As a Muslim husband, you should try your best to endear your wife to yourself by being truthful in your feelings towards her. It maybe, in sha’ Allah, through your genuine attempt towards deep and true love that your heart will be inclined towards her. In our marital life, we should not forget mutual mercy, compassion, and truthfulness.
Practically speaking, husbands can attempt to solve the issue amicably through:
1. Trying to get professional counselling to the best of your ability as it maybe that the lack of love you are facing is due to a psychological problem you don’t know.
2. Organizing a special picnic with your wife and reminding her of your love days and trying to restore them.
3. You should not forget that all whatever good and righteous acts you do is put in your record of good deeds, and that with patience and perseverance positive results will be achieved. Clarifying the mutual tolerance between spouses, the eminent Muslim scholar Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, states the following in his well-known book, The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam:
“A husband must be patient with his wife if he sees something in her which he disapproves and dislikes. He should recognize that he is dealing with a human being with natural imperfections, and he should balance her good qualities with her failings.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Let a believing man not dislike a believing woman. If something in her is displeasing to him, another trait may be pleasing.”
While on the one hand Islam requires the men to be tolerant and patient with what he dislikes in his wife, on the other it command the wife to try to please her husband as far as her ability and charm l allow, and warns her not to let a night pass during which her husband remains angry with her. A hadith states: “There are three (persons) whose salah does not rise even a single span above their heads: a man leading a congregational salah while the people hate him, a woman passing the night while her husband is angry with her, and two quarreling brothers.” (Reported by Ibn Majah and by Ibn Hibban in his Sahih.)