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Are There 15 Punishments for One Who Neglects Prayer?

As-Salamu `alaykum. My question is regarding a hadith I received in my e-mail. I just want to know if it is authentic before I pass it on. The hadith is as follows: The one who disdains the prayers will receive 15 punishments from Allah, 6 punishments in this lifetime, 3 while dying, 3 in the grave, and 3 on the Day of Judgment. The 6 punishments of life are1. Allah takes away blessings from his age (makes his life misfortunate). 2. Allah does not accept his du`aa’. 3. Allah erases the features of good people from his face. 4. He will be detested by all creatures on earth. 5. Allah does not award him for his good deeds. 6. He will not be included in the du`aa’ of good people. The 3 punishments while dying are1. He dies humiliated. 2. He dies hungry. 3. He dies thirsty. Even if he drinks the water of all the seas he will still be thirsty. The 3 punishments in the grave are1. Allah tightens his grave until his ribs come over each other.2. Allah pours on him fire with embers. 3. Allah sets on him a snake called "the brave", "the bold" which hits him from morning until afternoon for leaving Fajr Prayer, from the afternoon until `Asr for leaving Zhuhr Prayer and so on. With each strike he sinks 70 yards under the ground. The 3 punishments on the Day of Judgment are1. Allah sends who would accompany him to hell pulling him on the face. 2. Allah gives him an angry look that makes the flesh of his face fall down. 3. Allah judges him strictly and orders him to be thrown in hell.

The Ethics of Engagement Period

Esselamu alejkum. I met a girl about a year ago. Few days later I met her father too. She comes from a very religious family.her father did not disagree with us getting to know each other, but he was against us seeing each other without his presence. In the very beginning we contacted mostly by short messages using our mobile phones. Later on I used to go to her home (two times a month), and there we would talk. Her father would let us be in one room with open door, and he would be in the next room. Then he would occasionally come to see what we are doing (sometimes we would sit in her garden and her father would be at the other end of the garden). During the year that we know each other we have also met a few times on our own in a public places.a few months ago we got engaged. I went to her place and asked her father for his permission to marry her. He approved. The problem is that we have some issues and we cannot get to marry for some time in the future. We have to wait at least one more year.now we need advice on how to continue our relationship and to stay pure, to avoid haram things. What is the difference now that we are engaged? Do we have bigger rights, can we see each other in public places, can I go to her place like I used to more often, can we talk on the phone? We use to talk over the phone a few times every day. We got really close and it could be very hard for us if we could not continue our communication and contact. We need to deal with many things about our future too, and we cannot talk about it over the phone. We also heard that we could get marry just to make our contact halal (without living together), but I don't think that this is appropriate and could ruin our relationship later. What is Your opinion about this?There are several reasons why we have to wait so long before we can get marry. I need to finish my education so I could get a job, etc. But the biggest problem of all is my family. They are not so religious. This means that they know about Allah, butthey don't do their prayers and other obligations. They would never allow me to get marry to this girl because she comes froma family that is very different than mine. Firstly, her family understands Islam in another way than my family. Her fatherhas a long bear, her mother and her two sisters wear a scarf. Secondly, her family is not very educated (her parents are noteducated - secondary school, they are unemployed, very poor). Her father is a street salesman. Also her family comes from a rural part of the city. My family is highly educated, and my parents work for the Government. I hope that You understand the difference. My parents warn me about these differences and say that we could never get along in the future (two of us, and my family with hers). They also say they would never accept this, and that they would keep trying to talk me over that marriage. It would be a humiliation for them to join with the family like this. (I live in Bosnia - if it can help to understand thesituation better). I tried few times to talk with them about it, but it just won't work. I?m having big problems with them because of my religious understanding and now I also want to get marry, and do not know what to do and how to behave. I know I have to obey my parents and listen to them and do what they say, but what can I do in a situation like this?Please respond to my e-mail, and do not public the second part of the question on the website because one could offend reading this, or could recognize about who is the word.

Praying behind an Imam who Commits Sin.

