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What should relations between spouses be based on?

Me & my husband were watching TV,on one of the  channels that we watch they?ve showed some pictures of the Prophet in one of the usual every day?s evening ?News? program, telling people of the late events that are taking place now and about the source of the anger of all the Muslims. My husband who in the beginning of all this issue, tried to switch on to another channel whenever on any channel were any reports concerning it all, so that he might not accidentally hear or see anything bad. Then later he started to listen the news, the programs, the discussions on this subject ( avoiding to see any pictures) in order to know what anyone does or think about it, whoever it might be. He tolled me that we shouldn?t watch this channel anymore for what it did, whatever their cause was. The next day I tolled him that we should write a protest to the administration of this channel and maybe to the President?s administration also and I did so.In the evening news on the same channel, that my husband let me watch for 15-20 min and being upset at me for this, it was said that whoever will deal in anything concerning the pictures, the penalty will be very harsh even to take away the licenses, but the apology were not been said, as I  hoped.Till now I don?t know if the apology have been said or not, for more then a month we are still not watching this channel and once not intentionally I put it on, my husband was again angry with me for it. Is his position on this issue being the correct one or  is he being rigid, as I think sometimes he does on other things or occasions?Thank you.

Having Intimacy with Wife After Contracting Marriage and Before Consummation

asalam-u-alaikum, i signed my marriage contract (nikah) in summer 2007. i have read many fatwas posted, though all gave me a good understanding but i still need more answer, a bit more specific to me. my wife is a cousin of mine who i have secretly loved (never mentioned to anyone simply prayed to allah that i may marry her someday and that someday finally came) her mother passed away when she was only about 9 or 10 years of age and i felt a lot of pain for her as she would be deprived of a mothers love. after signing the contract we quickly connected as i told her my feelings for her. and i began day by day to carress her more and more to show her my affection, but not goingto the extent of any serious intimacy. my roots are in pakistan and i currently reside in canada studyingengineering, its a culture thing that husband is not to consumate before the marriage ceremony (different from the walimah) although my parents never intervened if we spent time together alone. i told this so you can possibly better understand my questions.now that im back in canada, my wife still in pakistan, we talk over the phone and via the internet, we listen toeach others harships confort each other along the way and show affection for each other everytime. we also indulge in cyber sex and/or phone sex, is this allowed for me and my wife? and i will admit it does relax me when im tenseand vice versa and really helps me guard my gaze. also ive read the fatwa that only 4 months of separation isallowed from one's wife, is this true even if i have not yet consumated?also sometimes she tells me that she really needs me, like be with her, and i feel really bad and useless that i can't satisfy that need of hers. and the same thing goes for me somtimes i feel really alone, somtimes i can'teat properly, sleep is disrupted, i even cry sometimes while reciting surah Ya'sin. i know i have to be patient, but its getting harder n harder im begining to doubt that my prayers are not being accepted because of my own fault. what can i do? also is it ok for me to fantasize about my wife ( ie intimate fantasies)?also, what is the ruling on enlargment remedies for the private parts? one thing how short ca the beard be? my wife asks me shorten it. please provide me answers with as much detail as possible. thank you for listening, may allah bless you and helpeveryone attain jannah. ameen.

