently as the Haj is very near. Jazakallah Khair.

As-salamu `alaykum. How can we balance between loving our kids and disciplining them? What are the best discipline strategies in the West?

Respected scholars, I?m a married Muslim lady and do not have any children. Does my husband have a ?right? in deciding if the time is right for me to pursue my education? Please give me an exact answer; does Allah give the husband the right of deciding about his wife?s education or work? Does his right of ?obedience? extend into my study and work and whether im ready to drive a car or not?  Please help me, as I can?t believe that Allah could be unfair to women. Is the issue of ?obedience? only concerning family issues or also about the wives issues that include when she can go out or what she can wear??thank you very much and appreciate your help.

Salam 1.What r the things that a bride must do on the first day of marriage(1st night)... not groom!!! 2.After Caesarian as the women cannot do anything by their own the nurse remove thier surgery dress & put on normal dress.They also put the tube for urine to pass.So they'll see the entire Body(breasts & privates parts) of the women .Is it allowed?Even for 2 to 3 days they forcibly take sponge bath & change the drees.Whats the ruling? 3.again in hospitals after delivery doctors & nurses come & touch the breasts of moms , they squeeze it & they put it in the mouth of babes even if we object.Whats th e fatwa? 4.After delivery in india, it is compulsory that home nurses put oil (maassage) for the entire body of new mom & bathe her up for 40 days.So she'll see the awra.. Whats the ruling?Which all parts must be covered while she makes us bathe? 5.Whats the general ruling of awra while bathing alone... for women?CAn she bath naked?

ASLAMU ALAIKUM.  this site gave me oppurtunity to ask such a question which i cant ask anyone alse.i hope u will guide. i m very shy and thats why i dont want to discuss this topic with any one.and i m sorry if i have asked a bad question.actually i want to know how sex is performed.i mean how married partners do?  what act they perform and what they do and how they do.?how the act of sex is done or performed? thanx

Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible for a husband to take from his wife’s dowry while she does not agree with that, but she only gives him out of shyness? Jazakum Allah khayran.

I am a married woman and I agreed with my husband that he should give me a sum of money each month to provide for the household expenditures. However, from that money, I give alms for my neighbors who are in dire need So will I be rewarded for doing so? Or shall I take my husband’s permission before paying such alms?

What is the ruling on a man having intercourse with his wife in the bathroom? Some people take a bath with their wives and may become aroused. Is it permitted?

I have been married for almost 20 years and we have 5 children. We have had a good marriage and have tried to raise our children and live our life according to Islamic values.However, I recently got to know that my husband has been having an affair with a non-Muslim woman for the last year. He says it didn't involve sex, but he spent a lot of time with her and was physically intimate. He knows this is wrong, but having done this, he feels responsible for her and will not give the relationship up. At the same time, he does not want to marry her. I am really shocked, stunned and heartbroken. I have tried to be patient and to encourage him to give up this haram relationship. Even our imam has talked to him. But he will not stop talking to her and seeing her. Do I have grounds for divorce? I cannot live like this, and I am frightened of the effect on my children, especially the teenagers, if they find out about their father's relationship. It's as if my husband has a totally new personality.

As-salam `alaykum. I would like to ask you about the concept of obedience of a wife to her husband. It is my belief that this relates to religious matters, not to trivial issues such as making a cup of tea when told so. I understand that doing such a thing for one's husband is out of courtesy and a means of strengthening marital relationship; but is this the meaning of obedience? There is much discussion and misunderstanding on the concept of a wife's obedience, so please answer this question as fully as possible, making a clear distinction between courtesy, respect and obedience.JazakumAllahu Khayran.

As-Salam `Alaykum. My question is related to a married woman of 28 years of age. She has 2 kids, a product of 10-year marriage. But now, she is seeking divorce just because she is no longer in love with her husband, and due to the fact that she wants to lead an Islamic life. Can she seek the divorce or not? I want a proper guidance and advice for her, to make her lead a peaceful life. Please answer me as son as possible! Jazakum Allah Khairan

Is the husband’s verbal commitment before concluding the marriage contract not to marry another woman binding? Bearing in mind that the couple in question have been together for seventeen years and the pledge was given to the wife’s family; yet he threatens to marry another woman.

As-Salamu `alaykum! What are the restrictions on husband’s jealousy? And does his extreme jealousy justify accusing his wife of anything evil?

