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The Steadfastness of a Muslim Convert

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhuI am referring to your help and advice since I have come to a dead end.I come from Greece and I have converted to Islam only 3 years ago. My country is considered as deeply religious with the majority being orthodox Christians. My small hometown however can be described as even more religio My sister of course was supporting their side. Only Allah knows how I got to escape from there, catch the next train and get out of there.What followed was that for some time we didn?t have contacts at all. And then after a few months, me and my sister started talking again. Then she and my mother, visited me and even got out with me, while I was wearing hijab. I knew they felt ashamed for me, but at least they were trying to get along with it.This efforts however were put to an end, when almost 8 months ago I informed them that I was about to marry. They didn?t like this at all. I guess because in the corner of their mind they thought that if I kept being single then at some point I might have changed back my mind. So imagine their reaction when they found out that my future husband was a non- Greek and a muslim. They were furious! They went on saying things, like he will beat you till blood comes out, this is what your religion says. Or you will have kids and he will take them and go to his country, or he will marry another muslim wife and have you like his servant, etc.the result was that they didn?t even come to the wedding and refused any contact with me and him, despite my tries to assure them that he is mashaAllah a nice person and religious enough to prove wrong their claims. Today I am 3 months pregnant. I informed them about it and it?s like I told them today it?s Monday. No feelings aroused for them.the past 2 weeks however they delivered a message through my sister. They say, that they are ready to accept everything as long as I take off my hijab.I called my mom and talked to her. Tried to explain that if hijaab was a way to beautify I would have taken it off right away. But since it?s part of my commitment to Allah I can?t.and I know that they don?t like me wearing hijaab because they have on their mind what people in my hometown will think about me and them once I visit them. They claim of course that it is not that and that they just don?t like it. There is no way of convincing them in this matter. They say I have to back up on this, so that they can accept everything else. It like they perceive it as a war. Which isn?t of course. I want my parents in my life, but I also want to keep hijaab on my head. I realize its importance and role and wouldn?t like to compromise something like that. However how can I make my parents come closer desp ite that, when they refuse to do so?I am really sorry about the length of my question, but I felt I had to present all the facts to you.JazackAllah Khairan

Giving Zakat al-Fitr in Cash and Sending it to Other Countries

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. For a long time, I used to pay the value of zakat al-fitr, which is a saa` (about 2.176 kg) of the food mentioned in the Prophetic hadith for myself and my family in money. I usually send this money to the poor kindred, relatives and neighbors in the occupied territories inPalestine. I was quite sure that this act is permissible, relying on many fatwas I heard from you and from many other scholars such as Sheikh `Abdullah ibn Zayd Al-Mahmud, the chief of the Shari`ah Courts in Qatar.However, one day while I was listening to the radio, I heard one of the sheikhs state that paying the value of zakat al-fitr in cash is not permissible in any case; and if anyone does so, his zakat is invalid because it is contrary to the Sunnah. Moreover, the sheikh launched a severe attack on scholars who permitted paying it in money and accused them of being contradictory to the texts of Shari`ah.Frankly, I became confused after hearing this fatwa, especially after I heard a hadith that states "Fasting in the month of Ramadan lies suspended between the earth and heaven; it is only raised (to heaven) by zakat al-fitr." This means that the fasting of my family lies suspended all during these years and was not accepted! Then what is the value of our acts of worship if we perform them while they will be invalid or unaccepted, as the sheikh said? What should the layman Muslim do when the scholars differ over a certain fatwa?I hope you disburden my mind and the minds of millions who pay the value of zakat al-fitr in cash. Jazakum Allahu khayran.