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Giving in Charity Increase One’s Money

Assalamu Alaikum..I have a 10 year old sister, and she's been asking some Islamic questions I haven't been able to answer very well..Her questions are:Is it true that when we give charity Allah gives us even more money?-To respond to this I said It's probably not good to give charity just so Allah could give us money. If we do it for Allah, then yes He'll give us money.. Dont know If this is the right answer or not but could you please correct me?The other questions I need help on are:How do people believe Jesus(a.s) as son of God and other idols like cows and maybe rocks.. In other words how do they end up believing in them when It is obvious that God has created them and only God can help them, and stuffDo non-muslims get deeds for discovering great things that benefit people (ex:  Thomas edison)?People are born muslim and when they get older they become Jewish or Christian because of their families.Why is it the kids fault, because they are non-muslim?In every religion people believe their religion is a true religion, and it happens to everyone that no body cares about researching: what if this isn't the right religion, let me research for the truth. If we did it may Allah forgive us but we may commit a big sin (this is my part, just trying to make it clearer)Also I was wondering(my question)..She will be in 6. grade next year, and not positive but she may get sex education next year(public school) I was wondering If we should tell her before she starts school and explain it in advance so she would be protected.. She is going in to such a fitna environment that I'm worried about her. She also asks when we're watching something males and females touch eachother not in an inappropriate way but like hold hands and stuff. She asks are boys and girls before marriage, allowed to touch each other? We say no, and she asks then why do they?These shows are meant to be Islamic (some that we watch) but unfourtunately most of the m are uncovered and we need to explain why they uncover and why they touch eachother.. I worry about she watching it sometimes but my parents say "nothing is wrong with it, there aren't kissing or other scenes"..and am not very good at communicating..Thank you-assalamu Alaikum

An Advice to a Husband

Asalam o elecum,I love my wife and family; I have always controlled my anger and not said words that are not liked by Allah and forbidden by Prophet (SAW).My wife puts strange demands and fights over them. for example I don't like Sari, although my mother and many people in my family wears, but she keep insisting with anger and attitude and say stupid things and argue on it until when i would say of I agree.I expect her to agree and do as I tell her to do on simple basic things in life so that when children see her will eventually obey and agree with both of us.I have tried to provide her with all necessary and more comforts in the house, like maid etc to relief her from her chores. But All i request her and now expect her to be discipline in my children's life and my life. when I try to interfere in setting up the daily routines like waking up early etc and asking to wake up at fajr and stay awake to not delay children school, i am faced with attitudes and anger and unnecessary arguments.I am not a cool tempered person, and I keep reminding about what I told her to do before atleast 2-3 time and this thing bothers her; but when i stop saying about it, those thing disappear from her life. but I control my temper with her. it is becoming very difficult for me to live on a daily basis with such attitude.Kindly note that i didn't shop around to get married, and I didn't not do what others do,  I was seeking mercy from Allah for all my sins and married a girl from an average family i never knew or met or anyone recommend.One more argument that we always had. I wanted my children to first go to Arabic School, learn Arabic, memorize Quran like 2-3 years before going to international schools. She didn't agree and we end up sending our first daughter full time morning in international english/french / arabic school (no Quran hifz) and because of my enforcement she is also going to Arabic Madrasa in the evening for 2 hours. I thought I could convince anyone, but unfortunately i failed with my wife.I know that it is not her duty may be to cook for me; but I expect her to atleast tell me when she cannot cook so i could arrange, bring food; not to come home hungry and not find food and only bunch of complains.I thought these should have been easy things. I don't know I always wanted a smooth and simple life; willing to do extra with my existing family, but every attempt is simple turning negative. What should i do to improve my life.Remaining at Allah's disposal for any thing that please him.

The Infallibility of the Prophet

assalamo alaykom wa rahmatollahi wa barakatoh, please I have a very important question that I have been asked about the prophet ( PBUH ) but I didn't have the answer to  and I need a quick and convincing answer as to the truthfull way to approach the quest ioner who depends in his thinking on materialistic thinking and aethiest approches.the question was if the story of the angels cutting the chest of the prophet in his early childhood and taking his heart and washing it in a golden bowl with zamzam water saying that they removed from his heart the share of sheitan over him, is this a true story (I as a muslim always knew this story as a true one)? and what is the purpose of this incident and what was its impact, echos and consequences ? also if the answer is yes and it is a true story then according to the questioner, doesn't this make of sayyedona Mohammad (pbuh) a person that is pure and that have exceeded the human nature,i.e. he is not a normal human as the rest of us with the normal human nature (and nafs )of good and bad and thus can't be followed or imitated as he's already purified so he's not like the rest of us having the same quality of nafs that struggles between good and bad so this questioner means that it would be unfair or non realistic to ask muslims to follow him and take him as a role model and push themselves to do what he does since he has been specialezed by this incidence of removing the evil part from his heart?(salla Allah alayhi wa sallam)how can I answer this person in an answer that is not directed to muslims with a spiritual answer but an answer that deals with an aethiestic mind who questions only with his mind and I beg of you to give me a very good answer and way of approach on delivering the answer to this person but I need a quick answer as this person is leaving the country and I want to deliver the reply as soon as possible. Jazakom Allah kol kheir.