Marriage

I am about to get married and there is something that is bothering me a great deal. I have done a medical checkup and found out that I have herpes. I have been taking medications for this disease in order to prevent or suppress the virus from transferring. I talked to my doctor and she said that the medication would almost guarantee that the virus would not be transmitted. I have been hesitating to tell the truth to my fiancée. I am afraid that this will cause problems and I can't get married. Should I inform my fiancée of my disease?

I've been married for some years, but for the last 15 months my wife has refrained from engaging in sexual intercourse with me citing many reasons. She said that she does not feel well and that she is losing desire for sex and men. Am I permitted to seek sexual gratification outside marriage? What other alternatives do I have?

I have proposed to a girl. However, her father has requested a high dower (around 30,000$) only to be registered in the marriage contract (not to be paid in advance). Please inform me about the religious and the law commitments in case of my agreement on his request and what is the Islamic opinion on the high dower that is only registered on the marriage contract but not paid?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a German. My husband and I were married in Germany according to German law. I was Christian and then converted to Islam after my marriage. Some time ago my husband got to know that we have to be married Islamically, so that our marriage would be legal. So we decided to do this. But then my husband found out about a hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) which states that there has to be a wali for a Muslim woman in order for her marriage to be legal. But when my husband asked the person in charge of Islamic marriage measures (the Imam of the local mosque) whether there has to be a wali for me, the Imam said that this is not necessary for a woman who doesn’t live with her parents any more. I was a thirty-six-year old woman and lived on my own. We had our wedding with two Muslim witnesses and with the Imam, but without a wali. So we are worried concerning the Prophetic hadith which my husband knows. We want to know whether our marriage is Islamically legal or not. What should we do? Please give us your sincere advice. Jazakum Allah khayran.

Salam alaykoum warahamatou Allah wabarakatouh, Jazakoum Allah khair can u clarify those points coz i ve tried to read about them and i ll be thankfull to help me, those r my questions:Is it allowed in islam to discuss via net with men in niya of marriage? For a sucessful islamic familly is it important to marry from the same culture? what r the main points to look for in husband apart religion and behaviorsto know more about the other is it allowd in islam to go in public places with mahram (my young brother for exemple) or it is better to do it at home?Fi amane Allah

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. Is it Islamically permissible to remarry for the purpose of having a son? My wife and I have five daughters and my only son passed away last year. My wife can no longer have children. Is it permissible for me to remarry for the purpose of conceiving a boy? Do I need to have my wife’s consent to remarry? Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

hello ,i would like pls to ask about marriage ..my situation is that ive been in an unlawful relation with a muslim girl who is older than me we live in diffrent countries and we see each other every almost every other month..i want to make this halal and marry her but iam not sure if this will be the mother of my children that ill commit all my life to her and she also is not sure although we both love each other but we have many obstcales (like living in diffrent countires ..) is it a valid marriage to marry her without knowing for sure that ill be with her all my life ..i have no intention to leave her now ,she is aware of that .she above 30 years and didnt marry untill now and iam 25 so we ll safe each other from commitin g haram..also iam intending not to tell my family ,although they know about her as my girl friend but they are opposing the idea of marrying somone older than me .can this be a valid marriage?

Assalamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatu Allahi Wa BarakatahuDear Respected ScholarsI keep on hearing that there is a great reward in paying charity (sadaqah) for 2 people to get married who otherwise wouldn't be able to do so without the money.However I would like to know what is the reward? Is there a specific reward?May Allah Reward You with good.Walaykum As Salam Wa Rahmatu Allahi Wa Barakatahu

I am a Christian woman married to a Muslim man. Before marriage, I asked him if it is ok that I remain Christian, for I didn't want to convert. He said it was ok and that it did not disturb him at all. After we had been married for six months he said one day that I have to become a Muslim otherwise he’d leave (divorce) me. This was totally a shock to me and it disturbed me a lot to the extent that I wept for many days. I love him very much, but I don't know what to do. Is it right for him to do this? Please give some advice.

Salaam,I wish to marry a Shiite man and am concerned about the way he says his shahadah. Can you tell me exactly what it is Shiites add after 'Lailaha Illahla ho Muhammadan Rasoolallah'. Is it permissable to add this? I am very concerned this may amount to Shirk. Kindly advise me as fully as you can. Jazak-Allah.

Dear Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can you kindly let me know whether a Sunni Muslimah can marry an Agha Khani man? If not, please provide reference from the Qur’an and the Sunnah. This particular sect call themselves Muslims, which makes others believe that this should not even be an issue. Jazakum Allah khayran.

