Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. I would like to know, after marriage, should one obey one's husband in opposition to the father, or vice versa? That is, if my husband wants me to do something different from what my father/mother want, should I obey him or my parents? Jazakum Allah khayran.
I am female and my parents treat me different from my brothers. I think they are too strict, but they tell me that they just love me. Is this fair?
Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. The question I have is related to the degree to which I must obey my mother. Her requirements of my time, money and effort become very strange and unreasonable. Sometimes she asks me to do things for her that will in effect harm her. For example, my wife and I do not go to Indian concerts because of the abominable activities that go on there such as drinking a lcohol, bad language, dance and music. My mother wants me to take her there.I politely refused mentioning that it is not allowed in Islam, and especially since this event is for teenagers. I am not in my teens. Secondly, the event is late at night 9 p.m.- 12 midnight in a downtown where I do not dare venture.For more serious examples, she enjoys going to functions where there is bid`ah (innovation) and expects my wife or me to drive her there. I do not believe in the activities that go on at such places and have made my opinions clear about not to go to such places. However, she cites the hadith concerning obeying the parents and my wife or I take them grudgingly. I drop them and pick them up but do not enter.What shall I do? How can I educate someone like this? Am I committing a sin by not taking them to a concert? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. My mother died a year ago. Is there anything I should do in terms of kindness towards my mother after her death? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. At what age should children start fasting during Ramadan, according to the Shari`ah? Jazakum Allahu Khayran
Can my daughter study in a Christian school because there is no any Islamic school near my home? Is there any problem in that? Thanks.
My father passed away three years ago leaving a heavy debt. When I became in charge there was no liquid money to distribute among those whom my father was indebted to. Hence, I decided to sell my father’s property, which consisted of agricultural lands, yet I have failed to sell any of them.The question is, should I pay the debt from my own income, provided that my father had another wife and children? What should I do? Should I wait till any of the property is sold? I would like to point out that I vowed to pay my father’s debt so as to relieve him from the punishment as I was told. In addition, people know that the debt will be paid once land is sold. Please set my mind at ease by sending an answer.
Assalamoalikum! First of all please ask a female scholar to comment on this as she will be able to understand the psychology of a woman too.Background: Since my childhood I have always seen my parents arguing fighting, beating up and domestic violence and stuff. We kids especially me being the elder one was beaten up by my parents in a way un explainable. And, I carry all that with me all the time. I mean Islam says the opposite about beating wives and kids, and both thigns were at max in my home. I never understood the reasons then and even now I don't understand why on earth? Some wisemen told me on my way to stay away from husband and wife disputes and be neutral, so I did try to follow.Then I came ot Eu for education and was not a practicing muslim not caring much about religion, also married on the course to a white lady (Christian) for settlement (sorry to write this) at the start but thgins started changing, around 2000, I started reading Quran alhamdolillah and digested it , alhamdolillah Allah changed my heart and I took a turn of 180 degrees. Hang on, the important thing here is that when I told my parents about this marriage, they cut off with me, my relation with siblings was spoiled and they never accepted the white lady with out even knowing her. My mother was th worse, she said I am not going to talk to you until you divorce this lady. I was in to islam, ididnt care much about all this and did what was islamicaly right then. I never divorced that lady, and kept on presenting the true spiritual islam, though it never worked and I had to divorce her ultimately. Know my mom was the happiest woman on earth and she started talking to me after more than a year (from the time she heard about my marriage to the time I divorced the white lady).Ok now I asked my parents to find a religious partner for me as I did nto want to go through all those hindu tra ditions back home (in Pakistan), they took a long time as they did nto understand that I really am looing for a religious woman and I want a simple marriage. Alhamdolillah, we succeeded and me and my future wife did istikhara and we are married now over a year alhamdolilllah. I am really blessed to have the most beautifull and a religious life partner with a sound character, exactly how Holy Prophet asks. And you know istikhara cant be wrong. ALhamdolillah we are more than happy and satisfied.Problems:Since my current marriage, my mother has made a fuss out of every single thing in my home, I was home with my wife for 2 months and 20 days, believe me that my mother made it the worse time of my marriage, I know my Islamic rights, I have read alhamdolillah all the info on parents right and vice versa from islam online and alhamdolillah I am a muslim 24 hours, but people are not back home. You know brother/sister, the family I have found is a pious one, no complains. BUT I don?t know why my mother again has made a total mess, she hates my inlaws and my wife. She doesn?t accept her from day 1. she shouts a lot, and even on hpone till today, she doesn?t speak to me or my wife, she uses abusinve language, the language that I cant not write. I don?t understand the psychology of my mother? Whats worng with her? Whole year we work hard here in EU and go home for a break and then we have to take all this, what for? How am I suppose to behave? I don?t feel like even calling home as I have to listen the abusive language that I don?t want to. Brotehr believe me its easy said then done. And since 2000 due to mostly my mom I have spoiled my relationship with other siblings, she is famous for shouting in the whole family, even my father and the neighbours know this. Now I rea lize how my father has tolerated her, whenever they argue, she says, give me a divorce? What is this? Is this the kind of mother holy prophet says that the heaven is under the feet? Please advise and comment how should me and my wife behave so that we don?t get caught on the day of judgment as thw Quran and Hadeeth are strict about parents rights.What is the cure of a person who only thinks negative, I still love my mother (allah knows) BUT I hate the way she thinks and acts.Knowing all this If I just don?t contact my home for lets say few months, will it be ok. I am really fed up know, as I cant take it now and I might start dis respecting my parents in this course if it continues like this on phone. I think I leave them and give them time to think that I am not 6 motnhs old and I am married, am a professional doctor and am 37 and they need to learn to respect me and my wife. I asked this question earlier but did not get an answer. Jazakumullaho kahirun,Abdullah
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. My wife conceived recently but had a miscarriage in the 6th week. It was her first pregnancy and we are praying to Allah for a better child. Is there any specific `ibadah (act of worship) that we can do for having a child soon? Will we be able to meet the child we lost by miscarriage in the Hereafter? Jazakum Allah khayran.