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. Is there any word of advice you can give for a Muslim woman who always shouts to her husband? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. Should a husband tell his wife where he spends the money he earns? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Salam, I was wondering if a husband left his wife by her fathers house for a long period of time,7 months, while he is in a diffrent state what should she do? There is no exuse for this act and she wants to be with him. What if he is not willing to bring her because he keeps making exuses? How long is a husband allowed to stay away from his wife and what should she do in this case?

Asalam-u-laikum.What advise can you give to a male who is not committing to marriage because they think they may get bored with their partner because in the past they have been flirting with girls via phone and txt messages?Jiza-kullah

Salam AlaykumMy question is regarding a woman's duty towards her husband.  If a woman refuses her husband intimate relations due to his lack of piety, and stubbornness to change, is she cursed by Allah?I have been married for over 15 years and my husband has been drinking and comitting other sins, and obviously not being a good example for his children.  Every time he says that he has stopped, it turns out to not be the truth.  In addition, his lifestyle is un-Islamic; he stays gone until I awake for tahajjud prayers most nights-usually playing cards with a friend.  In addition, these men stay up all night chewing a leaf called "qat" that is a sort of a stimulant or drug.I have patiently asked my husband to change for many years, but to no avail.  In Ramadan, after I had refused him intimacy for more than two months,we agreed to not have marital relations, but to remain together for the children.  Is this permissible?Please advise, and I ask Allah SWT to reward you.

A married couple has been unable to have a child for several years. How far can they go to try to have one?

My friend is in the immense need of the answer to the following question please help –He got married around six month ago. He and his wife did not use to take full bath after intercourse usually but they used to wash themselves from navel till feet. But when they came to know about the fact that gusal after intercourse between husband and wife is obligatory to perform salaat they have become very concerned about their prayers which they have offered till now by not having full bath after intercourse. Off course they used to do wudhu before salaat. And this happened in Ramadhan also. Do they have to repeat all of those salaat? Or what should they do now in order to seek forgiveness from Allah (swt)?

In Surat Bakarah ayat 187, it is said that "They are body cover, for you and you are the same for them". I got different illustrations from different people and tafsirs. Please illustrate this part of verse from surat Bakarah properly.

If the husband usually gets done with having intercourse with his wife quickly & the time is not usually enough for the wife to get done herself, is it considered to be masturbation & haram on her behalf to only think about the sexual process with her husband after they've already stopped, plus that she sqeezes her thighs strongly is this act considered to be amsturbation & haram? what if she did that after some time elapsed from the time of intercourse?

Assalamoalikum wr,Does complete nudity during sex invalidates Nikah?It was published in one news paper in canada and in egypt too that former dean of some department of Al-Azhar gave fatwa that such an act invalidates the marriage.I have never read such a thing in Fiqh. Can you please clearify?JazakAllah

Dear Scholar, Asalamu Alaikum, My recent engagement to a girl has been called and off and I would like to know what are my obligations and her rights with respect to the things i have given her.

I am a woman married with two children. My husband always makes me accompany him to parties where I have become addicted to alcohol and cigarettes because of frequenting such parties, and now I cannot give them up.I would like to ask who is accountable for such sin, my husband or I? It is he who makes me accompany him to such prohibited doings, and if I refuse, he beats me. Please advise me.

asslam o alleikum. Dear Scholar, me and my wife have been away from eachother for more than 8 months and miss eachother alot. To satisfy our sexual deires recently we have been watching eachother on webcamera and pleasing our private parts. I want to know if this is allowed or not?thank You

IF A HUSBAND LEAVE ISLAM IN 2001 AND HIS WIFE GET IT KNOW IN 2003 WHEN SHE COME TO JOIN HIM AN OTHER COUNTRY.tHEY MARRIED IN 1985 AND HAVE 5 CHILDREN BEFORE THIS ACTION. WHAT IS THE STATUS OF THEIR NIKAH ? WHEN SHE ASKED HIM HE SAID THERE WAS NO WAY TO STAY HERE AND GET IMMIGRATION,HE ALSO SAID I AM STILL MUSLIM.HIS WIFE HAS STOPED PERFORMING AS WIFE BUT LIVING AS MOTHER OF CHILDREN. PLEASE JUST TELL ME IF YOU SEE ANAY PROBLEM IN THEIR NIKAH'S STATUS. WASALAM JAVED RANA