Assalamualaikum,Dear Scholars,I have three questions regarding marriage in Islam.First, a person lives in a country where shariah law is not implemented. Is it enough, from Islamic point of view, to only perform islamic wedding, without performing it in front of the legal authorities? If it is not enough, are two people sinful in any way if they are married only through the islamic wedding?Second, once again a person lives in a country where shariah law is not implemented. This country does not allow a man to have two wifes. If this man wants to marry a second wife, is it enogh for him to get married only through the islamic wedding? Remember, it is under no circumstances possible for this man to legalize this marriage according to the local law.Finally, if a man is married and he has all the neccessary means to marry a second wife, does he need the consensus from the first wife? If not, what are the wife's rights in case she doesn't at all agree with her husbands second marriage?I hope you can answer these questions. Thank you very much.Emir

As-salamu `alaykum. Is it possible for Muslims to marry without the assistance of an imam or sheikh or wali, by swearing by Allah, placing their hands on the Qur'an, and declaring their love for each other? After that, can the couple consummate this union? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear respected scholars Should a Muslim woman make du'a for a particular person (who she strongly desires)to propose to her, and for herself to marry with him for the sake of Allah? I barely know the person (which I encounter sometimes especially in school. (We don't do such things as conversing and so forth)  I am just very physically attracted to him and I liked his manners towards me from the last time we encountered each other. And I like how he doesn't socialize with women(at least from what I've witnessed). None the less I can not assume his piety and goodness of character/'adab, I do not want to want him (as do not know his level of piety and righteouness. But can not help it. I constantly question myself if it is okay to desire marriage with such a person. I wonder if  it is okay for me to ask Allah that he allows us to marry for his sake only. At the same time I ask Allah to not allow such to happen if it will not benefit me in this life or the next.

As-Salamo Alaykom! I wanted to ask if a girl has to tell the one who is proposing to marry her everything about herself?For example if she has problems with the hormons and because of that she has a few more hair on her face and she takes medicaments to become better. But what happens if it doesn't come to an engagement or they don't marry then?I mean maybe he isn't a good person and tells these secrets to other people.Iam very confused because of that and need your help. What should and shouldn't a girl say and when??

I would like to ask regarding the procedures involved when a Muslim man marries a Catholic woman. Is there any special procedures that have to be followed, that is different from the nikah? What about the Catholic marriage procedures? Are there supposed to be two types of marriages for the couple? Also, what happens to the children should the couple decide to have them? Would they be allowed to decide their own religion? Basically I would just like to know what are the implications and possible problems in such a marriage.Thank you very much.

assalam alayekom dear brothers , I am a  25 years old teacher ;  who felt in love with a  pious , beautiful  , mature  and strictly conservative  15 years old student who lives in a rural region where i work  , The issue is  that, in our country , the legal age to get married for a female has become 18 years old  since the reform of 2004 ,so my question would be : 1- Is it halal or permissible if I proposed to her parents for engagement , with the intention  of waiting  2 to 3 years till she reaches the marriageable age ? I heard from different sources that the period of engagement in Islam  shouldn't be that  long  ( it is makrouh )?  My second question has a counseling nature : since I'm a shy guy , what would be the appropriate  way u can suggest , to confront my parents with my willing ?Thanks a lot for your help .

Salaam Allaikum, I would like to know if it is valid for a Sunni to marry an Ismaili? If not then why is this the case when a Sunni is allowed to Marry a Chritian or a Jew? JZK for your efforts.

Asalmualaykumi would just like to ask that, if i wanted to get married to girl that is religious, but my perants tell me not to get married to her becasue she is not from the same origen as us or because of her skin colour, then what should i do? will my marriage be accepted if i still get married and my perants dont want me to? jasacallahu kayran

Assalamu Alaykum.  May Allah (SWT) bless you for this wonderful service.  I will try to be brief.My newphew is marrying a mennonite this fall.  This has caused quite a stir in the family as she is not converting and this is okay with my nephew .  However, we have accepted her at family gatherings and will pray for her reversion while trying to do da'wa (when and if we are given the opportunity).My brother and his wife will be having an elaborate wedding for them (over 300 people).  I have told my parents (the groom's grandparents) that I will not attend as I cannot morally celebrate my nephew marrying a non-muslim.  I also have to be an example for my own sons that this will be unacceptable to me if they follow the same path.  I do not want to be a hyprocrite to them i.e. "do as I say, not as I do".  My parents are insisting that I attend.  If I do not, I am sure that the relations with my brother's family will be completely cut off as they have expressed this to everyone in the famil.  However, I feel that is the price that may have to be paid to stand up for my principles and deen, and as a parent.The wedding will be mixed with music and dancing - I cannot use this as an excuse not to attend as the last wedding I attended was of this nature.  Please advise me what to do - will I be disobeying my parents if I do not attend or will I be gaining the favour of Allah (SWT) and setting my children on the right path?  I do not want to displease my elderly parents, but I fear that my children's future is at stake.Also, there are unconfirmed rumours (which I will bring up with my brother shortly) that her 'pastor' will "bless" the marriage.  Might I add that the local Imam will not officiate at their wedding.  We hear that an "imam" without proper certification to marry people in Canada will do the "nikah".  We have no idea about the civil ceremony.Forgive me for the length of this question.  I am eagerly waiting for your reply.Jazakum Allahu Kheiren.

