Taking Possible Means in Seeking Marriage and Qadar
Speaking on this issue, the prominent Muslim scholar and da`iyah Zeinab Mostafa states that ‘it is true that marriage is part of Allah’s Qadar. However, we ought to take all means possible to achieve our goals. That is why we are responsible for our actions and we will be held accountable on the Day of Judgment.
Social interaction where one still abides by the rules of Islam is one way of seeking marriage in the lawful
ways. That could be in Islamic events, volunteering, assisting in youth or mosque activities, etc. A young Muslim seeking marriage could try to be in more Islamic gatherings.
In addition, through social network or friends and family members a seeker may ask to be introduced to whoever is interested. There is no harm even for a woman to introduce herself to a man as the Mother of all the Believers, Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) did with the Prophet (peace be upon him). Of course, I am not asking or encouraging the sisters to do the same, but I am just explaining that it is not a shame, and taking lawful means to get married should not be a ground for embarrassment.
I ask Allah to make things easy for all. May He also guide all of us to what pleases Him