Dear Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. I want to ask about the household stuff list (Al-Qa'imah) we make in Egypt before marriage, but I don't know what is the fair things to write. The situation is: the groom contributes in preparing a marital house, say, for instance, he chooses to furnish two rooms and provide other things, (carpets, for example), while the bride provides two rooms and other things (electric equipments, kitchen, etc). What is the Islamic ruling on this? Thanks in advance.
A man married a woman who had a daughter from her ex-husband. Is it allowed in Islam for this man's son to marry the daughter of his father's new wife (from her previous husband)?
Dear scholars, as-salamu `alaykum.how important is marriage? Is delaying marriage right? The reason for my questions is that I want to have my wedding as soon as possible, but my family is demanding that it be delayed until the end of the year as they believe it would be "wrong" to not have my brother and sisters-in-law attend. They want to wait on their immigration. They are also worried about what people would say if my wedding was done without their presence. I don’t want to delay as we have been holding the other party for about two and a half years. This is unfair to the other party as well as myself. Any advice? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. I did not do istikharah prayer before I got married. Things have been difficult for me after my marriage (of just a few months). Is it OK to perform istikharah to seek guidance on whether I should stay in this marriage?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a Muslimah who is getting married soon. I want to know if it is necessary for the couple to have sex on the first night and are there are any restrictions about having sex? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I was told by one of my relatives that it is a part of Islam, not just a part of culture, that when you want to get married, first you should look within your family. Then if there is no one suitable from among your near relatives, you should look to your distant relatives, and if not then within your community, and if not your community then within your race, and finally if this is not possible then within your religion. I understand everything from the community and on, but I was wondering if it is necessary to look within the family first? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Is the husband’s verbal commitment before concluding the marriage contract not to marry another woman binding? Bearing in mind that the couple in question have been together for seventeen years and the pledge was given to the wife’s family; yet he threatens to marry another woman.
I have noticed that there is a trend inviting young people to refrain from marriage via numerous methods, including intimidating them as regards the responsibilities they are to shoulder as well as casting doubt over the institution of marriage itself. Is there a way to refute these allegations?
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Could you please shed more light on the mutual rights of the husband and wife? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Is the dower--the money given by the groom's side which is known as mahr--supposed to be given to the bride or to the bride's father?
I would like to get married but do not want to have kids at all. If I can find a husband to agree to this, is it okay to not ever have kids?
Is a person allowed to marry his mother-in-law if he divorces her daughter?Notes: the lady is no longer his mother-in-law now.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What does Islam say about birth control? Is it true that sex cannot be used for pleasure and only for reproduction? I was under the impression that this view exists only in Christianity. Please give references from the Qur’an and Hadith. Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I am a 26-year-old doctor and not yet married. I am concerned about this. Earlier this year some marriage proposals came to me but I turned them down. But I now think that they may have been suitable for me. I didn't pray Istikharah. I have asked forgiveness for this. Please tell me a du`a’ (supplication) that will hasten my marriage to a good Muslim man. Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum, I’m a Muslim that lives in the US and all the time people ask me questions about Islam and I always answer them based on logic and thinking. But there is only one question that I don’t know how to answer it; it’s about the fact that men are allowed to marry up to four wives at a time. What is the reason behind that and how can we answer this question in women’s right perspective of view? If women and men are equal in Islam, then why can’t women marry four husbands? I face this question all the time and I don’t know how to answer it. I prefer the answer in English so I can make people read it and so they can understand more. Jazakum Allahu Khayran!
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. My question is, if the nikah (Islamic marriage contract) of a woman took place during her period, is it valid? Jazakum Allah khayran.
I would like to thank you a lot for the efforts you exert in conveying the message. My question goes as thus: Is it permissible to make marriage announcement on the Internet because we see many people marry via the Internet whether by chat or marriage announcement by sending photos and exchanging ideas? Thanks a lot in advance!
Respected scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum! Is it allowed for a Muslim woman to conclude her own marriage contract without the presence of her wali (guardian)? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. What are the criteria for choosing life partner in the light of golden teachings of Islam? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. I have a friend who came to this country illegally. He has a wife and children back home, but in order to get a green card, he is planning to send a written divorce paper to his wife and then get married on paper only in this country. When he gets his green card, he will divorce his “paper” wife here and resume his relationship with his real wife back home and hopefully be able to bring her here. The question is whether the paper divorce to the wife back home is considered an Islamic divorce? He has no intention to divorce her. Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. My wife and I are happily married. One morning I had a very bad quarrel with my mother and in a very furious mood, I said that if your people have so many queries about my wife then tell my wife that I have divorced her (3 times). My wife was not present because she was in her parents’ house, but all my family were present when I said this. My question is whether or not the divorce is valid. Please note that I have no intention to divorce her; rather I cannot imagine leaving her. Jazakum Allah khayran.
