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Taking interest-based loan to buy a house

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. Dear brother in IslamAl Salam alaykumI am a Swiss Muslim live in Switzerland. I live in a rented house for around 10 yeas; this house has 2 floors, 2 families live in this house each floor one family. The owner of the house wants to sell the house to one of these 2 families (my family or other family). The owner propose us first as we are living in this house much longer than the other family.We want to buy house because our children grew up and go to school in this area abd my old father lives in the same street and. The house cost 1550000 Swiss Franc. The money we saved is only 700000 francs, to be able to buy this house it is necessary to take interest-based loans from banks, we rent this house since 10 years already and we are paying rental fee which the same amount I am going to pay to the bank as interest , if the other family will buy the house, they will ask us to leave because they always wanted to live in the part we rent as it bigger and nicer, and we cannot easy find new house of apartment in the area where we live now. We only want to keep this house and no attention of doing business or earning money in this bank deal.Any prohibition may have certain necessity circumstances that call for relaxation. This applies to riba and too many other prohibitions. Of course, a necessity must always be given its right weight since it is Allah, the Most Knowledgeable, Who is going to screen our truthfulness, not any one else, can you justify this case as necessity and advice us to go ahead and buy the house or say hasbi allah wa nima alwakeel.May Allah guide you to the straight path, and guide you to that which pleases Him

Husband in debts, can he take a second wife?

Ongoing Debt and Getting 2nd marriageasalamo Alaikum Wa Rahmato Allah, I?m in the stage of confusion and deny, I guess, but most of all, I want to do it right Insha Allah. My question is concerning on going debt and getting 2nd marriage. It?ll be long question because I think it needs all details Insha Allah. Moreover I would prefer Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qadarawi to answer the que stion because he is one of the sheikhs that my husband really respects, however if it?s not possible, all the Sheikhs are Alhumdulillah. My husband and I married over 8 years and we have no children due to my husband?s physical problem. We have to see doctor in order for us to have children. However my husband is a full time student and I?m a staying home wife. The only income we have is from the university that my husband is studying. He?s working part time with them. Well, my problem first had happen in early 2006 that my husband did approached one of my closed friends to marry. I was the one who went to ask with attention that she?d say no because I didn?t know what was going on between them both, so what happen was she said no to me and then my husband called her on the same day without my knowledge and she said yes to him. They secretly talked to each other for 2 weeks and after I found out then she broke up with him. I told my husband later on that he should wait until we already since we?re too having a debt, so the first one ended in early 2006. However my husband did approached her again early 2007 and have been talking and contacting her ever since and I just found out maybe about 2 weeks ago. They kept it secretly. She is a widow with 4 children, 2 girls at the age of 11 and 13 and 2 boys at the age of 6 and 7. She lives alone with her children and no one else stays with her. My husband visited them at home secretly sometimes and took them out sometimes. However I don?t really know whatelse it?s going on in the house. It has been more than 1 and a half year that they have been doing these and my husband promises her that he would finish his study less than a year and then he?ll marry her. My questions are 1. Is it possible to get a 2nd marriage while he?s having a $50,000 in debt? 2. Will the debt have to be paid off before he can get married? 3. If so, what should he do with an ongoing relationship? Should he stop the relationship? And then when he is free of debt, he can approach her again later? 4. Is he giving her false hope? 5. Allah is the One who provides. How can he know that he will be capable of in a year? If it?s not, what will happen with their relationship? Is it not better for them both to wait until he pays off his debt and capable of, and then he approaches her later? If it?s not happen, she?ll wait and have secret relationship with him forever? And if someone?s propose to her, she won?t be able to accept his hand because she?s in relationship? What is the ruling and advice?6. I know that my husband has intention of marriage her, but what is he doing is right? What is the advice? 7. For my part, it?s really difficult for me to find out this way. I felt they had been betrayed me because whenever they met outside in public or on my present, like community event, Islamic school matter, or at the masjid, they acted that they?re stranger to each other and never talk or look at each other at all time, but they talked on the phone too many time a day, he visited her at home, he took the kids out, and he buy things for them, which we do not have that kind of money. Please advice? 8. Can her sons who are 6 and 7 be her Muharam (guardian)? I know that my husband has no need to tell me about the marriage and I know that Allah gives all the Muslim men the right to get married more than one wife, but I think if he waits until he gets the job, pays off all the debts, and we talk and discuss about it, it would make a family?s relationship better. I do really need help in answering all the questions to make myself clear and have better understanding. I want to do things right since these mistakes have repeated itself and my husband did omit his mistakes. I ask Allah to guide us all to the Right Path and Decision Ameen. If you would like to post my question online, could you please delete some of my personal information? as I don?t want people in my community to know about it Insha Allah. Jazakum Allahu Kairan for your time and help and May Allah reward you Ameen.