As-Salam-O-AlykumThere was one house just adjacent to the masjid, where one poor family was living since about 90 years. Now one Moulvi came to this place and just instigated the people to extend the mosque by taking the house of that poor person. Moulvi told the people to give the house to this poor person in some illegal place without proper property documents etc. Hence the poor person has shifted his house to illegal place thinking that if he can help the people in extending the mosque then it is good and he will also get Sawab-E-Jariya.Now the Moulvi played the game, he built his own house there only where the poor person was staying and not only that he also occupied the space of masjid (4 Feet) in his house. That means the Moulvi has cheated the poor person by telling that they are building the mosque hence he should give the house for this noble cause and after vacating the house by poor person, the Moulvi occupied this land as well as the land of masjid (4 feet) and built his own house there.The person who destroy the mosque (MOULVI) for his personal benefits, should he not be treated as KAFIR or MUNKIR and the prayer under his Immamat is Jayes or legal.In this situation and in light of the Islamic Shariyat, can the people should pray behind him under the leadership of his Immamat and can the MOULVI now eligible to do the Immamat.Can you please express your valuable views on this point so as to come to some conclusion and to stop such illegal things committed by MOULVIS.

Should I Help my Community as a Lady When the Imam is Negligence?

Assalamu a'alikum dear scholars and brothers in deen!The portuguese muslim community is relatively small, about 20,000 in 10,000,000. There are many people who don't know the basics of Islam and are very stubborn and proud when someone tries to corrects some faults in salaat or wudhoo, for example.Regarding this, I made a poster explaning prayer in detail including wudhoo, prayer in congregation, number of arrakaats, etc. with some pictures (faceless cartoons) but it didn't work. The imam, out of fear that people will stop going to the masjid, doesn't take this matter seriously and no one takes any iniciative.What can be done?Also, the imam speaks always about the same topics in friday khutbas. Topics without pratical action. He went as far as saying that the verses of Qur'an regarding armed jihad refers to "good words" and "positive speeches". He doesn't speak very well portuguese nor arabic, but still... he is one of the very few who knows a little of both languages.The community is very wide in nationalities and some seem to have the idea that the arabs feel superior towards others regarding deen. So I think the choice of this imam was a bit political as well. Perhaps if it was a "white" imam or arab, it would cause much fitnah. But I'm not happy with this imam, and some of my friends as well. And this is the only masjid in my city with a women's area.I appreciate your wise advice. Jazakum Allahu khayran and may Allah help you to keep up with your efforts in the name of Islam.

Postponing Hajj Due to Urination Problem

As salamu alaikumI feel so embarrassed to ask this question but I am helpless. The last date to register for Hajj here in Bangladesh is 6th July, 2008. Based on the answer, I will decide whether I will go for Hajj this year or not. So please reply me as soon as possible.I am 25. My condition is: after urinating, i adopt some other common measures like sitting down and standing up several times to ensure that there is no urine inside my secret part. All these take some 3-5 minutes. Then there remain no sign of urine. But after more 3-5 minutes later, very small amount of urine, even not a single drop, appears at the tip of the penis. Then if I clear this, it does not come more or at most one/two more time after another 3/4 minutes. I noticed that if my urine is "whiter" or much like water in color (that is the result of drinking much water) i.e. thinner, then this problem no longer exists i.e. it takes 3-5 minutes to urinate and to be clear. But if the urine is a bit yellow i.e. thicker i.e. if i urinate after a long time, then this problem increases.The essence is: if my urine is a bit yellow i.e. thicker, then it takes 12-20 minutes to be clear totally after urination. Otherwise, if the urine is whiter in color i.e. thinner, then it takes 3-5 minitues.I wanted to perform Hajj this year. But there will be huge number of people and comparatively small number of toilet (naturally), so I can not occupy toilet for 15 minutes each time as others will be angry with me. Also it will be not so easy, Illa mashaAllah, to go to toilet twice for each urination ? one for urination and later another one for washing the secret part. So what can I do? Will I postpone Hajj until Allah Almighty solves this problem? But this time I got very suitable time for Hajj regarding my study. I did not go to any doctor because I think it is not any disease. I don?t know what to do?please advice me for the sake of Allah.I am very anxious about this. Many thanks for your kind help.

