Islam is the religion of compassion and justice, a religion that teaches perfect morals and forbids bad conduct. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) described the believers as being like a single body. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “The likeness of the believers in their mutual love, mercy and compassion is that of the body; if one part of it complains, the rest of the body joins it in staying awake and suffering fever.” (Narrated by Muslim)
And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari)
And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “The Most Merciful has mercy on those who are merciful. Be merciful to those who are on earth so that the One Who is in heaven will have mercy on you.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi)
And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “The relationship of the believer to the people of faith is like that of the head to the body; the believer is pained by the suffering of the people of faith just as the body is pained by the suffering of the head.” (Narrated by Ahmad)
And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “The most beloved of people to Allah is the one who brings most benefit to people, and the most beloved of deeds to Allah is making a Muslim happy, or relieving him of hardship, or paying off his debt, or warding off hunger from him. For me to go with my Muslim brother to meet his need is dearer to me than observing i`tikaf in this mosque – meaning the mosque of Madinah – for a month… whoever goes with his Muslim brother to meet his need, Allah will make him stand firm on the Day when all feet will slip.”
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Whoever relieves a Muslim of one of the hardships of this world, Allah will relieve him of one of the hardships of the Day of Resurrection, and whoever helps one who is financial difficulty, Allah will help in this world and in the Hereafter, and whoever conceals a Muslim’s (fault), Allah will conceal his (fault) in this world and in the Hereafter. Allah will help a person so long as he helps his brother.” (Narrated by Muslim)
Having stated the above-mentioned hadiths, muslims have to strike balance between your theirs and the rights of your children and between helping relatives or other people. When your circumstances does not allow you to offer for others, do not overburden yourself and the one asking help is required to take into consideration your circumstances without even asking to clarify for him/her your circumstances. You have to clear with yourself as well as others. Offer help when you feel contempt while offering it and you can do so without overburdening yourself. Do not offer help when you cannot or that you have circumstances that hinder you from offering that help. People asking help should also fear Allah in you and your children and not to overburden you or press you for any kind of help you cannot do and do not like to do.
Finally, we should not forget to make du`a’ (supplication) to Allah to make you always a source of providing good to people. Offer help as much as you can and try to strengthen the relationship between you and your children and inculcate in them the love of helping people. May Allah bless you and your children and combine between you and them in Paradise along with Allah’s prophets, righteous and martyrs.