Dear scholars, Assalam Allaikumi am a 29y old girl, Alhamdulilah i have a good job and i am successful on a professional level. i have been through lots of hardship in my life but i always kept the positive attitude and always had faith in the future. However lately, i have been through a major trauma that breaks me down completely. i admit that i did a mistake and that i played a role in what happened to me. But i regret all what i did and i repent my deeds and asked forgiveness from God. i promised myself that i will never do again what i did and that i will keep myself close to the right path. i still have feelings that i cannot get rid off and i feel very guilty. I will not talk about what i did exactly and what happened but i need your advice on how to strengthen my faith. My problem is that I lost sense of life and it no longer means anything to me. I even sometimes wish for death which I am fully aware that I should not do. I was always strong but now I reached a point where I cannot take anything any longer. I am fighting very hard with myself, I read Quran, I pray (I always do my prayers), I do Du?aa, but unfortunately, I feel  very miserable and that God is not happy with me at all. I feel lost and very desperate?I do not know what to do especially that I am alone far from my family. I live abroad and I cannot go back as I am the one to help the family financially?.i am not sure if what I am going through is the start of a psychological depression which needs to be assisted but a professional doctor or if it is just the spiritual void. I have been looking for books, checking on the net on anything to help me out but I am the same since now 4 months or so. I feel very lonely especially that all my friends got married and no w have different lives?sometimes I feel that if I also have a family around, I may feel better but this is something which is not in my hand. I want to get closer to God and to Religion but when I have my traumatic moments I cannot keep good faith?I don?t stop crying & I feel very very bad inside? I want to have a peaceful life like I used to have and I want like any other girl to have a home for her own (but I believe that marriage is but a Destiny)?please advise me what I should do? And if Ru?qia can be an option to release the inner tension and pressure I currently have? Sorry for being so long?wa assalam alaykum

what is calssified as having sex before marriage in islam?

Asslamualaikum,I received(information) this incident and the quranic verse frm a non muslim... can u plz verify if its correct and also i did not understand the meaning of the ayat can u plz explain the following ASAP.....jazakallah. ""Muhammad sent a military expedition to Awtas on the occasion of the battle of Hunain. They met their enemy and fought with them. They defeated them and took them captives. Some of the Companions of Muhammad were reluctant to have intercourse with the female captives in the presence of their husbands who were unbelievers. So Allah sent down the Qur'anic verse: (Sura 4:24) "And all married women (are forbidden) unto you save those (captives) whom your right hands possess." (Abu Dawud 2150)"""

Aslamu `alaykom . I`m 25 years old woman and I fell in love with 30 years old man we are both educated and pray five times a day , because I did`nt finished my studies , my parents don`t want us to get married now , but I live far away from my parents because of my studies, so he always come to see me , and in order to make our relationship H`alal we put our hands together and sayed to each other that we accept marrying. Did we do a right step ? Is our relation H`alal now ? Can we have sex as someone told him ?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I was told by one of my relatives that it is a part of Islam, not just a part of culture, that when you want to get married, first you should look within your family. Then if there is no one suitable from among your near relatives, you should look to your distant relatives, and if not then within your community, and if not your community then within your race, and finally if this is not possible then within your religion. I understand everything from the community and on, but I was wondering if it is necessary to look within the family first? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Is the husband’s verbal commitment before concluding the marriage contract not to marry another woman binding? Bearing in mind that the couple in question have been together for seventeen years and the pledge was given to the wife’s family; yet he threatens to marry another woman.

According to the preponderant opinion of the scholars, may Allaah have mercy upon them, being just and trustworthy are not a condition for the validity of being a guardian; if the wali who is a brother or a father does not pray nor fast can he appoint some one else to conduct the marriage on his behalf.if the woman is a widow can she conduct the marriage by herself second question if the bridegroom divorces his wife but after that he realises that the marriage which he conducted is void. does divorce is counted

Asalam 'aalaikum, I wanted to ask you that if a girl and a boy can be married if the guy asks her thrice if she wanted to marry her and he agreed and gave up all her rights with her own consent with out any witnesses.

As-salamu `alaykum. Highly respected scholar, my question is in regards to the validity of a marriage to a sick spouse. Unfortunately, some time ago, a brother I know went through a moral lapse and fell victim to a sexual act that left him with an unharmful, yet incurable, STD (namely herpes - type II). Although this was one of the few times that he committed such an act, his fate was to contract this disease for life. After more than a year of deep regret, depression, and agony, he managed to pull himself together and put his life back on track.he recently proposed to me, and I am now in a dilemma. I know there is a hadith that states that one should not marry a sick spouse. Would this be applicable in such a case? I believe this STD is prevalent in a 1/4 of the population in the US. I appreciate your kind advice on this. Jazakum Allahu k hayran.