Shaking Hands with a Non-Mahram

Assalamualaikum Shaikh,I want to inquire you about the hand shaking with womens in non-muslim culture. Is it permissible in Islam to do Hand Shaking of men and women similar to Hand shaking between two mens as we normally do. 1. Some time practicing muslims are shaking hands with womens in front of public on the occasion of gatherin gs, meetings and conferences. I currently live in Canada which is predominently a non-muslim state here they have their own cultural customs and practices. As per their culture shaking hands, hugging and kissing of opposite sex is absolutely right specially at happy and sad occasions. 2. Can a man do hand shaking to women with the sole intention of dawah. As this kind of gesture and action can create a soft corner into a heart of non-muslim. If its allowed then does it incompliance to sunnah of Prophet SAS?. 3. Some brothers and sisters has this opinion here that we should not leave an impression of alianation into the hearts of local non muslims by not doing hand shaking or not wearing the cloths with their national symbols flags etc. Else they would hate us and we will not be able to talk to them about Islam. 4. Most of known dawah groups in middle east and asia when they come to North America they change their policies drastically as compared to back home, as per them just for the sake of Dawah.I know my questions are little bit tough but need an straight forward and Shariah based reply. No diplomatic answer please. Please give a sharia opinion with support of Quran and true Ahadith.Jazakallah KhairMohammed Fazil Ali

Is Embroidery Jilbab Allowed?

this might seem a small problem to you but my husband has told me he is not happy with the situation and looking forward to see some solution or he says I am going to regret what will happen next. He says that this problem is ruining our relationship and he is not going to forgive me. He also says that I am insane and have degraced women with my approach. So here it goes:I am married to my husband 9 years agao. When he married me i used to wear no abay/jilbab, not even a head scarf. I started wearing a head scarf around 3 years ago. On which my husband made no objection. Around 2 1/2  years ago I read the meaning of whole Quran for the first time and I started wearing abaya 2 years ago. My husband is not at all happy with the idea. I wear and strongly prefer to wear plainabaya with no design/ embroidry. My scarf is big and matches the color of my abaya. But my husband keeps telling me that he feels veryembarassed in walking with me and due to that he hardly takes us to  grocery/park/picnic. I am ready to accept that even but he keeps telling me that this abaya thing is ruining our relationship and will further ruin it and he is living a life of pain due to this. He want me to wear a abaya with some short length and some design/embroidery and small printed scarfs of contrasting colors instead of my big plain scarf of same color. Also he wants me to wear loose head scarf not sticking to me head. I feel that abayas of short length and use of contrasting colors small scarf won't meet the requirement of hiding the zeenah as mentioned in Soorah Nur. Plus wearing loose scarf not pinned up properly will again keep me worrying about my hair showing. On the other hand I am afraid if I am disobeying my husband and if i die with my husband unhappy situation, will I be able to get Jannah? His harsh remarks keep my self in pain as well. Very recently he has stopped me even from touching her. Please advise how to better this situation.here are main requirements of my husband which I am having a hard time to accept. Can you tell me which of these are acceptable according to Quran and Sunnah?he wants the hijab of contrasting color with prints on it. For example if abaya is black, he wants hijab(head covering)  of maroon or blue color. According to my understanding maroon/blue/green or any color hijab adds beauty to black abaya. What do you say? Thats why I choose to prefer hijab of same color as abaya.he wants jilbab of short length with embroidery on it that is touching my knees but not beyond that. To me that is not the complete covering unless I start to wear black pants always. To which he doesn't agree.he wants the head hijab should be of short length that is to cover my hair and just a little beneath. While I am comfortable in wearing big head scarf that touches my waist. He said he doesn't like the way I tie up my hijab that it hangs over all my body. He wants something short not coming down.he wants that head scarf should be loose on head that means not tightly pinned up beacuse that again looks very conseravative according to him. This loose head covering is called chaddor in Pakistan, chaddor is a rectangular unsewn piece of cloth used as hijab in Pakistan.Is it permissible to wear light embroided jilbabs to save the relationship?Jazakallah khair for your time and helpassalam o alaekum

Du’a to Facilitate Marriage

Salaam, I hope I am understanding thsi properly. For some of the duas you request that a consultation be done with you first before attempting. I have soo much to ask. But basically. I have been blessed with the readiness to fulfill half my Imaan - I wish yto get married. I have been hurt badly by someone who promised to buuild a futher with me but got married to someone else instead. (May I add - was married and has a child). I could not understand why he would do that to me when Im a young girl - unattached. Anyway I met somebody else - Alhumdurillah. However, this guy has been hurt by his ex wife and also she is keeping his son away from him. He says his inlove with me but he wants his son back and not ready for commitment. He has visited my home on 4 times (we've known ea other for 7 months). We have not committed anything wrong - islamically. Not even kissed. I want to make a life with this man and see us having a future together. He says that he wants to get married in this year too insha-Allah, Ameen. I want to read the duas that is displayed on your site. But I do not know how and wish for you to grant me some knowledge. I would like his family to come home and ask for my hand in marriage. What duas do you suggest I perform? I do not understand, you say that we have to read 11 times before and after darood sharif and then the dua. But I would like for you to just point form how I should do this.Do I read eg, 11 times darood then the dua then 11 times the darood again?Hoping to hear from you soon, Insha - Allah. Hope this is in strictest confidence.Salaam,

What are the Wisdoms Behind Marriage?