I would like to know what is the concept of mahr in Islam? What should be the mahr for someone living in California, USA? I am getting married soon and my in-laws would like the mahr to be set according to the Shari`ah.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. May a newly-wed man divorce his wife if he discovered that she had lost her hymen? The woman swears by Allah Almighty that she did so by means other than sexual intercourse (such as practicing sport). Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum. I have been living with a Muslim man as his wife more than seven years. In my mind and my soul, I consider myself as his wife. I am a new Muslimah and I know that you must get marry officially. We can’t get married because of our cultural background. Does that mean that being with him is a big sin? His family is getting him a wife. My question is: Can he have two wives if I agree to share him with the other woman? Please advise me what to do. Can I choose to be his life-long partner without the consent of his family?
I am a motherless daughter. I want to get married but my father had been taking this issue too easy. Either he refuses the proposals on the basis of petty issues or I end up getting a rejection. I have asked from my mother?s sisters and friends to look for a suitable person. Among them, there are ones who are sincerely taking this task and yet others who are not. Overall, I haven?t had much luck yet.What should I do? After consulting one of my friend?s mother, I registered my name in matrimonial websites with high precautions, such as not showing my picture to anyone unless I know a bit about them and who sound trustworthy. Till now, only once I had shown my picture (in Hijab, of course) to one very sound person in all aspects (though I know I can?t guarantee it). That person is starting his job currently so we haven?t got to talk much.I am the only daughter. My brother is younger than me. I am not that open and friendly with my father to show such concerns. Thus, I am totally helpless at what to do. I am not much happy with my current life since I lost my mother. My father has remarried to someone I truly ended up hating. So, I am eager to get married to someone I can be truly happy with, leaving everything behind even the country my family and me are in. I have tried Istikhara recently on which I just ended up deciding, yet again, to leave it to Allah. But shouldn?t someone or I be doing something about it too? I would like a detailed advice on this issue, given my current situation.
In the Name of Allah, The Most Gracious The Most MercifulDear Respected Scholars,Assalama alay kum. Before I post my question, Alhamdullilah, its really nice to have you here to enlightened us on the doubts and questions we have as Muslims especially those who are revert to Islam like me. I actually send this query 3 months ago however I didn?t received any response yet. I was involved to a muslim man before I reverted back to Islam and the same man whom I make a contract with. I mean to make our relationship halal, we make a marriage contract of ourselves, I am actually the one who drafted it, we signed and he let his friends signed as a witness and he let his friends and those we know that I am his wife, including his family, Is this valid? We did this as of the moment since we cannot yet live together as taking an accommodation here now is very expensive. I read most of your discussions about marriage and really I guess the one we have is null and void. Now I am really confused, he told me that this is fine and Allah knows best our intention, but I insist that we should marry on the Shariah court to make it legal and since no local imam is making a marriage ceremony here in the UAE that is the only option we have to do. I had discussed this to him many times and we really had a disagreements but he told me that he have asked sheikhs from his country, Egypt and nobody there can tell that this kind of marriage is haram (urfi marriage/temporary marriage) and he told me that the reason why he put it in paper is because he means it. Based on my reading and understanding of marriage in Islam it should be made easy. Could you please enlighten us on our situation right now?Jazakallahu khayran.
assalamu alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh respected scholars... may Allah accept and reward your efforts on helping our Ummah, ameen ya rab. may question is the following : are we allowed to ask Allah in our duaas, to take someone away from our lives ? the person in question is my "husband", and he neither provide for us nor treat me and his children in an appropriate way. He abuses me mentally and threats me that if i seek for a divorce i wouldnt see my children ever again. And for these children, he does nothing, neither pay for their clothing nor live with us, living with another woman, whom he married for money issues. In this situation and saying also that i am completely alone inthe country where i l ive ( germany) having my family in my origin country and no one that could help me in this situation, i often turn to Allah in my duaas, asking HIm to take this man out of my life, since he is only a burden, and neither a good husband nor a good father. even sometimes ( and may Allah forgive me if this is a sin ), i wish for him to be dead, so icould free myself from this weight and carry on with my children as i do now, only without his threatens and bad treats. Inshaa Allah you can help me with this qustion. Jazakum Allahu khayran. fi aman Allah, wa salam.