Assalamu alaykumMy problem is that I am 24 years old and I am in love with a 27 year old Muslim girl. I asked about her and found out that she is religious, has a good character, is intelligent, have kind parents, etc. but when I told my parents that I want to marry her, they refused because she is older than me and said: it is haram to marry an older girl, no one will accept it, not the society, not we, and not her parents nor ISLAM. Moreover girls don´t want to marry a younger man - they need an older man and not a younger one. So forget this.Well what should I do??? Are my parents right??? Is it haram to marry an older girl, will the society, her parents and Islam not accept this marriage??? Do girls really don´t want to marry a younger one??

Is throwing or eating, marriage dinner from girls side considered haram, or is it a sin in anyway.

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I am a 26 year old female and my parents are asking me to get married but I want to be single all my life. I am afraid of this commitment because I have seen my parents’ dysfunctional marriage. And is it necessary for a woman to marry? Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

 ASSALAM ALEIKUM Please sheikh advice me on this it is 8 years since i got my last proposal for marriage,i'm 28 years of age alhamdullilah.I give out charity,fasting apart from Ramadan and asking ALLAH in my prayers to give suitable husband.Should i stop asking about marriage and instead i should ask for jannah which i also include in my prayers.As in islam it says(don't cry/be angry for the thing that has kher with you & don't beg or be happy for the thing that has shar with you)so maybe marriage has no kher with me.Because when there are proposes at our home they always look for my younger sisters as though i don't exist this makes me very sad i ask why not me,my sisters,friends and others younger than me have been married for ages.Give me duaa or what for me to do more. Secondly i have experience when i say something deep in to my heart it happens do you think i h've an evil eye or it just fiction.THANK YOU.

Is it permissible for muslims to go for court marriage in a non-muslim western country? When they are already enagaged with the consents of their guardians and the purpose of court marriage is for filew ork of immigration petition.So that later when they get married actually by Sheriya Nikah,they dont have to live apart for years waiting for immigration.Also tell me from islamic point of view does this marriage have any legal rights of being spouse of each other. And if they take step of breaking this bond,by the country law they will have to go through legal court procedure of divorce. Would they be regarded of commiting the sin of divorce by sheriyah? Please help me in this regard.Thanks alot and JazakAllah Kher.

Assallamu Alikeum! I would like a fatwah on the following topic -My son married a little over a year ago and his wife was not able to consummate the marriage - Through many efforts they tried to resolve the issue, including doctors and sheiks, to no avail.  My son requested a divorce on the grounds that his wife was unable to let him sleep with her.  Now she is requesting her dowry in full and "nafaka" - does she have any rights to these, or does my son have the right to request back the gold, money, etc.... that he spent on her, or that we spent on her? I would appreciate a complete answer as soon as possible.Sallamu Alikeum.

Dear Scholars Assalamu Alaikum.I have this question about Marriage. I would be very very greatful if one of you taketime to answer my question.My Question is What I know is Marriage in court office is demed legal given that Bride and Groom consented, There are at least 2 Muslim witnesses , Mehr is determined and Wali for Bride gave consent . My question is whether it is necessary for the person who is conducting the marriage to declare the Mehr. If he/she does not declare it loud the Marriage is valid ornot ?Thank you for your time.Allah Hafiz

My love and i are deep in love  with each other for two years . we have promised to love respect and care for each other  as life moves on . we have good understanding and faith in Allah . But our Families seems to hamper .His family cannot accept me because i am a divorcee and his family circumstances dont match with mine at all .  Both families are pushing us to get married to someone else . But neither i nor he thinks its right . Its hampering our relationships .When there is love material things like status money and social pressures are unwanted issues . we are very happy together and loosing again the man i love will destroy me totally.Please response.

I would like to know if you are allowed to have a relationship before you get married. (not necesarily sexual, just... to be in love and be together)I hope I am asking this at the right place. I am very sorry if I am not; the rules just weren't completely clear to me. Please excuse me if I am doing this wrong.I am writing an article and the Saudi Arabian law system, especially on relationships. (normal and gay marriage) that's why I'm asking this. I thought you might want to know..I have been doing a lot of research, and this one particular thing just isn't clear to me.because..I have a friend in Saudi Arabia, who isnt allowed to have a girlfriend, and the girls father was about to kill her when he found out about her and my friend..this really worried me and inspired me to do some research.

