When Allah spoke about marriage, He put a link between it and cordiality and intimacy and therefore the basis of relation between married couple is the mutual love and concord. This is an essential rule that both the wife and the husband should bear in mind and they should revive it by endearing and beautifying themselves to one another.
It is reported that Ibn `Abbas said, “I do love to beautify myself to my wife just as I love her to be beautified for me.” Surely, we do not blame you by this for any negligence on your part but to urge both of you do your best in getting close to one another.
Taking into consideration that man is created with a natural desire for sex, one should seek to satisfy this drive through the lawful means. This, in turn, means that this part cannot be left out. You should spare no efforts to solve this problem and end it.
We would recommend for the wife a constant recitation of the Qur’an, and including Him to be protected from Satan and his evil insinuations. He should know that the greatest evil act for Satan to do is to ignite the sources of troubles and disagreement between a man and his wife. In doing so, he may whisper to anyone of them with whatever can spoil and disconnect this strong relation, such as making the wife frightened of intimate relations or otherwise. Therefore, the wife should not let him accomplish his aims and damage your life with his whispers.
Moreover, Islam permits, even urges a wife to get close to her husband and indulge in sex with him by stating that when doing sex with a wife both spouses are rewarded. Abu Dharr reported the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,
“Enjoining what is good is a charity. Forbidding what is evil is a charity. Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, if one of us fulfils his (sexual) desire, is there reward in that?” He said, “Do you not see that if he does it in a haram way, he will have the burden of sin? So if he does it in a halal way, he will have a reward for that.” (Narrated by Muslim)
Then, it is our advice to the husband to be patient and approach his wife wisely, nicely and kindly. And our advice to both spouses to get themselves acquainted with the teachings of Islam as regards intimate relations and what is allowable and what is not allowable in this regard.
