Concerning the importance of consultation in marriage issue, a prominent scholar and Da`iyah, Zeinab Mostafa, states:
“Islam teaches us to resort to Allah in all things. Istikharah is one way of seeking Allah’s guidance and help as to which decision best suits one’s interests and needs. When someone feels comfortable, that means the istikharah is positive; otherwise a feeling of discomfort will develop into the heart, discouraging the person from proceeding with the matter in hand.
Having said that, it should be noted that istikharah is not an alternative to taking means, seeking counsels from experienced people or discussing the marriage proposal among the family members. A Muslim is required to take the means and seek consultation from experienced people. Sharing experiences, thoughts, and views on marriage proposal is part of taking the means.”