Salaam, I sent you a question regarding repentance from zina. But i need a clarification. I understood from the response that for committing fornication, lashes as a punishment is Not a must to get forgiveness from Allah.But i need to know, if one repented from zina and then repeated sins of similar nature, is the door open for forgiveness?? And if i confided in some people about this sin in the past, or others may have an idea, if people know about it in my past, will Allah still forgive me? I understand now that i should bury my sin and not tell anyone, but what about what i have shared before? Does Allah's forgiveness depend on whether people know??Also i got married a while ago and in our country, we had a proper Nikah administered by a Maulvi and Mahr was exchanged. On the form, there were 3 options listed whether bride is virgin, divorced or widowed and virgin was marked for me. I was obviously in no position to reveal to anyone/ family/ or my future husband otherwise for that would ruin my future or any chance of redemption. Im scared to ask this but i need to know, if my Nikah was carried out properly as per the norm but 'virgin' was marked on the form for me, is my marriage valid? Im terrified to have this thought even occur to me, but for my peace of mind i need to know that i have closed this dark chapter and can move ahead.Also, on repeating similar acts after repenting from fornication, if i repent now, will Allah forgive me and wipe my sins? I am ashamed of my sins and i wish i could undo my past but i cant. Im 31 yrs old, is there hope for me?I read somewhere that if a non Muslim converts to Islam his previous sins are wiped out. If being a Muslim i repent from my past mistakes even if they are as ho rrible as fornication, will Allah accept my repentance and wipe away my sins?Pls keep my questions confidential and put them through to a reliable Islamic scholar and guide me pls.Rgrdsa
Salam... I am a muslim woman, and I'm getting married to a non-Muslim man because I am pregnant. He does not want to revert to Islam because he does not belive in it, but he has promised me I can bring my children up as Muslims and he will encourge them to do so . I know I have made a mistake. what can I do because my family wont agree with it, and I don't want to have an abortion.
As-Salamu `alaykum. My question is regarding the way a wedding ceremony is performed by Muslims in Malaysia. Usually, the married couple take part in a wedding procession that is called "bersanding" (the bride and groom sit on chairs placed on a platform and then a ceremonial service is performed).A prominent religious figure has pronounced this to be un-Islamic, based on the claim that this kind of wedding ceremony originated in Hindu tradition. A religious teacher informed me that this kind of ceremony is part of the religious rituals of the Hindus, but this is yet to be confirmed. My questions are: 1. What is the effect on the couples' `aqeedah? 2. What is the effect on the `aqeedah of those who participate in the ceremony? 3. What is the effect on the `aqeedah of the people who participate in the photography session with the couple? 4. What is the effect on the `aqeedah of the people who attend the occasion? 5. Could you confirm whether or not this kind of ceremony is part of the religious rituals of the Hindus? 6. What is the best way to avoid attending the ceremony of our close family relatives?
As-salamu `alaykum, I am a non-Muslim US woman, baptized as a Christian. I was divorced from a Sunni Muslim Jordanian-American man. the divorce was his choice; he is younger, and he decided that he wanted children a few years after marriage, and I was unable due to my age. Now I would potentially be interested in marrying my ex-husband's uncle. he is a single, practicing Sunni Muslim living in Jordan and is about my age. Is this permissible in some way according to the law of the Qur'an or would it be haram for him? Does it make a difference that I am not a Muslim and my former marriage was civil (not held in a religious ceremony)? Jazakum Allahu khayran
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is early marriage allowed in Islam? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-salamu `alaykum. Is there any Islamic reservation regarding marriage between the two `Eids. Some people told me that a wedding couldn’t be done unless you make the engagement before the fasting month. Is this Islamically right?
Dear scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. A woman promised her husband that she would never marry anyone after him until Allah joined them by His mercy and grace. If she promises this, does she have the right to marry anyone after him? Would doing so be regarded as not fulfilling a promise which is one of the attributes of the hypocrites?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. My mother wants my sister to marry her nephew, but my sister does not want to. My mother asked me to persuade and put pressure on my sister to obey her, but I know that in Islam you should not force anyone to marry someone, so I refused. My mother is angry with me for this, but I fear Allah's displeasure, as my mother is displeased with me. Please advise me on the best thing to do. Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. What if two Muslims, a boy and a girl, are deeply in love with each other? Is such thing allowed in Islam? And what if there is another man who has already asked for the girl’s hand in marriage but she's rejected the proposal, and she does not want to marry anyone else; does such kind of love exist in Islam? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What are the conditions of marriage witnesses? Can a groom's brother be considered a witness to the marriage contract? Jazakum Allah khayran!