Islam and belief in luck

Asalam alaikum wa rehmatullah. Sir, my question isQ1.Does the luck of wife plays any role in the success of husband,as ive seen many men got better jobs,and money,after getting married,and i read one incident too,a very poor man came to prophet(pbuh)and said what should i do,so the prophet replied get married, man was surprised,but he got married and ultimately succeded in business. Q2. I get monthly pocket money from my husband whos doing very very well financially. from that money i at times help my widow mother,in acute need only,as we dont have any brother also.when i visit her i try to pay for all my and her household expenses too.does that counts as theft from husbands money. my father in law says he has big gest right on my husbands money as he spent money on his education and all,keeps telling my husband all the time,although my husband is a very dutiful husband,so much that he at times doesnt gives my right as a wife just to please his father and a widowed sister.husbands father and sister,manipulate ,make false stories that they are facing so much hardships so as to send them more and more money.my husband has invested with his father and sister good amout of money in varoius projects,without telling me,is this right that i get this info from source other than my husband. my sister in law says allah has given so much to my brother because he does so much for me,is this right too.he is told by his family to hide things from wife,make her obedient so much that she has no guts to speak her mind.his younger brother does no job,and is fully dependetn on my husband too,which again is hidden so that i dont know. who has the biggest right on my husbands money,shouldnt my husbant consult me on such matters? inlaws never spent a penny on me or my kids,ive 3 daughters,i fear for their future,who can tell my husband that its only his financial status that hes respected so much,not he or his children forget aobut wife.and after doing so much for them i still hear the complaints that husband listens to wife and has forgotten us,to all relatives,that makes me very angry,i told this to my husband andhe refused to believe thta his widowed sister can do such a thing i know my standing in the eyes of my husband,i pray that one day their true intentions are revealed to him. kindly comment.

Marrying a Mennonite Christian

Assalamu Alaykum.  May Allah (SWT) bless you for this wonderful service.  I will try to be brief.My newphew is marrying a mennonite this fall.  This has caused quite a stir in the family as she is not converting and this is okay with my nephew .  However, we have accepted her at family gatherings and will pray for her reversion while trying to do da'wa (when and if we are given the opportunity).My brother and his wife will be having an elaborate wedding for them (over 300 people).  I have told my parents (the groom's grandparents) that I will not attend as I cannot morally celebrate my nephew marrying a non-muslim.  I also have to be an example for my own sons that this will be unacceptable to me if they follow the same path.  I do not want to be a hyprocrite to them i.e. "do as I say, not as I do".  My parents are insisting that I attend.  If I do not, I am sure that the relations with my brother's family will be completely cut off as they have expressed this to everyone in the famil.  However, I feel that is the price that may have to be paid to stand up for my principles and deen, and as a parent.The wedding will be mixed with music and dancing - I cannot use this as an excuse not to attend as the last wedding I attended was of this nature.  Please advise me what to do - will I be disobeying my parents if I do not attend or will I be gaining the favour of Allah (SWT) and setting my children on the right path?  I do not want to displease my elderly parents, but I fear that my children's future is at stake.Also, there are unconfirmed rumours (which I will bring up with my brother shortly) that her 'pastor' will "bless" the marriage.  Might I add that the local Imam will not officiate at their wedding.  We hear that an "imam" without proper certification to marry people in Canada will do the "nikah".  We have no idea about the civil ceremony.Forgive me for the length of this question.  I am eagerly waiting for your reply.Jazakum Allahu Kheiren.

