A Woman Delayed Frequent Missed Fast
As'salam Alaikum,I bless you for all of your work and I pray that all gives you rewards for helping not only Muslims, but non-Muslims understand Islam better. I have been trying for 2 months to get onto this forum to ask a questions, and I have been patient knowing that you are very busy. My question is actually about 3.My 1st question is actually for my sister-in-law my Allah Bless her. About 6yrs ago her husband and her were trying to conceive, but she miscarried twice. One miscarriage occurred during Ramadan. During an exam the baby had no heart beat and the doctors waited a week seeing if anything improved, but it did not and the baby was miscarried (with the help of the doctors). She broke her fast for about a week or so. The following year Alhumdullah she got pregnant again and went full term. She gave birth during Ramadan and broke her fast, a year later she got pregnant again and gave birth the night before the 1st day of Ramamdan and again she broke her fast. Do to this she owes 2-3 months, plus the days for her menses.(She broke her fast on health reasons and breastfeeding reasons.) I know that there is so much controversy over the issue of how women can make up days. I told her based on what I have read (in my opinion) she just needed to give ransom for the days she missed. But I have been give mixed messages about this. Some says she has to make the fast-up by fasting, or she has to give only ransom, and others saying she needs to do both. What do you think is the best way of going about this.My second question is for myself. I am a public school teacher at a middle school. I love my job, and I could not do anything else. My co-workers and I get along and so do my students and their parents. However, because this school is public I am the only Muslim teach at the school and quite frankly the only one in the school district to my knowledge. My question is most of my students are Catholic and sometimes I am invited to gatherings, which I feel are religious. For example, this year I was invited to a Communion for 2 sisters who I have taught collectively for almost 3year. I was very flattered in being invited knowing these girls only invited teachers they respected and love, but I felt weird about going because of the religious nature of a Communion, so I did not go. I know that if Incha-Allah I continue to be a teacher this kind of this will occur again.I do not know if going to like a Quinceanera (Sweet 15; most of my students are Hispanic or Chicano) or a Communion is appropriate. Should I go and stay briefly or sent a card? What is the Islamic ruling on this.Lastly, A questions about fasting. Usually I only have a period for 5-6 days. I counted my days and by day 6 I was not bleeding any longer; however, on day 7-10 I did not bleed, but had small spotting once during the day or twice. Do I make those days up. I fasted those days because I was not sure. Thanks again for your help and I am so sorry that I made this post long.Wa'Alaikum As'salam