How far husband will be responsible for wife not in hijab and if she is not at all ready even husband tells her many times and whats the role of the husband in that case

Dear Scholars Assalamu Alaikum.I have this question about Marriage. I would be very very greatful if one of you taketime to answer my question.My Question is What I know is Marriage in court office is demed legal given that Bride and Groom consented, There are at least 2 Muslim witnesses , Mehr is determined and Wali for Bride gave consent . My question is whether it is necessary for the person who is conducting the marriage to declare the Mehr. If he/she does not declare it loud the Marriage is valid ornot ?Thank you for your time.Allah Hafiz

i have been trying hard to find the answer to this question so please do not ignore, or delay it as much as you can, jazakom allah khairan... I'm a muslim wife, my que stion is about the relation with my husband, is it haram for a woman to perform any act on her body after the sexual process has ended to fulfill her needs? in other words like is it haram for her to kind of squeeze her thighs together after the process is done & the husband might not be next to her, is that masturbation & haram? or is it ok since it's linked to the original halal act which is the relation wtih her husband?

What is the Islamic view regarding the wife giving charity from her husband’s wealth with or without his knowledge?

As Salaamu alyakum.how important to apply (and to wait till it will be granted) for civil divorce (divorce in Western court) if Talaq already has been given long ago?Can I get married again (Nikah) if I am still waiting for the western divorce procedure but finished my Iddah etc.

assalam o alaikum I have a 3 month old daughter, who sleeps in the same room as my husband and me. she sleeps in a seperate crib attached to our bed. we usually donot have sexual intercourse while she is awake. but what i would like to know what the islamic ruling is about this. how long can we let our baby sleep with us in our bed or in a seperate bed but in our room? whats the ruling regarding having intercourse with a child in the room?thanks a lot for your help.

Salaam, Regarding khula, Is the husband entitled to get anything more then the mahr, specifically tuition for education of the wife while married and expenses for minor surgery? Can she separate herself from him while in the process of getting a khula? If a wife asks for khula and her husband refuses what can she do in a country where there are no Islamic courts? JazakAllah

asalam-u-alaikum, i signed my marriage contract (nikah) in summer 2007. i have read many fatwas posted, though all gave me a good understanding but i still need more answer, a bit more specific to me. my wife is a cousin of mine who i have secretly loved (never mentioned to anyone simply prayed to allah that i may marry her someday and that someday finally came) her mother passed away when she was only about 9 or 10 years of age and i felt a lot of pain for her as she would be deprived of a mothers love. after signing the contract we quickly connected as i told her my feelings for her. and i began day by day to carress her more and more to show her my affection, but not goingto the extent of any serious intimacy. my roots are in pakistan and i currently reside in canada studyingengineering, its a culture thing that husband is not to consumate before the marriage ceremony (different from the walimah) although my parents never intervened if we spent time together alone. i told this so you can possibly better understand my questions.now that im back in canada, my wife still in pakistan, we talk over the phone and via the internet, we listen toeach others harships confort each other along the way and show affection for each other everytime. we also indulge in cyber sex and/or phone sex, is this allowed for me and my wife? and i will admit it does relax me when im tenseand vice versa and really helps me guard my gaze. also ive read the fatwa that only 4 months of separation isallowed from one's wife, is this true even if i have not yet consumated?also sometimes she tells me that she really needs me, like be with her, and i feel really bad and useless that i can't satisfy that need of hers. and the same thing goes for me somtimes i feel really alone, somtimes i can'teat properly, sleep is disrupted, i even cry sometimes while reciting surah Ya'sin. i know i have to be patient, but its getting harder n harder im begining to doubt that my prayers are not being accepted because of my own fault. what can i do? also is it ok for me to fantasize about my wife ( ie intimate fantasies)?also, what is the ruling on enlargment remedies for the private parts? one thing how short ca the beard be? my wife asks me shorten it. please provide me answers with as much detail as possible. thank you for listening, may allah bless you and helpeveryone attain jannah. ameen.