Wife’s Obedience to Her Husband

Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaikum. My question is regarding Obedience to one?s Husband. I have been constantly bombarded with fights and challenges when it comes to my wife having issues when it comes to listening to me due to the fact that if she listens to me it would mean she is lowering herself. She know that I listen to her so it?s not a problem of I don?t listen to her.  She fights for 50-50 in almost everything. I told her that as the Husband and the man of the house she has to respect my position, but she is not a person who if someone say to jump she would ask how high.the last fight I would explain to help you to understand what I am going through and would hope that you can give guidance. One of her guy friends brother had died recently, however, the friend is a person whom I dislike not the deceased, the brother who would be present at the funeral. My wife wanted to go to the funeral to show her respects. However, I informed her that I would not be comfortable with her going. She didn?t accept, she didn?t see anything wrong with going and so even though I was disturbed about it she still insisted on going and still went.  She is saying what about what she wants to do, she says it?s not like she is going to do anything inappropriate she is just going to meet her friends. Is this a sufficient excuse for her to go to the funeral even though her Husband is requesting that he would not like her to go because he is not comfortable and also not in the country? Should I have lightened up due to the fact that it?s a death; let me add further that it was not a Muslim funeral. I trust my wife however, if I am displeased with her going, is her excuse for going valid? I told her she could have sent a card or called the person whom I still dislike, or if I was in the country we would have both gone together, just I ask that you don?t go to the funeral.  This was still not enough because she still went to the funeral and met her friends and she was fine. She didn?t see anything wrong and I being displeased was not enough for her not to go because in her mine although I dislike the person she justified that it?s a death. How do you picture this situation and what do u foresee. I must add that I didn?t want her to go based on the fact that the deceased brother had a likeness for my wife whom she would meet at the funeral, I am not jealous but I prefer to eliminate risk instead of outing fires. She would be going to the funeral to send condolences and sympathy to the person whom I don?t like, cause at the time of meeting my wife this person knew that I was intending to be with her yet still he would want to be a close friend to her and she allowed it due to that fact that we were not married as yet or not close as yet. Can you please give guidance based on what is right as a Muslim married couple because we are trying to live an Islamic life?how can someone expalin to a woman that Man is the head? And it is equity not equality? Men are facing lots of problems with women when it comes to roles and responsibilities being mixed up.thanking you in advance and wish that you could answer my question in detail concerning the issue with the funeral and guidance for married women.

Taking a person of the opposite sex as a close friend

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmutAllah, this matter I am about to ask you about has been a nagging issue in my mind. InshaAllah I hope you are able to provide me with a response to the best of your abilities. I am a 17 year old female public high school student. I have been in companies of all sorts, from the mixed genders of non-muslims to those of the same sex and same religion, but very much astray from the true light of Islam. It was not until a year ago that I became friends with a muslim boy who is very involved in the MSA and has introduced me to his muslim friends whom are all firm believers and good followers of Islam. The problem is, all the girls in my school that are muslims do not concern themselves with the deen and unfortunately are even comparable to the lost non-muslims who do not think of matters other than boys, sex and looks. I've always attempted to steer away and have not found salvation until I became friends with this boy. We always discuss Islamic matters to the best of our abilities and we always give each other good advice. This has allowed our friendship to grow but we steer away from haraam matters at all costs. I am usually found sitting in the library with this group of muslim boys. We do not chat about useless topics, rather we discuss many relevant matters to Islam and our studies. Is it permissable for me to say that my best friend is a boy? How can I approach this "gender dilemma" more Islamically? JazakAllahu khair. (P.S. as in, what are my boundries, limits, etc)

How to lead a happy life

Assalamu alaykum,Dear scholars, I would like to know - which things in your eyes/ in the eye of Islam is considered to be as a human "perfect" and have a happy life.I think: x) to be religious and understand Islam and follow it x) to have good relations to all people old, children, muslims, youth, etc. x) to be uptodate: have information about the modern world: politics, sports, etc. and now about history and past situations x) to have general informations about politics, geography, and everything x) having succes and work or study the best way one can x) good manner/good characters x) money and a beautiful, kind, religious wife x)to have a strong charakter x) to eat and life healthy and controll one´s weight x) to have a balance between health - job - Islam - family - friends - wife, etc x) to understand the world x) not to be passive and not to run away from problems. If there is any problem or something you don´t understand - doe´sn´t matter how small or silly it is to ask about it and solve it and not to save it for yourself that may lead to psychologic problems x) not to take everything very emotional and make from small things a large story, to ignore things (like f.ex. this person didn´t shake hands with me - not to be sad and angry etc. - to ignore this situation and just think he doesn´t see you) x) Smile to the world - it smiles to youand it would be great if you can add hadithes or verses of the holy quran or quotations of sahabis or prophets in talking about this topic: how to live a good, happy life, without problems and suffers. and how to handle with problems. etc. Salam