In Sheri’ah it’s not permissible to indulge in these things and keep away from marriage which is an act of worship in itself. Marriage, which was the way of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), is prescribed, applies to all people, but it may be more important in the case of some people than others.
Ibn Qudamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “With regard to marriage, people are of three types:
1– Some fear that they may fall into haram things if they do not get married. Such a person has to get married, according to the majority of fuqaha’, because he has to keep himself chaste and protect himself against doing haram things, and the way to do that is getting married.
2– For some it is mustahab. This is the one who feels desire but there is no danger of his falling into haram. It is better for him to get married than to devote himself to nafil acts of worship. This is the view of ashab al-ra’y and it is the view of the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them and their deeds).
Ibn Mas`ud said: If I only had ten days to live and I knew that I would die at the end of them, and I had any desire to get married, I would get married, for fear of fitnah (temptation).
It was narrated that Sa`id ibn Jubayr said: Ibn ‘Abbas said to me: “Have you gotten married?”
I said: “No.”
he said: “Get married, for the best of this ummah are the ones with the most wives.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari
3 – Those who have no desire, either because they were not created with any desire, such as one who is impotent, or they had desire but it has disappeared due to old age, sickness and so on. There are two opinions:
(i) It is mustahabb to get married because of the general meaning of what we have discussed.
(ii) Remaining single is better for him because he cannot achieve the purpose of marriage, and he would be preventing his wife from becoming chaste by marrying someone else. And he would be harming her by keeping her for himself, and he is exposing himself to obligations and duties that perhaps he cannot fulfil, and he is distracting himself from seeking knowledge and worship with something that is of no benefit to him. “
It was narrated that Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Three people came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asking about the worship of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). When they were told, it was as if they regarded it as too little. They said: Who are we in comparison to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)? Allah has forgiven his past and future sins. One of them said: As for me, I will pray all night forever. Another said: I shall fast all my life and never break my fast. Another said: I shall keep away from women and never get married. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came and said: “Are you the ones who said such and such? By Allah, I am the one who fears Allah the most among you and I am the most pious, but I fast and I break my fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.” Narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim
How about if a Muslim realizes that by getting married, he will have followed the advice of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) when he said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity.” Narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim
How about if he realizes that by producing a righteous child he will have ongoing charity, if he raises him with good morals and faith, and he will be rewarded for the marriage if he seeks reward with Allah for that.
By getting married a Muslim will be protecting himself, lowering his gaze, and closing the door to one of the greatest means by which the Satan deceives people. We may not feel the seriousness of that now, but fitnah may come from places a person does not realize, so we should be keen to close the door before it is opened without realizing it.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah more harmful to men than women.” Narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Marriage is a source of tranquility and peace, and it is the best of the pleasures of this world. In it is that which Allah has made a sign for His slaves, and He has mentioned it in His Book so that they may think and ponder the greatness of His might, may He be glorified and exalted. Allah says:
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect” (Ar-Rum 30:21)
Can there be any hesitation after this?
Let us be resolved and put our trust in Allah, and Allah will help, and will provide the person looking for a suitable partner with a righteous wife who will help him to obey his Lord and He will bless him with righteous offspring who will be a stored treasure for him with Allah in the Hereafter.