Dear Sir, First of all, I'd like to thank you for the efforts you make to give guidance to Muslims around the world. My question is that my wife once called me father. She didn't realize what she has done. This incident occurred for fun. I mean when I asked her why she said it, she told me she called me father without being serious. She didn't mean it, and she was not aware of the consequences. Now I am very confused: Has this caused any harm to our marriage? Or is there any expiation of this, like feeding 60 poor people? Please help. My wife and I love each other so much. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear sir May Allah reward you for answering my question.It is too urgent that requires no delay. I read some fatwa on the necessity of writting marriage If the marriage is not written.IS IT LEGAL OR ZINA,bearing in mind that the two parties agree and there is witnesses , dowary  a party attended by the family .Can one rely on the telepone or webcome to receive the consent  of the WALI  if he lives in an other country or the woman is a widoww

As-salamu `alaykumI am married to a non Muslim women (in sha Allah will help her to convert!)after she finishes her menstruation period she takes a complete full bath But without niyyah  or proper Islamic method of ghusl.am I allowed to have sexual intercourse with her?

Assalam u alikum, How are you my Question is that iam getting married next month this is love cum arrange marriage my spouse says that she does not need childern till 2-3 years due to our profession and career she is telling that either she will take birth control pills or do intercourse with condom can you please give me the reaplly whether islam gives permission to this please help me  Allah hafiz

my brother plans to marry a second time without informing his first wifehe has 3 children from the first wifehe intends to keep the marriage secret . i donot know how long he plans to keep it secret. is this allowed

Assalamalikum I married a second time without the consent of my first wife. Is it permissable.secondly my second wife has left and gone to another country for a job even though i can look after her comfartably .I even do not know what type of job or where and how she got a job for 2 years is the marriage nullified or have i to give her a Talaq(divorce) Please advice Jazakallah

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. How much nudity is allowed during intercourse? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear Respected Scholars,Is it permissable to practice oral sex with my wife during intercourse?Jazakum Allah kull Khair

A friend of mine wants to have children but her husband does not have want to, to such an extent that he uses contraceptives. What is the viewpoint of Islam on this matter?

Alsalam alaikum,1-Islamically, is cooking and cleaning solely part of a womens (married/unmarried)duty? Is it something she must learn to please Allah (SWT)?2- Does a (married/unmarried) women really need to seek permission from a male relative if she's going s omewhere. Especially when the male relative leaves whenever they want, and returns whenever they want. Put in mind that the women might leave to do necesary things like picking up kids from school, paying bills, getting groceries..etc. Letting that person know is understandable but Asking Permission every single time?

Is there such a thing as rape in a marriage, according to Islam?

My question seems to be provocative, so please ignore it if you think so and I will understand the answer is no. I have too wives, would it be possible (halal) that we have sex together?

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I'm married to a non-Muslim woman (in sha' Allah will help her to convert!). After she finishes her menstruation period, she takes a complete full bath but without niyyah (intention) or proper Islamic method of ghusl (ritual bath). Am I allowed to have sexual intercourse with her? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Assalamua AlaikumIs mufa khathat (penis between thigh) are allowed among husband & wife during menses or other time, is there any evidence in the shariah?

Will a muslim wife and a muslim husband live in Jannah together if they are a pious couple as well as love each other a lot.

What are the responsibilities of a married woman towards her parents?

Do I have to repeat my wuduu' if I touched my husbands hand? And same for my husband.

Respected Schollars, Assalamu Alaikum wa rehmatullah! One of my close friends is a married man having 5 children, he is financially in a miserable condition not able to provide properly for the needs of his family and keeps on being very anxious, sad and hopeless for the same. On telling him to keep his family according to his financial limits, he says ´I CAN´T HAVE A WAR WITH GOD TO STOP HAVING CHILDREN´ for the fact that some other muslim told him that family planning is something not appropriate according to islam and that as long as you are married you have to get children.My question is, is it really a war with Allah Almighty for such kind of act? Can we think of having our family (children) according to our financial sources in order to provide them better nurturing, and for the fact that they don´t feel deprived of things that other children have and they do not have, when we (the parents) can´t provide them the same things others have coz we have many children and to come up with thier demands is out of our reach. I would like to help him in this matter after your response. Jazzakum Allahe Khairan wa fe aman Allah!

Assalamo alykom, Dear scholars, I would like to know how often should a man and his wife have sex per week? Is there nat thing in our ahria about that. jazakomo allaho khayran

My wife finds sexual intercourse painful so we havent consumated our marriage in almost a year, this is causing problems in our marriage. Could you please offer me a solution?

