Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum, Regarding polygamous marriages, I have heard that the permission of the first wife is not neccessary to take further wives. Is this true, and if so, how is this reconciled with the assertion that Islam is equitable and just to women and their rights in marriage? Jazak Allah Khayr,Confused sister
I married my husband six years ago. We dont have kids because I am unable to conceive a child. Doctors told me I am permanently infertile and medicines are useless. My husband is ok and he wants to have kid. About two months ago he married another woman. My husband is a very kind man.even after his second marriage his attitude towards me is good. My husband's second wife isalso a nice lady. She is very kind to me. We live in a very small house with one bedroom with attached toilet. The kitchen is located outside the house so nobody can sleep there because it is not safe to stay outside at night. Similarly nobody can sleep in toilet. All we have is the bedroom which the three of us share. My husband is a poor man , neither he can buy anew house nor he can afford the rent. we have arranged for a seperate bed. So now for onenight my husband sleeps with me on double bed while the other wife sleeps on the seperate bed and the other night she sleeps with husband while I sleep on the seperate bed. Me andthe other wife daily switch places. We dont have any problem with that because It is the only possible solution. We donot ask for seperate house because both of us know that our husband can not afford it. Our husband has promised us to provide seperate homes whenever he hasenough money. Now my question is that it is ok for my husband to have sex with one wife while other wife is watching ? I know that it is not ok to look at other woman's awrah ( fromnavel to the knees ) but if my husband covers himself and the wife with a sheet of cloth whilehaving sex ? I know that it is unlawful to disclose the marriage secrets to other but there is a difference between ordinary public and wives. I know what he does to other wifeand she knows what he does to me. Under the circumstances this is the only possible solution for us. Can we both have sex with our husband simultaneously if we both wear such clothes which conceal our bodies from navel to knees but allows our husband to have sex with us? In this way we shall not be able to see each other's awrah.
Is it haram to say to my wife “You are my soul, you are the best thing in the world” (and this is not true because the best thing in the world is Islam and the Qur’an) or to tell her “You give meaning to my life” (and this is also not true)? Is it halal or haram to say this?
Respected scholars of Islam, As-Salamu `Alaykum wa Rahamtu Allah wa Barakatuh. What is the responsibility of the husband in regards to working? In today’s society it is almost necessary for the wife to work. However, where does this put the family responsibilities of the children?
It is common that a husband presses or suck wife?s breast while intercourse. But after childbirth woman have wet breasts. During this time if husband continues to do so then milk might pour into his mouth. What Islam says on this topic, as breastfeeding is allowed up to two years of infants not for adults (is husband included among the adults)?
Is a man allowed to have sex with his wife while she is sleeping? Doesn’t Islam see this as a degradation of women?In Paradise, every deserving servant of Allah Subhana wa Ta’ala will be content. But what if I don’t want to share my husband in paradise with numerous other women, while he wants to have many many wives along with me in paradise? How will that conflict be solved? How will both the wife and the husband be content?Why will Allah remove the jealousy (of sharing one’s husband) in women’s hearts, but not the extreme lust (of having hundreds of wives) in men’s hearts? In other words, why doesn’t Allah remove the extreme lust of having numerous wives in men’s hearts in order to satisfy the female believers?Why is it that if a woman were married multiple times in the worldly life, she has to choose only ONE husband in Paradise?I also heard that if it is the desire of a woman to be married to multiple men in paradise (let’s say she had fallen in love with numerous men in the worldly life or she just has the desire of having many men servants—there are actually foreign cultures in which women have multiple husbands), then that wish will be granted to her since Paradise is all about being satisfied and fulfilling one’s desires. Is that true?Are there men created for the sole purpose of women’s sexual satisfaction in Paradise?It is not seen as degradation that women in paradise will be created for the sole purpose of men’s sexual satisfaction?These are just questions that plague the minds of many, if not all, women, and I hope I am not disrespecting Allah in any way (astaghfurAllah, may Allah Forgive me). I want to make it clear to the audience that this is not intended as an attack or a disrespect of Allah Subhaa wa Ta’ala and His beautiful religion Islam. I just desire to obtain full clear answers to every one of these questions if you have enough knowledge to provide answers, because I am aware that not everything Allah Subana wa Ta’ala wills is meant for us to understand while being in our current worldly bodies, and Allah the All-Knowing Knows Best.
My husband has a beard. I don't like the way it looks and the way it feels. I find my husband unattractive. I understand that this is sunnah and i respect it, But aren't there other things that are more important than growing a beard? Like praying the sunnah prayers? Doesn't my husband have to look good for me? Is it permissable for a husband to shave his beard if his wife doesn't like it?
Assalamu alejkum, respected scholars, my brothers. I have a question about sexual relationship between husband and wife.as a young unmarried man, I want to know what is legal and what is not according to the holy Quran. Is it legal to have sex with ones wife with no intention to have children, only to fulfill ones desire? And is it legal to have sex several times during the week?And another question; I have heard that when people get married that their sins will be cleared, I mean that the counting of sins starts from zero again, like you were reborn. Is this true?Thank you very much
salaam, could you please explain the following hadith, is it still applicable today: - Muslim, Book 005, Number 2238: Hammam b. Munabbih said: These are some of the a hadith of Muhammad. the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him), transmitted to us on the authority of Abu Huraira. So he narrated one hadith out of them (as this): The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: No woman should observe fast when her spouse is present (in the house) but with his permission. And she should not admit any (mahram) in his house, while he (her husband) is present, but with his permission. And whatever she spends from his earnings without his sanction, for him is half the reward.
Respected scholars, please enlighten me on what Shari`ah says on the rate of wife’s sustenance? May Allah reward you!
Respected scholars of Islam, as-Salamu `alaykum! What is the proper relationship between a man's wife and his mother? What should a man do when the relationship becomes bitter?
What are the limits of the duties a wife must fulfill toward her husband so as to be considered doing an act of jihad in the cause of Allah?
Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. If a man is traveling by himself, is he required to seek the permission of his wife before leaving? Jazakum Allah khayran.
As-Salamu `alaykum. If a man is unemployed, is it against Islam for him to live on the income of his working wife? Now the only income we have is that which I am earning. My husband thinks that it is haram for him to live on my earnings, even though unemployment is endemic here in Sudan. We are not Sudanese, but came here because I had signed a 3-year contract in January this year, and we married unexpectedly in June. We had hoped that a job would become available for my husband, and he has diligently searched, but nothing has been forthcoming. The job that I am currently occupying is a big step professionally and will allow us to save enough money to buy a home in the near future. I have happily and willingly turned over all funds to my husband, and I know that this situation is of a finite nature, but he grows increasingly concerned that he is not fulfilling his obligation to cater for me. I hope you can allay his fears. Thank you for your help.
Scholars of Islam, as-Salamu `alaykum. I’m a Muslim and have a child. I face a serious problem. My husband leaves me for a long time without intercourse because of traveling and I find my self obliged to masturbate. What are the Shari`ah-based rules regarding this issue?