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum! Let’s say after marriage I discover something disturbing in my spouse, can I ask for marriage annulment? I mean if defects are later discovered in any of the two spouses, does that give the other party a right to dissolve the marriage?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a Muslim woman propose to a Muslim man?
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. I am a married woman and crave for having a baby, but my husband practices coitus interruptus, so what does Islam say about that? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. Why did the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) marry more than one? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. I need an advice from you. As you know, AIDS is affecting millions of people worldwide. Within 30 years, Insha' Allah, there will be an estimated 75 million people infected with HIV. As a result of this widespread Fitnah, is it obligatory for a Muslim(mah) to require his/her marital candidate to get an AIDS test before marrying them? If they refuse, what should one do?In Western countries, it appears that we have a very high divorce rate. By the age of 30, 35, or 40, it is not uncommon for a Muslim(ah) to have been married and divorced 3, 4, or 5 times. Many of the Muslims in the West are reverts: that is, they were not born Muslims, but later embraced the Deen after many years of living a wanton life. So they may have slept with 6 to 20 people in his pre-Islamic life. And those people may have slept with 4 to 15 people. And those people may have slept with 5 to 15 people. Allah knows best. Be mindful, too, that some of their former "lovers" may have been in-the-closet homosexuals and the like. Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum. I have heard that some a state in the US has enacted a law that allows gay marriages. What is your comment on this?
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What does Islam say about divorce? I mean if there are some qualities which the husband does not like in his wife, should he divorce her? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Respected Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. Does the woman have the right to ask for the divorce?
Aslamu `alaykom . I`m 25 years old woman and I fell in love with 30 years old man we are both educated and pray five times a day , because I did`nt finished my studies , my parents don`t want us to get married now , but I live far away from my parents because of my studies, so he always come to see me , and in order to make our relationship H`alal we put our hands together and sayed to each other that we accept marrying. Did we do a right step ? Is our relation H`alal now ? Can we have sex as someone told him ?
Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. Could you please shed light on the wisdom behind the prohibition of incestuous marriage in the Islamic Shari`ah? Jazakum Allahu khayran.
assalamualaikum..plz help me out im in a very difficult stage of my life please reply me urgently it wo uld b so nice of u.my husband was involved in adultery cases before marriage he confess all this before marriage and promised he will never do it agian.but due to some unpleasent event occur between us he again committed adultery after marriage but soon after he performed umra and ask for ALLAHZ forgiveness and mine.i forgave him now he is saying that i want every thing from u i will never go to a women again.nowadays he is insisting for annal sex which i have never allowed him.he is saying this is lesser evil.better than i would go to another female i prefer to do every thing with u.im very confussed what to do. i have 2 children and cannot ask for divorce coz my parents are very old.please help me that how can i help my husband i dont want to loose my home.thanks.
As-Salamu `alaykum! As homosexuality has become a phenomenon widespread in the world, not only in the West, we’d like to know what Islam says on this issue. Jazakumullah Khayran!
As per Islam custody of kids goes to Male or Female? My sister husband has married another christain lady before marrying my sister without informing us.My sisters has 2 kids.After 7 years of their married life, it came to know that he is already married n also has kids with another wife. Both husband n wife always fights with each other with this issue and husband always compare my sister with another women, which hurts her very much ..She is suffering with bad health after she came to know that her husband is already married.Also husband cannot justice both the wifes equally, If my sisters wants to take divorce , the custody of kids goes to her husband or my sister???Her husband always blackmail her saying that as per islam custody of kids goes to male?
wat are obligations of a wife towards her husband and in wat circumstances she can disobey him. what should a wife do if her husband asks her to do or forbid which she do not want although that thing is neither haaram nor a fard
Salam,I wish to inquire about the formation of a close emotion bond between a male and female.I have formed a strong emotional bond with a very decent and pious muslim girl at school. With reluctance, we have had to discuss issues of marriage. We both understand that this relationship can lead to nothing less or more, and surely do not in any way call ourselves "girlfriend", "boyfriend".We are both very mindful of the necessary distance between a boy and girl in Islam, but do talk on the phone and spend time together, in relatively "public" spaces. There has been no physical components what so ever, and both understand there shall never be pre-marriage.I have been completely honest with my parents and this has not been kept a secret.The issue of age is however the problem.We are being doing our undergraduate degrees at the moment, and feel it too early to engage in anything formal, especially a marriage.I wish to know what would be appropriate, Islamically, for us to do so that we may not create a relationship not acceptable in the eyes of Allah? Is it to get engaged as soon as possible? Or is marriage the only channel through which we can spend time with each other? Or is this form of mere friendship for the next few years acceptable, given we never transgress?