Respected Scholar,asalam-o-Aleikom. Is it permissible for a wife to dance for her husband?s pleasure, in the privacy of their own room? If yes, can it be a provocative dance. You might have heard about one of these dances, which includes belly dancing. It is one of the dances that provoke desire and I think it is prohibited in our religion for women to perform it.  But what if a woman performs belly dance for her spouse enjoyment, would it be permissible?  There is one other thing I wanted to ask to make it clear for myself. If a wife is allowed to please her husband by dancing, can she do it with music? Please enlighten me on this topic in the light of Holy Quran and Hadiths. I would appreciate your detailed answer to my questions to increase my knowledge, as these queries come daily in our daily life and we have to clarify them. I also would like to thank you for giving your precious time to our queries. May Allah reward you in this life and the hereafter.

can a husband  kiss his wifes vagina in order to please her and vice versa

Dear Scholar Assalamoalaikum Thanks for providing a plateform where we can discuss our issues openly. I was married a few months ago.My husband is a wonderful man. We have been sexually active for the last two months but ordinary sex does not satisfy me and I am unable to reach orgasm. I want to try new things in bed. Can I ask my husband to lick my clitoris ? I just want him to lick my clitoris not to taste any filth. I remove my pubic hair regularly and wash my genitals after using toilet. I change my panties everyday. So under these conditions,Am I allowed to ask my husband to lick my clitoris ? I have already read articles regarding oral sex on this website but they donot clearly describe whether licking clitoris is allowed or not. My question is not about licking the vaginal opening it is about clitoris only. Clitoris does not have secretions like vagina. So if a man licks it there no filth gets into his mouth.Since I am a doctor so I know that It has been medically proved that Clitoris is the most sensitive area of woman's body and she reaches orgasm easily when it is touched with tongue.

Me and my husband live in a seperate apartmen. We dont have kids yet. The bedroom where we sleep in, has an attached bathroom. Sometimes I urinate in bathroom without closing the door. Is it ok for a couple to use toilet in front of each other or it is necessary to close the door ? Can we take bath together or can I take a bath without closing the door ?

Dear ScholaraOA I married my husband a year ago. I have been sleeping in the nude with him . Recently I have given birth to a baby girl. Now the little girl sleeps with us. Now I sleep in the topless (without shirtand bra ) because it helps me when I breastfeed her. I donot have to get rid of clothes every time I feed her. Can I continue sleeping topless as the baby can not understand anything at all ? By the time she gets mature enogh to understand things I shall stop doing that.

Salam Alaykom. I have a question. My wife apparently does not have orgasms and I would like for her to have them, especially since my wife is upset about it. Is it ok if my wife takes a medicine to help her acheive this and what is islam's ruling on orgasms? Jazakum Allah Khayran

As Salaam O Aleikum. Please answer my question as this is my fourth try in two weeks. Firstly, according to the hadith when a wife is menstruating, it is said "Do Everything Except Intercourse". So if a wife can masturbate her husband, is is permissible for the husband to masturbate his wife during her menses (periods) ?

My case involves a Muslim woman who separated from her husband some time ago and sought refuge and alternative accommodation.due to domestic violence. Her separated husband had sought her out and demanded sex with her; on her refusal he would force her to have sex with him. I understand that If she had no valid excuse then she was sinful in denying him sexually but is the husband sinful for forcing her to have intercourse? If he is not sinful, would it be sinful  for him if forcing her caused her pain. She hasn?t made complaints to the police stating that she is still married to him; and there is no rape in Islam.  What is this woman?s rights given she has separated from her husband and does not wish to have sexual relations with him, is she in a position to make a complaint against him to the Police under the pretence that he is raping her?

Dear respected Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum wa rahamtu Allah wa barakatuh ! Is is permissible for a wife to sing or dance for her husband only without the use of any musical intruments. And can you please clarify what is the ruling using daf (tambourine) between the two spouses. Jazak Allah Khayr

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. If a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim women, is there a specific time restriction to make her convert or doesn't she have to convert her at all? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Assalamualaikum wrt. Fadhilah syeikh, what is the real meaning of fiance or khitbah?does when a man said to a woman that he want to marry him and she tell her father about that and her father agree with that considered as khitbah?or we must done the a ceremony for that?Jazakumullah khair

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Some Indian newspapers reported that some Indian Muslim scholars in India 's eastern state of West Bengal ordered a couple to separate after hearing that the husband had uttered the divorce word thrice in his sleep. Could you please enlighten me if uttering the word "divorce" while sleeping renders the divorce as valid. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Is it allowed or forbidden to ejaculate between your wife's buttocks and outside her anus?