Convince me why I should get married?I am 23, about to graduate and get a good job inshallah. Since long before i am a boy who prefers solitude. My natural shyness forgirls virtually prohibited me mentally to take any steps of getting to know them better.I am from Pakistan and you may well enough know of the so-called 'family politics' that goes on here. My mother passed away a fewmonths back and my relatives have been pressuring me to get married for a female presence in the house.I am afraid of the idea of this huge responsibilty on my shoulders. They say that marriage is a blessing, but i do not wish to put in theeffort to tell my wife to 'toe the line' when regarding islamic behaviour. I am by no means a devout man, but certainly incline to be abetter muslim.I do not look forward to be responsible to my future wife and supposedly, kids. Pakistan is culturally infested, having deep rootedculture it shared with India, cultural garbage normally takes preference over Islamic values. One of these i have disliked is the idea ofthe eldest brother getting married first. I am the eldest and despite my reasonable advice to my elders that my younger brother(1year younger, thus virtually the same age) should be married first since he is more willing. But my family is adamant on me gettingmarried first. They emotionally blackmail me by bringing up issues of 'family honour' and other garbage cultural values this countrythrows at me. They also dismiss any islamic reasons i try to discuss by saying 'but thats how its done here'. I wish i had the courageand guts to say what i liked on my mind but i am too scared(not a good quality in a 23 yr old male).I feel that all the things i wanted to do will come to an abrupt and grinding halt when i get married. I will have to financiallyresponsible. I will have to struggle through the possibility of a dead end job with no purpose except feeding my family. I will lose myfinancial independence and pretty much lose my freedom in the bond of marriage. I have rarely talked to girls all my life, keeping itstrictly to business(schoolwork). Anything more was strange to me. Not that i have not felt crushes to the every next girl that passesme, my shyness has proven itself to be an excellent  purdah against non-mahram female companionship.I prefer my independence, yet i am definitely not averse to companionship. I like my friends, and feel that i maintain that all my life.Never have i been more confused about an aspect of life like marriage. From what i see, from what i hear, marriage is an institution, aprison institution, where a man is forever responsible for his wife. If the wife goes astray given my best efforts, I am responsible, thusmy sin is compounded with hers.And i don't want to bring up my eventual kids in an evil society in Pakistan. Culture is the pollutant here i want to get the hell out ofhere to a better Muslim country.How do you convince someone to 'struggle' and 'make an effort' while he/she does not even want to? I have read many articlesregarding the importance of marriage in Islam, including the warning by the Holy Prophet(Peace be Upon Him) that those who do notmarry is not among us(May the Lord forgive me if i have not stated the Ahadith correctly) but am still not convinced marriage is forme.How can you or anyone convince me to marry, when i don't want to?Now for the twisted part, there may be a time i may regret not marrying, it is a strong possibility given my neediness for humancontact. I lack the courage to face my father and tell him i do not want to marry. Marriage in short is a gamble, you never know whatmight happen despite all your best efforts. How can i be sure my wife will follow my lead after marriage, how will i know she will notcheat? What if i get bored of her quickly(and cheat)?  I am a free spirit and prefer doing what i want. I will not consider divorce as anoption, but will suffer through the marriage in hope of a better reward.I have in general little hope in anything in my life. My mother was taken from my family after a long and painful illness, despite ourbest efforts to help her. We don't feel like failures, It was the Lord's will, but this has not helped my faith. I do not wish to ostracize myfamily, the idea is abhorrent to me, but i will have no choice if they keep on pressuring me to marry.Can you understand where i am going with this? Given that i am a masturbation addict the idea of marriage to solve this condition isappalling to me. I don't see marriage as any sort of a good thing, apart from the fact that it is a recommended sunnat and a collosalresponsibility, not joy and fun and games all my peers make it out to be. Finally, May Allah forgive me for all that i have said above. I am not against marriage for anyone. I'd recommend it to anyone. I intendto write this in hope(or what is left of it) to find a solution/explanation to my hesitance of marriage.Please help me, Best RegardsMuslim male UnwillingP.S: Reading your forums regarding marital troubles does not strengthen my resolve to marry. It makes me more scared!!