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Having Sex with One Wife While the Other Wife Is Watching

I married my husband six years ago. We dont have kids because I am unable to conceive a child. Doctors told me I am permanently infertile and medicines are useless. My husband is ok and he wants to have kid. About two months ago he married another woman. My husband is a very kind man.even after his second marriage his attitude towards me is good. My husband's second wife isalso a nice lady. She is very kind to me. We live in a very small house with one bedroom with attached toilet. The kitchen is located outside the house so nobody can sleep there because it is not safe to stay outside at night. Similarly nobody can sleep in toilet. All we have is the bedroom which the three of us share. My husband is a poor man , neither he can buy anew house nor he can afford the rent. we have arranged for a seperate bed. So now for onenight my husband sleeps with me on double bed while the other wife sleeps on the seperate bed and the other night she sleeps with husband while I sleep on the seperate bed. Me andthe other wife daily switch places. We dont have any problem with that because It is the only possible solution. We donot ask for seperate house because both of us know that our husband can not afford it. Our husband has promised us to provide seperate homes whenever he hasenough money. Now my question is that it is ok for my husband to have sex with one wife while other wife is watching ? I know that it is not ok to look at other woman's awrah ( fromnavel to the knees ) but if my husband covers himself and the wife with a sheet of cloth whilehaving sex ? I know that it is unlawful to disclose the marriage secrets to other but there is a difference between ordinary public and wives. I know what he does to other wifeand she knows what he does to me.  Under the circumstances this is the only possible solution for us. Can we both have sex with our husband simultaneously if we both wear such clothes which conceal our bodies from navel to knees but allows our husband to have sex with us? In this way we shall not be able to see each other's awrah.

The Meaning of the Hadith “Cleanliness Is Half of Faith”

I am sorry for burdening you with all these questions at one time. Try to answer as many as you can if you think the whole lot is too much.1) what is meant by the hadith "cleanliness is half of faith" ? Can you please explain what aspects of faith does it cover and what sorts of cleanliness, physical and spiritual, does it mean ?2) which twelve leaders does the following hadith from Bukhari refers to Volume 009, Book 089, Hadith Number 329.narated By Jabir bin Samura : I heard the Prophet saying, "There will be twelve Muslim rulers (who will rule all the Islamic world)." He then said a sentence which I did not hear. My father said, "All of them (those rulers) will be from Quraish."3) What are our duties towards the members of the Holy Prophet pbuh's family as we are told to observe them in the following hadith from Muslim Book 031, Hadith Number 5920. "...I am leaving among you two weighty things: the one being the Book of Allah...The second are the members of my household I remind you (of your duties) to the members of my family..."4) I was of the opinion that all children who pass away before reaching the age of puberty will go to heaven. However, the following hadith from Muslim gives a different impression. Please explain. Book 033, Hadith Number 6436. 'Aisha, the mother of the believers, said that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) was called to lead the funeral prayer of a child of the Ansar. I said: Allah's Messenger, there is happiness for this child who is a bird from the birds of Paradise for it committed no sin nor has he reached the age when one can commit sin. He said: 'Aisha, per adventure, it may be otherwise, because God created for Paradise those who are fit for it while they were yet in their father's loins and created for Hell those who are to go to Hell. He created them for Hell while they were yet in their father's loins.5) what is meant by "everyone is facilitated in that for which he has been created" in the following hadith from Muslim Book 033, Hadith Number 6400. 'Ali reported that one day Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) was sitting with a wood in his hand and he was scratching the ground. He raised his head and said: There is not one amongst you who has not been allotted his seat in Paradise or Hell. They said: Allah's Messenger, then, why should we perform good deeds, why not depend upon our destiny? Thereupon he said: No, do perform good deeds, for everyone is facilitated in that for which he has been created; then he recited this verse: "Then, who gives to the needy and guards against evil and accepts the excellent (the truth of Islam and the path of righteousness it prescribes), We shall make easy for him the easy end..." (xcii. 5-10).6) Muslims are asked not to cross boundaries in supplications and cleanliness. What are those boundaries ? 7) If I have a fever and someone asks me 'how are you?', then how am I supposed to answer him. Some one told me that if someone enquires about my health I am supposed to tell him my real health conditions. And I know that in all circumstances I have to thank God for whatever I have in whatever condition I am in. Given this, how should I phrase my reply that it becomes an appropriate answer ?JazhakAllah khair for your services Shahbaz

Reading Qur’an After Someone’s Death

As-salaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa BarakatuhDear brotherI my community when somebody dies we read quran, surah baqra, surah yaseen and so on some certain number of times. If somebody is facing any health or other kinds of problem we say ya salaamo or ayate karima certain number of times. If somebody is shifted in a new house they invite other people to read and finish a quran for Allah?s blessings. Now my question is that is it according to Islamic teachings. I read in a book that our prophet (SAW) didn?t use to follow this practice whenever somebody died in his era. He use to pray for that persons forgiveness but not to read quran and some surahs. Is this bidah. And if I was invited to someone?s house for this should I go or simply make an excuse.My second question is that my husband is working for a conventional bank. We read the fatwas on your site and he too was with me. He is taking care and avoiding as much as possible not to involve himself with the interest based transactions. Allah has been kind to us and my husband has now been promoted to a seat where he is basically doing people management. Now my heart keeps on troubling me that what if he involves himself with interest based transactions. Our riziq becomes impure and so our prayers and istighfar won?t be accepted. This thought also troubles me as there is a difference of opinion between the scholars on working in a conventional bank. I want to perform hajj but then again I get worried that what if our earnings are not from a desirable source. Allah says that he guides the ones who seek guidance. Now what if the opinions of the scholars who say that working for a conventional bank is not permissible is my guidance and I am taking an easy way out. I do try to ask my husband when he tells me about any transactions that involve him that are they interest based or not. Sometimes I get worried that he might start getting upset with my continuous asking. Now what should I do? What should be my role as a wife? What should I do w ith my trouble thoughts? Please help me out.One more thing which I want to ask you is that my daughter is 7 years old. Now to teach her the prayers what I am doing is that whenever I am praying I ask her to join me. I say the whole prayer loudly so that she can hear it. Is this the correct way? If not how should I teach her because after school and her ho,ework she is not left with much of time. And what about my prayers? If what I am doing is incorrect will my prayers be accepted?ThanksJazak Allah Khair.