asalam-u-alaikum, i signed my marriage contract (nikah) in summer 2007. i have read many fatwas posted, though all gave me a good understanding but i still need more answer, a bit more specific to me. my wife is a cousin of mine who i have secretly loved (never mentioned to anyone simply prayed to allah that i may marry her someday and that someday finally came) her mother passed away when she was only about 9 or 10 years of age and i felt a lot of pain for her as she would be deprived of a mothers love. after signing the contract we quickly connected as i told her my feelings for her. and i began day by day to carress her more and more to show her my affection, but not goingto the extent of any serious intimacy. my roots are in pakistan and i currently reside in canada studyingengineering, its a culture thing that husband is not to consumate before the marriage ceremony (different from the walimah) although my parents never intervened if we spent time together alone. i told this so you can possibly better understand my questions.now that im back in canada, my wife still in pakistan, we talk over the phone and via the internet, we listen toeach others harships confort each other along the way and show affection for each other everytime. we also indulge in cyber sex and/or phone sex, is this allowed for me and my wife? and i will admit it does relax me when im tenseand vice versa and really helps me guard my gaze. also ive read the fatwa that only 4 months of separation isallowed from one's wife, is this true even if i have not yet consumated?also sometimes she tells me that she really needs me, like be with her, and i feel really bad and useless that i can't satisfy that need of hers. and the same thing goes for me somtimes i feel really alone, somtimes i can'teat properly, sleep is disrupted, i even cry sometimes while reciting surah Ya'sin. i know i have to be patient, but its getting harder n harder im begining to doubt that my prayers are not being accepted because of my own fault. what can i do? also is it ok for me to fantasize about my wife ( ie intimate fantasies)?also, what is the ruling on enlargment remedies for the private parts? one thing how short ca the beard be? my wife asks me shorten it. please provide me answers with as much detail as possible. thank you for listening, may allah bless you and helpeveryone attain jannah. ameen.

Dear sir May Allah reward you for answering my question.It is too urgent that requires no delay. I read some fatwa on the necessity of writting marriage If the marriage is not written.IS IT LEGAL OR ZINA,bearing in mind that the two parties agree and there is witnesses , dowary  a party attended by the family .Can one rely on the telepone or webcome to receive the consent  of the WALI  if he lives in an other country or the woman is a widoww

Title:  Can a Muslim man marry a Muslim woman who had a child through illicit affairs?A Muslim woman had a child when she was 15.  She married the child's father 6 months into her pregnancy.  The child was born into the world after the Muslim girl and the child's father were married.  14 yrs later, the Muslim girl and the father of the child got a divorce.  What are the rules in islam about a Muslim man marrying a Muslim woman who became pregnant prior to marriage?  Local social customs say that marrying such a woman will bring trouble for the family for 7 generations.  Is this social custom at all islamic?

Alsalamualaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuRespected scholars--Recently, I have been feeling that it is the right time for me to think about marriage. After searching for a little while, I found an amazing young lady whom I feel that I am very compatible with. I am a little worried, however, about the extent to which she currently practices her religion. She prays and fasts and has zikr of Allah, however she doesn't wear the hijab and her clothes, at times, are far from modest. She told me that she has the niyya to get better, though I am not sure how long that will take. Allahu Alam.Do you believe that I am making too much of a big deal out of this? How do you suggest I proceed?Jazzakum Allahu khayr

my brother plans to marry a second time without informing his first wifehe has 3 children from the first wifehe intends to keep the marriage secret . i donot know how long he plans to keep it secret. is this allowed

Assalamulaikum,When a man and woman intend to get married, is it mandatory to get the parents permission?Also, is it permissible for an imam while leading prayers, to have the quran open infront of him and read from it if he has not memorised the surah? Jazzakullahukhair.

Assalamu alicoum! If a muslim man gets married to a christian woman, in what religion should be raised their children?

I m a muslim boy and belong to fiqah Hanafia.i have some questions about wedding issues in our islam. 1)in which religions we can marry easily? 2) islam says that there wld be 72 firqah's so can we marry any of them or not? 3) ismaili's (Agha khani)are muslim ? and can we marry them? coz they said they also belive in one God and our holy prophet.plz assist me in this regard. i ask this question several times but no one can give me a suitable ans rgdsausaf

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum.there is a recent debate among Muslim jurists on the ruling on marrying one of conjoined twins to another person: In cases of conjoined twins, is it Islamically valid for one of them to get married to another person before surgical separation? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

 I have questions about Mahr. Could you first explain what exactly it is? When a divorce takes place, does the wife get to keep ALL her Mahr, when it is not her fault the marriage is breaking up?

Asalamu Alaikum,Is it halal or haram to marry for a specified period of time i.e. 1 hours, 1 day, 1 week, 1 month etc..?I want the answer to be the position of Islam on that; not the point of view of one scholar, Sunna or Shia; just what's Islam's position on that matter? Thanks.Asalamu Alaikum.

Salam Alaykom. I have a question. My wife apparently does not have orgasms and I would like for her to have them, especially since my wife is upset about it. Is it ok if my wife takes a medicine to help her acheive this and what is islam's ruling on orgasms? Jazakum Allah Khayran

assalam alaikum is it allowed to marry a person with a contagious disease like hiv..? im in doubt with this because i have read it is forbidden to marry such a person.is it important to let parents know about the persons status of hiv before marriage or can it be told after marriage?

