Jealousy is one of the traits that are commendable in a believer, yet it shouldn’t be excessive. The two authentic books of Hadith (the Sahihs of Al-Bukhari and Muslim) contain a hadith reported by Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) in which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Allah gets jealous and the believer as well, and Allah’s jealousy is when a believer commits what Allah has forbidden.”
A pimp or the dayyuth is the man who sees sins (illicit relations) committed by his female relatives yet doesn’t become jealous. Being a dayyuth opposes jealousy. It is a lamentable trait and is prohibited according to theShari`ah. The Shafi`i and the Hanbali schools view that the testimony of the dayyuth is unacceptable.
Dr. Husam al-Din Ibn Musa `Afana, professor of fiqh and its principles at Al-Quds University, Palestine , states the following: The word dayyuth was mentioned in a number of hadiths; one of them was narrated by Imam Ahmad in which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: “Allah has prohibited three (kinds of) people from entering Paradise: the drunkard, the one who is ungrateful to his parents, and the dayyuth who sees sin committed by his female relatives, yet doesn’t become jealous.”
In another narration, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said, “There are three (kinds of people) who will not enter Paradise and whom Allah will not speak to on the Day of Judgment: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and dresses like them, and the dayyuth.”
`Ammar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Three will never enter Paradise: the dayyuth, the woman who acts like men, and the drunkard.” The Companions asked, “O Allah’s Messenger, we know what is meant by the drunkard, but who is the dayyuth?” He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Who doesn’t care to know who goes to his folk.” The Companions added, “Who is the woman that acts like men?” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “She is the one who imitates men.”
according to the explanation of the hadith reported by Ibn `Amr, dayyuth is the one who allows his female relatives to sin. Ibn Manzur said, “The dayyuth is the one who doesn’t feel jealous towards his family.”
Further, the eminent scholar `Ali Al-Qari said, “The dayyuth is the one who doesn’t object to the indulgence done by any of his household, whether his wife, maid, or relative. This includes adultery or what may lead to it; in addition, this includes drinking and forsaking washing oneself from janabah (state of impurity).” At-Tiby said, “A dayyuth is the one who doesn’t feel offended due to the misconduct done by any of his family, doesn’t have jealousy, nor impedes them from indulgence. Hence, he approves of the wrongdoings.”
Conclusively, a dayyuth is the one who doesn’t feel jealous towards his wife or any of his mahram relatives; besides, being a dayyuth is one of the major sins. Al-Jalal Al-Balkiny said, “Being a dayyuth is a major sin and it has immense evil repercussions.”
All Muslim scholars view the dayyuth as a wrongdoer. Besides, the Shafi`is and Hanbalis view that the testimony of a dayyuth is unaccepted because he neither prevents nor objects to the wrong done by his wife or any of his family members.