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A Woman Delayed Frequent Missed Fast

As'salam Alaikum,I bless you for all of your work and I pray that all gives you rewards for helping not only Muslims, but non-Muslims understand Islam better. I have been trying for 2 months to get onto this forum to ask a questions, and I have been patient knowing that you are very busy. My question is actually about 3.My 1st question is actually for my sister-in-law my Allah Bless her. About 6yrs ago her husband and her were trying to conceive, but she miscarried twice. One miscarriage occurred during Ramadan. During an exam the baby had no heart beat and the doctors waited a week seeing if anything improved, but it did not and the baby was miscarried (with the help of the doctors). She broke her fast for about a week or so. The following year Alhumdullah she got pregnant again and went full term. She gave birth during Ramadan and broke her fast, a year later she got pregnant again and gave birth the night before the 1st day of Ramamdan and again she broke her fast. Do to this she owes 2-3 months, plus the days for her menses.(She broke her fast on health reasons and breastfeeding reasons.) I know that there is so much controversy over the issue of how women can make up days. I told her based on what I have read (in my opinion) she just needed to give ransom for the days she missed. But I have been give mixed messages about this. Some says she has to make the fast-up by fasting, or she has to give only ransom, and others saying she needs to do both. What do you think is the best way of going about this.My second question is for myself. I am a public school teacher at a middle school. I love my job, and I could not do anything else. My co-workers and I get along and so do my students and their parents. However, because this school is public I am the only Muslim teach at the school and quite frankly the only one in the school district to my knowledge. My question is most of my students are Catholic and sometimes I am invited to gatherings, which I feel are religious. For example, this year I was invited to a Communion for 2 sisters who I have taught collectively for almost 3year. I was very flattered in being invited knowing these girls only invited teachers they respected and love, but I felt weird about going because of the religious nature of a Communion, so I did not go. I know that if Incha-Allah I continue to be a teacher this kind of this will occur again.I do not know if going to like a Quinceanera (Sweet 15; most of my students are Hispanic or Chicano) or a Communion is appropriate. Should I go and stay briefly or sent a card? What is the Islamic ruling on this.Lastly, A questions about fasting. Usually I only have a period for 5-6 days. I counted my days and by day 6 I was not bleeding any longer; however, on day 7-10 I did not bleed, but had small spotting once during the day or twice. Do I make those days up. I fasted those days because I was not sure. Thanks again for your help and I am so sorry that I made this post long.Wa'Alaikum As'salam

Is There a Limit to Repentance?

As-salam alakum wa rahmatullah wa baraktu!Is there a limit on when we can be forgiven on some sins even with repentance?The Quran says this:(But those who reject Faith after they accepted it, and then go on adding to their defiance of Faith,- never will their repentance be accepted; for they are those who have (of set purpose) gone astray. 3:90) (Those who believe, then reject faith, then believe (again) and (again) reject faith, and go on increasing in unbelief,- Allah will not forgive them nor guide them on the way. 4:137)Does this mean that if a person committed apostasy a lot of times he has no hope? Let?s say after this person committed this grave sin a lot of times finally is determined to not commit it again the best he can; would he/she still have a chance to be forgiven if he or she try's to change his or her ways for good? Or has he/she lost all hope and he/she has no more chances?Also in a Hadith:  "If anyone drinks wine Allah will not accept prayer from him for forty days, but if he repents Allah will forgive him. If he repeats the offence Allah will not accept prayer from him for forty days, but if he repents Allah will forgive him. If he again repeats the offence Allah will not accept prayer from him for forty days, but if he repents Allah will forgive him. If he repeats it a fourth time Allah will not accept prayer from him for forty days, and if he repents Allah will not forgive him, but will give him to drink of the river of the fluid flowing from the inhabitants of Hell."I want to know;  is there a limit on when we can be forgiven and have our repentance accepted after having committed some sins and repented  so much times from them?I hope it's ok to ask; may Allah (SWT) reward you!

Tiredness Is Not an Excuse to Avoid Fasting

salam i have a question, regarding fasting. since the month of ramdhan i have not fast i really do not have accused but the fact is since i have lost my baby few years back i could not fast properly during my pregancy i could not fast and when my baby died the year to come i could not fast this year i promsie myself to fast i feel so depress my husband never help actualy he never there if he come it five monutes and then he gone to work. i have two little babies and it been hard no one help me when i can get up for sunrise i say i will fast but then i break it. i do not know whether i am making excuses but it been tiring and hard, the kids are constantly crying and same time i am doing the house work and catching up with everything. i have never fasted since i have had the baby, i rember i used to fast even i had exams and that time i have more pressure, but now my own family never help me i will call and cry that i need help they tell me to do it urself. i do  not know whether i am going through a depression and i do want to fast. i hardly prayered when i do try to do salah it the kids. the first juma of ramdhan i had agruement with my husband and he so not understand he never help me and i am thinking of going away but go where? my own family disown me and my husband family want me to suffer to this day i have been strong and tried my best.  it look like veryone me to suffered or died.  my husband is never there, never. i hate it so much taht what are my right. i used to love to fast, i even used to fast volutary now i can not i do not know if i am depress i do get upset. if there is any advice or any dua's you can tell me or which food i can eat to make myself please do, because i do not know how long can i cope with all this. i thank you for reading this email thank you.