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Assalamu aleikum, i have a question which i need its answer please. here it goes! if a girl is married and lives with her husband who is responsible for her is it her husband or her dad?does she has to listen to what her husband says or the dad.if the husband tells you to do something and the dad doesn't want you to do that thing will you get sins from your dad if you listen to the husband and not the dad.if i do what my dad wants and dont do what my husband tells me will i get sins?please help me whom should i listen to i need your help so badly.Maasalaam

Salam alikom dear scholar I want to ask a question and i would like to find an answer. Im el hamdulillah a mature and well behaved young female.and well eduacated hamdulillah. Im still studying . i have never been in any relation before. I do belive in destiny a lot. sometimes i do feel weak as i need someone in life.i feel lonly , very lonly.i need a husband and family in life.but i do have conditions in choosing my life partner.i want it a new convert to islam, i feel that this will be the person with whom i can begin my journey of life. People around me said , you dont have to say that.a mi wrong ?and is there any dua i can make to get a god feared person. I really need an answer

Assalam mualaykum... My question, i been marrying for 3 years to an Arabian citizen. My problem he always far from us, he seldom to contact us. He does when he just sent money. Is that a proper islamic way? And also we got to beautiful baby till now he don't see them much... Can they adopt the citizen of there father?

Ongoing Debt and Getting 2nd marriageasalamo Alaikum Wa Rahmato Allah, I?m in the stage of confusion and deny, I guess, but most of all, I want to do it right Insha Allah. My question is concerning on going debt and getting 2nd marriage. It?ll be long question because I think it needs all details Insha Allah. Moreover I would prefer Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qadarawi to answer the que stion because he is one of the sheikhs that my husband really respects, however if it?s not possible, all the Sheikhs are Alhumdulillah. My husband and I married over 8 years and we have no children due to my husband?s physical problem. We have to see doctor in order for us to have children. However my husband is a full time student and I?m a staying home wife. The only income we have is from the university that my husband is studying. He?s working part time with them. Well, my problem first had happen in early 2006 that my husband did approached one of my closed friends to marry. I was the one who went to ask with attention that she?d say no because I didn?t know what was going on between them both, so what happen was she said no to me and then my husband called her on the same day without my knowledge and she said yes to him. They secretly talked to each other for 2 weeks and after I found out then she broke up with him. I told my husband later on that he should wait until we already since we?re too having a debt, so the first one ended in early 2006. However my husband did approached her again early 2007 and have been talking and contacting her ever since and I just found out maybe about 2 weeks ago. They kept it secretly. She is a widow with 4 children, 2 girls at the age of 11 and 13 and 2 boys at the age of 6 and 7. She lives alone with her children and no one else stays with her. My husband visited them at home secretly sometimes and took them out sometimes. However I don?t really know whatelse it?s going on in the house. It has been more than 1 and a half year that they have been doing these and my husband promises her that he would finish his study less than a year and then he?ll marry her. My questions are 1. Is it possible to get a 2nd marriage while he?s having a $50,000 in debt? 2. Will the debt have to be paid off before he can get married? 3. If so, what should he do with an ongoing relationship? Should he stop the relationship? And then when he is free of debt, he can approach her again later? 4. Is he giving her false hope? 5. Allah is the One who provides. How can he know that he will be capable of in a year? If it?s not, what will happen with their relationship? Is it not better for them both to wait until he pays off his debt and capable of, and then he approaches her later? If it?s not happen, she?ll wait and have secret relationship with him forever? And if someone?s propose to her, she won?t be able to accept his hand because she?s in relationship? What is the ruling and advice?6. I know that my husband has intention of marriage her, but what is he doing is right? What is the advice? 7. For my part, it?s really difficult for me to find out this way. I felt they had been betrayed me because whenever they met outside in public or on my present, like community event, Islamic school matter, or at the masjid, they acted that they?re stranger to each other and never talk or look at each other at all time, but they talked on the phone too many time a day, he visited her at home, he took the kids out, and he buy things for them, which we do not have that kind of money. Please advice? 8. Can her sons who are 6 and 7 be her Muharam (guardian)? I know that my husband has no need to tell me about the marriage and I know that Allah gives all the Muslim men the right to get married more than one wife, but I think if he waits until he gets the job, pays off all the debts, and we talk and discuss about it, it would make a family?s relationship better. I do really need help in answering all the questions to make myself clear and have better understanding. I want to do things right since these mistakes have repeated itself and my husband did omit his mistakes. I ask Allah to guide us all to the Right Path and Decision Ameen. If you would like to post my question online, could you please delete some of my personal information? as I don?t want people in my community to know about it Insha Allah. Jazakum Allahu Kairan for your time and help and May Allah reward you Ameen.

Assallamu-alaikum.i got married in 1989, and It was the norm then that when a woman gets married she changes her father's name to her husband's name, the implication of that was not known to us. But when i grew up  i read one hadiths of the Prophet (SAW) that he was commanded by Allah (SWA) to make Zaid (his adopted son) to revert to his father's name. I made alot more consultations that proved that a woman should maintain her surname even after marriage.I told my husband about this situation far back then after we were married for two years but he made a comment that i got scared of its implication. " he said if you change your surname to your fathers' then you are not my wife".I knew the implication of what he said but i thought obeying him is obeying Allah. in some instance i changed my surname to my fathers' but my official documents still had his name my surname. Im confused at the situation of my marriage, if i change my surname to my fathers' which is a ruling by Allah (SWA) and disobeys my husband, does this invalidate our marriage considering the time difference? is this considered a divorce? if yes, how many?.