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. If a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim women, is there a specific time restriction to make her convert or doesn't she have to convert her at all? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Asalamuallaukum, I would like to ask you a question, if person have Usher syndrome and is from in the family. Does this means it is better to go for outside family not to choose anyone within family?What concern me.... if marrying within family can this cause greater problem?Many thank you for taking time reading my question....Jakazallah Khair May allah bless you.....Allah Hufiz Sister in Islam. 

salam when a femal child drink milk form the boys mother and the boys is also child drinking milk then can the boy marrie the girl? simply can some one marrie a milk share girl ?

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I got married in a non-Muslim country in the embassy of the country where my wife is from. I did this so she would have a wali (guardian), but the witnesses were not Muslim. Is my marriage permissible despite that? Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

I am engaged and I will register my marriage at the court in the next couple of weeks. I just want to know what is Halal to do with my fiancé and what is not in the period between our marriage registration and the official wedding? I appreciate your efforts.

Marriage, in Islam, is a solemn contract for which the Shari`ah lays down rules and arrangements to guarantee its stability. Also, a Muslim should seek a righteous spouse for marriage. Religion and good character should be the top concern of every Muslim when looking for a spouse. This is compatible with the Prophet’s guidance: “If

i want to know that i have done the nikah in the presence of 4 witness and the sister of the bride but without the presence of girl's wali so is my marriage is void or not in the eyes of Allah and regarding to islam only not courtthank u

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a divorced woman with one child. Is it unfair of me to accept the marriage proposal of a very good Muslim man who has never been married? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is the decision of marrying somebody totally a person's decision or is it influenced by Allah's will? Why do some people say that marriages are made in heaven? If so then how come we are responsible for the marriages made here plus why some people are so lucky to have the compatible spouse and others not. I personally believe that the decision is entirely ours until we seek "Mashwara" from Allah in the form of “Istikharah “. But then the enigma of marriages made in heaven remains unresolved. What do you think? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear BrotherI know that sex before marriage is forbidden. My question is that I have been told that if some one performs sexual intercourse with his girlfriend than he cannot marry this woman. Is this true?

as salamualaikum i have a dilemma and was wondering if u could help me plz. i am very much in love with a girl. alhamdulliah she is a great muslimah. we both have principals ando so would not go out with each other. i do plan on marrying her tho. the problem is i do not no how she feels about me. i was wondering if their are any duas wich cud help her to love me or anything of the sort. i have also heard of a namaaz istighfar.  i was wondering if u could tell me how to read it plz. jazakallah, i luk forward to hearing from you.

Dear Scholars,Assalamu alaykumIf Allah has created everything in pairs, then why are so many of our Muslim sisters unmarried? Ma 'az Allah, I'm not doubting, I just dont understand. It has become such a big issue in our society today, and it's very worrying. Your opinion in this regard will be highly appreciated.Also, how can a muslim sister actively look for a spouse, as in a lot of cases it isn't culturally acceptable for sisters to be very vocal in marital issues. Jazakum Allah khair for your advice.Asalaamu alaykum.

AoA respected scholars. I need your help desperately. I am 35 years old and have been doing istakara for marriage. On one occassion i have had a great feeling about the potential marriage and good dreams but the male was younger and his parents have not agreed. The other time the male is good in every aspect. ie deen, secure, good character but my dreams and heart have not felt right. I want to be married desperately and know that it is Allahs will that i am not married. But please tell me about the istakara dua and what i should look for? 2ndly What dua should i pray in oder to get married as i seem to feel extremely helpless and cry about this to Allah?

Assalamualikummy question is related to nikah, i am a pakistani and like in our culture, we have nikah, then rukhsati and then walima, so i have just had my nikah, the ruksati will be next year along with the walima, currently im not staying with my husband im living with my parents. So because of our culture, our parents have imposed restrictions on us, we cant go out, we cant sit together, we cant spend time alone...so my question is that, to what degree are they right? do restrictions have any meaning on us now as we have done the nikah? or are we free to do whatever we like? and other than that, if we do not follow their restrictions they will be issues around the society...so basically what i want to ask is that, although we are husband and wife, do we have to follow our parents will? will not following it cause sin on us?thank you

Assalamualaikum. In Islam, is there a particular month which is advisable best to get married in? Someone told me that Syawal is a good month, what about other months? And how true is all this? Thanks!

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I have been told to recite the second half starting from 'Rabi' of Surah Al Qasas[28:24] to find a spouse of my match, which was read by Moosa and allah  granted him with the wife of his match.the reason why I am consulting you is that I need your advice on the 'Dua' which may help me in finding the right match made for me.

why a muslim woman can not marry a non-muslim man?