As-salamu `alaykum. What should a man do if he finds his wife making love to another man? Can he kill both of them?

What If wife and husband both go in Jannah, but one of them go in higher jannah.

Assalam o Alaikum! Question regarding husband and wife intimacy. Is it permissible for husband or wife both, to touch or finger the anal region of each other during the act of intimacy? As we know the anal sex is not permitted. Does such touching also come under this restriction? Is there some definition of oral sex?

Assalamu AlaikumI know sexual intercourse is forbidden during menses, however is it permissible to engage in mutual masturbation to achieve climax (ejaculation for men)?Kindly provide any evidence from the shariaThanking you

I am engaged and I will register my marriage at the court in the next couple of weeks. I just want to know what is Halal to do with my fiancé and what is not in the period between our marriage registration and the official wedding? I appreciate your efforts.

My wife does not observe the religious obligation regarding the way she dresses, and one of my children does not perform Prayer. To what extent am I responsible for that?

As salam o alykum. I hope that you will be in best of health and faith. I am 24 years old girl and I got married more then 1 year before and I have spent very good time with my husband. Now Alhamdulillah I have a baby of 2 months. I am regularly breastfeeding him. My husband wants also to drink my breast milk and he has often tried to suck but I didn?t have allowed him although he has tried too much. And now he is angry with me because of my continuously deny. His behavior has become very rude with me from last few days. I want to know the point of view of Islam regarding to breastfeeding to husband. Is that allowed in Islam? If no then how should I behave with my husband if he pressurizes me? I also want to know more that will it be wrong and sin for him (my husband) if he takes my breast milk? ok if he do not kill the right of baby and only drink milk at that time when the baby's need becomes fulfill then is that morally and Islamically right? And can you provide me any evidences of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)'s life regarding to the above matter?Please reply me soon because I don?t want to see my husband angry with me. Please tell me the easiest way because I cannot live without him and I also want to follow the rules of Islam. I shall be very thankful to yo u. if u dont want to send answer on the board then plz reply me on my email id, which is "[email protected]" . Your Islamic sister, Khansa Jibran

My mother is constantly trying to turn me against my husband.  When I defend him (always speaking in a respectful way), she gets upset. She also provides me advice that, if I followed, would lead to my husband divorcing me. I love my husband greatly and have never complained about him to her or said anything bad about him.    She says I must put her first, not my husband.  What would the islamic ruling be in this situation?

Bismi Allahi Erhaman errrahimRespected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum.I am writing to you regarding a woman whose husband has recently died (Allah yerahmou).During their common life, this man, his wife and their four children were living from the income issued from a grocery store which was his property.This man was very fair towards his family and always had fulfilled his duty as devoted husband and father. His family never lacked of anything and he was always giving money to his children and/or his wife whenever they needed.However, his wife has for several years putting aside extra  cash money (in addition to the money she was receiving from him) by taking several times and for several years from the grocery store cashier without that her husband knows anything about it.She was operating either by herself or with the help of some of her children who obeyed rather with fear to her orders.According to this woman this money (which is worth several thousands of euros) was put aside for security in case of "financial bad times" (Only God knows the truth)Now that her husband has passed away, she has no more chances in this earth to tell him about her actions.This woman asked me to contact you by email to known if what she was doing is haram or not, and if it the case what does she have to do with the whole amount of money in order to be safe in front of God and in front of her husband el youm el quiyama inchallah.Thanks for your answer.Jazakum Allahu khayran

Asalam alaikum,I will like to know if Islam permit the use of contraseptic to stop pregnancy, in a situation where a couple can witstand sextual relations for as many times as possible which can limit the chance of the man looking for a second wife that he couldn't cater for or maintain equality. Jasakallah Khairan

My wife started bleeding on Friday and her period normally lasts 5-7 days, she stopped bleeding on Sunday but had a slight discharge, On Monday morning she had a shower and did not bleed for the whole day. We had sexual relations on Monday night. Were we correct in having relations or did we commit a sin, If we were wrong what should we do to avoid this in the future and how can we make up for it?