Husband?s Command: If a husband commands his wife to boycott his family members but dies then should his wife carry his command even after his death? Forgiveness after death The husband confuses having illicit relationships with other women to his wife on the day of his marriage and promises to stop. The wife finds out after one year that he broke his promise. The husband states that womanizing was an addiction and said that it would take some time for him to change. The wife dealt with his addiction very patiently for 14+ years with the hope that he would come out of it someday however that never happened. In fact the husband got worse every year which pushed his wife to walk out their relationship due to prolonged period of verbal, physical and mental abuse (Mental relates to illicit relationship with other women). The wife begins preparing herself to part from him. During this time she was not to friendly with her husband but was not disrespectful to him either. Unfortunately during this phase the husband dies due to a mishap. The wife now feels g uilty and she never got a chance to apologize to her husband due to his sudden death. How can she apologize to him after his death? Akhirah: It is said that the spouses will meet each other in Jannah. However if one of the spouses is sent to hell and the other in heaven, then how do they meet?
According to the sayings of the scholars on this matter: The divorce of the angry person is valid according to the people of knowledge, except when the angry person loses his wits due to his extreme anger, and that is when the anger reaches its peak, and anger takes control over his mind and his
Dear scholars, Assalam Allaikumi am a 29y old girl, Alhamdulilah i have a good job and i am successful on a professional level. i have been through lots of hardship in my life but i always kept the positive attitude and always had faith in the future. However lately, i have been through a major trauma that breaks me down completely. i admit that i did a mistake and that i played a role in what happened to me. But i regret all what i did and i repent my deeds and asked forgiveness from God. i promised myself that i will never do again what i did and that i will keep myself close to the right path. i still have feelings that i cannot get rid off and i feel very guilty. I will not talk about what i did exactly and what happened but i need your advice on how to strengthen my faith. My problem is that I lost sense of life and it no longer means anything to me. I even sometimes wish for death which I am fully aware that I should not do. I was always strong but now I reached a point where I cannot take anything any longer. I am fighting very hard with myself, I read Quran, I pray (I always do my prayers), I do Du?aa, but unfortunately, I feel very miserable and that God is not happy with me at all. I feel lost and very desperate?I do not know what to do especially that I am alone far from my family. I live abroad and I cannot go back as I am the one to help the family financially?.i am not sure if what I am going through is the start of a psychological depression which needs to be assisted but a professional doctor or if it is just the spiritual void. I have been looking for books, checking on the net on anything to help me out but I am the same since now 4 months or so. I feel very lonely especially that all my friends got married and no w have different lives?sometimes I feel that if I also have a family around, I may feel better but this is something which is not in my hand. I want to get closer to God and to Religion but when I have my traumatic moments I cannot keep good faith?I don?t stop crying & I feel very very bad inside? I want to have a peaceful life like I used to have and I want like any other girl to have a home for her own (but I believe that marriage is but a Destiny)?please advise me what I should do? And if Ru?qia can be an option to release the inner tension and pressure I currently have? Sorry for being so long?wa assalam alaykum
AsalamoalikumI have question about marriage. I got engaged more than two years ago but could not get married because one of my cousins who called my fiance's parent and told him that I was engaged with him which is not true and threatened him. Prior to this instance my cousin also intervened and threatened the family where I was getting engaged and that engagement ended too. Later on my fiance's dad put a condition unless my cousin and his family agree to the marriage, it wont take place while my fiance wants to marry me but he thinks unless his father agrees the marriage cant take place. And by each passing day we are getting closer and we fear we may commit zina. We are getting old and I suggested to my fiance we should marry in secret which my parents approve of (and in their presence).Both our families have done istikhara and have seen positive dreams. Both me and my fiance don't want to marry elsewhere.We both just want to get married soon, as we don't want to persist in sins. I don't think I can find a better guy than him as he has both good character and is religious. So I need your guidance on the issue if he marries secret. Considering our situation, is it permissible? JazakAllah khair
We know that Adam and Eve were the first humans on the planet. How did we have a population of humans from them. Did thier daughter and son get married with each other and have children?
Respected scholars, as-salamu`alaykum. I am about to get married. Must I have a medical checkup? What does Islam say about this issue? Jazakum Allahu Khayran .
Would you please explain the difference between nikah and rukhsati and how practical are these customs in the light of Islamic teachings?