Salaam,Does a womans duty to her family end or lessen after she gets married? My sister got married about 2 years ago. My family was excited at first, but now after two years the attitude is basically, ?She?s married now, we?ve lost her?.I?ve often noticed that when a conflict arises between a woman and her in-laws, the imam and scholars will often say that it is haram to make a man choose between his mother and wife. They will often stress the fact that it is the wife has a responsibility toward her in-laws. Why is the same advise not given to the man when he and his father-in-law are in conflict?I swear to god when I say this, but at 30 yrs old, I have never heard an imam or scholar say that a man must respect his wife?s family. In fact many men will verbally abuse their wife by cursing and insulting her family. They do this quite mercilessly. On the other hand if the wife were to say something, the results are often disastrous.In the case of a conflict between the husband and father, the woman is often told to side with the husband, effectively pitting one party against the other. Why is the woman never told to try to find a balance, like the man is told too. Is she no longer a daughter? To add to the insult the man is often told to ?relax? in this area so that his wife can see her family, as it is some sort of privilege that the husband may give his wife if she is ?obedient?.I know that it is a grave sin for a woman to insult her husbands parents and to break ties with them, but does this also apply to the husband and his wifes family? Is the sin of bad behavior toward the husbands family equivalent to the sin of bad behavior to the wife?s family? In other words is it worse to insult the husbands family than the wifes family? Does the bad behavior towards the wifes family even classify as a sin?I?ve often been told that we shouldn?t question Islam because we cannot question Allah. I hate to say this, but I cannot understand why this behavior is accepted. I tried to tolerate it at first but as of recently I cannot help but question.

Assalamoalikum brothers and sisters! Bismillah hi Rehman ir Raheem How hould you marry according to sunnah? Say that you have found a religious, pious women and you are marrynig tomorrow, how would you do the whole thing?nikah has to be in masjid?what about waleema? You know brother in our weddings we mostly invite our friends and families, and mostly forget the poor and the needy? Can I give sadaqah instead? If yes then how much sadaqah lets say if the waleema costs 100 euros? Holy prophet (SAWW) says, beat the drums on your marriage. You know in our country women sit with a drum in our homes around ¾ days before the wedding and sing wedding songs, is that ok? If not can we pay some drummers (males)to beat the drums for us and dance with joy (no vulgarity)? What about dowry? Who pays whom? What If your parents insist on something against shriah in wedding ceremony? What about giving a diamond ring to fiaince?Jazakumullaho khairun, Mubashir

As-salaam-alay-kum, I have recently read some disturbing fatwas and needed to know your opinion in this matter. A non-muslim friend of mine read that Islam allows divorce even before marriage so he told me and I was very shocked too.  Seems like Hanafi and Maliki fiqhs allow divorce before marriage while Hanbali and Shafaee do not. For example, what I read also was that if an unmarried man made a statement while he was still single that "If I marry XYZ (named a lady) then she is divorced" then according to Hanafis and Mailikis the lady will be automatically divorced from him as soon as he marries her. What is your opinion on this issue? Also can you please provide me with any evidence (Quran or Sunnah) that validates Hanifi and Maliki opinions that a divorce statement before marriage is valid and applicable in future marriage. In short, why Hanafis and Malikis count this is divorce? So which opinion is more correct and supported by evidence? I need this to find out the truth on this matter so i can also educate my non-muslim friend that why it is like this. Please do reply as soon as possible. Jazzak Allah.

I am 27 years male from India. I have few questions regarding my marriage; 1. My parents want to marry me to cousin (daughter of my father?s elder sister). They are pressurizing me to say yes to their will and do the engagement. She is a quite beautiful, moderate(low) practicing Muslimah and has little education (12th standard). Therefore I don?t wan to marry her. I really don?t know how to refuse to my parent. So far I have been very much obedient to my parents. I wanna how I can refuse to my parents. Will it be considered as disobedience to my parents? As much I know they cannot force me to marry with a girl of their choice?2. Is it better to marry in relationship (like my cousin) or outside the family? As much I know prophet (PBUH) recommended marrying outside the family and clan? Please tell me the preferred way as per the Sunnah. Allah hafiz

Asalam-u-Alaikum, I signed the marriage contract in summer 2007. I'm going to visit my wife this summer (2008), we have not consummated since marriage ceremony has not taken place yet. it will be almost a year after the signing of the contract that I see my wife. My question is am I allowed to sleep with her? what if parents don't allow it? Am I allowed to demand my right to sleep with her (if I have this right)?Wasalam,

assalamu alaikum. Is it permissible for a muslim lady to marry a christian man

is it compelsury to do sex with wife on ist night of marriage? how to do sex with wife(with condom or without comdom)in islam?

Which of the two should take priority: getting married or performing Hajj?

What are the religeous consequences of a Muslim woman marrying a Sikh man? Both are to continue practicising their own religions even after marriage.

As-Salamu `Alaykum Can a girl marry her cousin whose mom has breast fead her.

Is it allowed in Islam for the nikah to be conducted while both the groom and bride are present together in the same room, seated together in presence of everybody? I don't understand segregation if you are getting married like some people insist it should be.