There is a man who admired a married woman and kept pursuing her until she was entrapped and her heart became totally attached to him. She hated life with her husband and wished to be with this sly man who ruined the house that was full of love. This man enticed her to ask her husband for divorce, then he could marry her. What is the legal ruling on such a marriage?

Respected scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. After marriage, what should the husband's priority be? Is it the wife who is completely dependent on the husband or is it his parents? Am I wrong in asking my husband to live separately but close to his parents? Does Islam preach that we live in a joint family? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear Sir, First of all, I'd like to thank you for the efforts you make to give guidance to Muslims around the world. My question is that my wife once called me father. She didn't realize what she has done. This incident occurred for fun. I mean when I asked her why she said it, she told me she called me father without being serious. She didn't mean it, and she was not aware of the consequences. Now I am very confused: Has this caused any harm to our marriage? Or is there any expiation of this, like feeding 60 poor people? Please help. My wife and I love each other so much. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Dear Sir, First of all thanks for your efforts that you people are making to give guidence to common muslims around the world. My question is that my wife called me father.She didnt realize that what she has done.this incident occured in fun.i mean when i asked her why you said that she told me she called me father with no serious intentions i mean she didnt mean it.but she was not aware of the consequences.Now i am very confused that does it have any harm on our Nikkah(marriege) or is there any penalty for us in this situation.if there is any penalty like giving food to sixty people.i mean in pakistan we have Islamic schools where students study and we can give money to islamic school to give food to childern living over there.so how much amount of money is required to feed sixty people according to islamic ruling? Please help?Waiting for your urgent response as i am under a lot of mental stress.Me and my wife love each other so much.

what duties does my husband have towards  his mum and dad and brothers and sisters? and who is suppose to come first in the realtionship his family or his wife and child?

I married my husband six years ago. We dont have kids because I am unable to conceive a child. Doctors told me I am permanently infertile and medicines are useless. My husband is ok and he wants to have kid. About two months ago he married another woman. My husband is a very kind man.even after his second marriage his attitude towards me is good. My husband's second wife isalso a nice lady. She is very kind to me. We live in a very small house with one bedroom with attached toilet. The kitchen is located outside the house so nobody can sleep there because it is not safe to stay outside at night. Similarly nobody can sleep in toilet. All we have is the bedroom which the three of us share. My husband is a poor man , neither he can buy anew house nor he can afford the rent. we have arranged for a seperate bed. So now for onenight my husband sleeps with me on double bed while the other wife sleeps on the seperate bed and the other night she sleeps with husband while I sleep on the seperate bed. Me andthe other wife daily switch places. We dont have any problem with that because It is the only possible solution. We donot ask for seperate house because both of us know that our husband can not afford it. Our husband has promised us to provide seperate homes whenever he hasenough money. Now my question is that it is ok for my husband to have sex with one wife while other wife is watching ? I know that it is not ok to look at other woman's awrah ( fromnavel to the knees ) but if my husband covers himself and the wife with a sheet of cloth whilehaving sex ? I know that it is unlawful to disclose the marriage secrets to other but there is a difference between ordinary public and wives. I know what he does to other wifeand she knows what he does to me.  Under the circumstances this is the only possible solution for us. Can we both have sex with our husband simultaneously if we both wear such clothes which conceal our bodies from navel to knees but allows our husband to have sex with us? In this way we shall not be able to see each other's awrah.

Is it haram to say to my wife “You are my soul, you are the best thing in the world” (and this is not true because the best thing in the world is Islam and the Qur’an) or to tell her “You give meaning to my life” (and this is also not true)? Is it halal or haram to say this?

Respected scholars of Islam, As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahamtu Allah wa Barakatuh. What is the responsibility of the husband in regards to working? In today’s society it is almost necessary for the wife to work. However, where does this put the family responsibilities of the children?

Dear scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. Is there any du`aa' (supplication) to find a good husband? Jazakum Allah khayran.

  After five years of accepting my husband’s abuse, I finally stood up to him about three years ago. He used to hit me, yell, and pound on walls. I lived in terror. He would always be very sorry afterwards, apologizing to me and promising things would change. He never abused the children, but I’m afraid they saw too much of this and I want them to overcome what they saw. They are 6, 5, and 2 years old.

salaam, could you please explain the following hadith, is it still applicable today: - Muslim, Book 005, Number 2238: Hammam b. Munabbih said: These are some of the a hadith of Muhammad. the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him), transmitted to us on the authority of Abu Huraira. So he narrated one hadith out of them (as this): The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: No woman should observe fast when her spouse is present (in the house) but with his permission. And she should not admit any (mahram) in his house, while he (her husband) is present, but with his permission. And whatever she spends from his earnings without his sanction, for him is half the reward.

Dear Sheikh, As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh. I wonder: Can a wife wash the body of her dead husband and vice versa? Please explain in details. Jazakum Allah Khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible to read articles on how to stimulate your wife sexually?

Is it permissible to read erotic stories with one's spouse with the aim of increasing one’s pleasure?

As-Salamu `alaykum. I got married four months back. I am a Muslim and try to follow Islam to the best of my ability. During the time of my wife's period (which is usually seven days) I get sexually aroused a lot. I would like to know if, during this time, it is permissible for me to masturbate? If not, is there any other option?

Can a husband look at the naked body of his wife and vice versa? Thank you.