Dutifulness to Parents, Any Limits?
First of all, it should be noted that obedience and dutifulness to parents is included in obedience to Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Allah says, “And We have enjoined on man to be god and dutiful to his parents” (Al-‘Ankabut 29:8)
al-Bukhari and Muslim narrated on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) was asked which deed is the best? He said, ‘Faith in Allah and His Messenger, then honoring one’s parents…’”.. there are many other verses from the Qur’an and hadiths to the same effect.
From another side, you are also obliged to provide for your family and to pave every allowable way to gain the lawful subsistence. Almighty Allah ordered us to search for Rizq, in his saying:
“He it is Who hath made the earth subservient unto you, so Walk in the paths thereof and eat of His providence. And unto Him will be the resurrection (of the dead).” (Tabarak, 67:15)
And He (glory be to Him) said,
“And when the prayer is ended, then disperse in the land and seek of Allah’s bounty, and remember Allah much, that ye may be successful.” (Al-Gumu`ah, 62:10)
Also, it was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “For one of you to chop wood and carry it on his back is better for him than asking (begging) from anyone who will either give him something or refuse to give him anything.”
These hadiths stress on the importance of seeking one’s living and generally clarifies that it is an attribute of the true Muslim to be independent and active. Moreover, we have learned that a husband is responsible for his family and he has to support them financially, socially and morally and cares for them. This responsibility measures up to the status of obligations.
May Allah guide all of us to what pleases Him!