Assalaamu Alaikum,I m a divorcee. Please let me know any duas for getting married, prosperity in business & for taking care of my parents.Jazakallah.

Scholars of Islam, As-Salaam `Alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh. What is the concept of Ishhar in marriage. Is it obligatory? Do witnesses substitute for it? Jazakum Allah kharyan.

As-Salamu `alaykum. Could you please tell me what is the ideal way to find a partner (wife), or how did the Prophet’s Companions find their wives?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Please elaborate on the importance of two witnesses for the bride. Also explain what is the Mahr Shar`i (amount in dollars) for Nikah. Can any Muslim perform the Nikah ceremony? Is signing the documents by bride and groom necessary in front of the witnesses?

Dear scholars, As-Salam u `alaykum. My marriage contract was witnessed by three witnesses, two of whom signed as witnesses. Then we discovered that one of the two witnesses was unrighteous, for he does not observe Prayer. Is the marriage contract considered valid in this case, or should it be redone with two righteous witnesses? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Respected scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What are the rules for the marriage of a Muslim man with a Christian woman, with her keeping her faith? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible to make love to my fiancée` once our marriage contract is signed and finalized but before we have our wedding ceremony? Could you please elaborate on how should the relationship between the spouses be during this period according to Shari`ah and customs? Some parents are very strict in this regard to the extent that they prevent the married couple to be alone with one another? Jazakum Allah khayran.

A woman was married to a man who used to drink alcohol, beat her, and treat her badly. She ran away from him to another country with her child to marry another man who did not know that she had already been married. The second husband knew the fact after the death of the first husband. What is the ruling of the Shari`ah on this case? What is the ruling on the marriage contract with the second husband? Should she return to him with their first contract or should there be a new contract? Does she have to observe `iddah (waiting period) for her first husband?

Recently, we have heard about some Muslim countries issuing laws stating a minimum age for marriage. Is there a minimum age for marriage in Islam? Is enacting such laws permitted?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. The law of courts in the State of Virginia stipulates that whoever wants to marry should have permission from one of the local courts, after which he may conclude the marriage contract according to his own religious beliefs. So I would like to know the ruling pertaining to the marriage contract concluded by a non-Muslim official or that concluded by a priest in the church between a Muslim and a Christian woman. Jazakum Allah khayran.

Scholars of Islam, As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahamtu Allah wa Barakatuh. I’d like to know whether it’s permissible for a woman to add to the marriage contract a condition that her husband must not marry another woman?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I love one of my cousins who also shares the same feelings. However, some of our relatives spread some untrue business regarding us. My parents wanted my older brother to marry the same woman, even if he dislikes it. I ask you, what is my and her right to marry with our choice (with the happiness of both families) according to Isla m? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a Muslim man. Am I allowed to marry a Muslim girl who does not pray five times a day but wears hijab and she is of a good character? She does not pray because of laziness.

My wife and I had a quarrel and in a state of anger, I said: "I ask Almighty Allah to separate me from you!" I did not mean divorce, rather, I meant that Almighty Allah makes one of us die and thus we separate from each other? Is this considered divorce and what should I do?

According to the sayings of the scholars on this matter: The divorce of the angry person is valid according to the people of knowledge, except when the angry person loses his wits due to his extreme anger, and that is when the anger reaches its peak, and anger takes control over his mind and his

As-salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible in Islam for the one who committed zina (fornication or adultery) with a certain woman to marry her daughter? I have heard that such marriage is not permissible. Is that true? Please answer as soon as possible. Jazakum A llah khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykum. I heard that if a woman and a man verbally agree to get married and agree on her dower, they are married in the eyes of Allah without the need of a sheikh to be present. But that is only temporary until they go to a sheikh and get officially married. Is that true? Can they be married in the eyes of Allah if they only agree verbally and he gives her the dower?

What is the Islamic ruling on marriage? And when it is deemed obligatory?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. We recently got married in a US court, even though we haven’t started living together. I want to know do we also need to do an Islamic nikah ceremony or is our marriage valid? Can we start living together? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I was wondering if the nikah (contract of marriage) must be held in a Mosque? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykum. I’m a Muslimah. I know and agree that I should marry a Muslim. I come from a Syed (member of the Prophet’s) family, and my parents (especially my father) believe that a woman from a Syed family can only marry a Syed. I really do not understand this because he believes that other "regular" Muslims, as he refers to them, are not given this privilege to marry a Syed and that Syed women are like their mothers. I am confused. I thought all Muslims were equal and I even read a Hadith that a father should not reject an acceptable suitor. I know that certain families have preferences, but this is beyond that because in my family it doesn't matter what family a suitor is from as long as he is Syed. This restriction is placed only on women, though in some Syed families the men are also restricted. Please tell me if there is such a thing and if it has any meaning.