Mechanical Slaughter of Animals

Dear Scholars:as-salamu ?alaykum!nowadays, it is not unusual in a poultry dressing plants (animal slaughter houses) where thousands of chickens are being slaughtered hourly. Is mechanical slaughtering of chicken allowed and Halal in Islam in this case? The following hereunder is clear proof that mechanical slaughtering of animal is being undertaken as in the case of ISLAMIC CO-ORDINATING COUNCIL OF VICTORIA PTY. LTD., AUSTRALIA, to wit: Guideline for Mechanical Slaughtering of Chicken ? The person handling the chicken and the operator of the machine should be Muslim appointed by ICCV. ? The operator must recite the prayer prior to switching the mechanical knife. ? Should the slaughter man leave the slaughter area, he will be replaced by another Muslim slaughter man. The former will stop the line and switch off the mechanical knife. To restart the operation the second slaughter man must recite the prayer as described above, before switching on the mechanical knife and the line. ? The knife used should be of a single blade type and must be sharp. ? The trachea, oesophagus, and major blood bevels in the neck region (jugular and carotid) of the bird must be severed allowing proper bleeding. ? To have the birds facing the mechanical knife, slaughtering the bird at the back of the head is not permitted. ? The slaughter man is required to check that each bird is properly slaughtered. ? Assistant slaughter man should slaughter manually any birds that miss the mechanical knife. ? The scalding (defeathering) tank should be at a reasonable distance from the slaughtering area thus ensuring that the bird has no life prior to entering the hot water tank. ? The temperature of the water should not exceed 52 degrees Celsius. ? Halal logo / stamp should be at all time under the control of ICCV personnel. ? Halal transfer certificate should be issued for every single Halal load out.the details of slaughterers, supervision, contamination, processing, storage, Halal identification, certification are as if beef / sheep manual (ICCV Halal / Food Manual). Jazakum Allah khairan

Punishment for Zina Between the Qur’an and Sunnah

Assalam-o-Alaikum I am a born Muslim fortunately but my problem is that I see so many sectc in Muslims and I wish to find the right one. I try to understand Quran but I am amazaed when I find some laws in Sharia which are contradictory to Quran's orders. I will put one example hereWhen Quran tells us the punishment for "Zina", it does not diffferentiate among sinners. No distinction is made among married or unmarried "zaani/zaaniah" and the punishment is stated as lashes.In our present sharia however it is believed that this punishment is only for unmarried sinners and for married sinners it is stone to death. The basis of this discremination is from the book of Hadith.My problem is that I believe that Quran is the only 100% authentic set of rules from Allah. Whtever else is, it is not sure that it has reached us as it was original. Even contents of books of Hadiths are not 100% sure as no one including Allah, Rasoolullah or the compilers of books claim those to be 100% sure.Definitely whatever is from Rasool, it is to be followed but after it is pro ved to be 100% sure from Rasool. For me it is difficult to believe that Rasoolullah made this ammendment in the punishment for Zina. If he would have done, he must have made arrangement for the documentation of any such ammendment. But as I know, this was not recorded till the compilation of Hadith books. Such an important matter, an extension or ammendment in the order of Allah's words, if from Allah or Rasool (of coure Rasool did not do anythinng himself rather he obeyed Allah), why it has not been recorded by Rasool, Khulafa-e-Rashideen or any responsible person but only by a scholar after more than two centuries.Can any scholar/alim please answer my confusion? May Allah lead me to His true way and the real Islam.Regards

How someone suffering from enuresis purifies from urine

As salamu alaykum!I don't know what to do anymore. I know that after urinating a muslim man should wait for a few minutes, then wipe his penis or wash it and then he should sprinkle some water on his underwear in order to ward off waswas.I try do do the same, but it is in vain. After urinating I can wait for 10 or even 15 minutes and no more than a few drops of urine would leak, the rest of the urine does not leak (I'm sure of it, it is not just waswas), but if I squeeze my penis more drops of urine (8-9 drops, it depends on how many times and how hard I squeeze it) come out. After urinating if I wait a few minutes and then I squeeze well my penis 8-9 times no urine comes out afterwards.The big problem is that I am frustrated because I heard that some muslim scholars consider the squeezing of the penis bid'a (ibn Taimyya for example). A brother of mine told me that there are scholars who have nothing against this practice (imam Malik for example).My question is: Is the squeezing of the penis after urinating bid'a or not? Please tell me what to do if it is indeed bid'a! And if it is allowed how many times are we allow to squeeze the penis? Do we have to squeeze it hard or gently?I would like to mention that I converted to islam a few years ago and I am not circumcised. I want to do this step also, but for the moment my personal status does not allow me to circumcise.Moreover I was searching for fatwas on the Internet about this problem of mine and those who asked about this were advised to wait more after urinating, even 15 minutes if necessarily, maybe this works if the person with this kind of problem lives in a muslim country, but unfortunately I live in a christian country and I cannot wait that much every time I go to the toilet cause I'll have problems at school/work.