husband and wife

As-Salamu `Alaykum. I would like to know whether it is necessary to get the permission of one's wife to work abroad for one year or more. I'm working abroad, and I have signed a two-year contract. I have heard that a husband needs his wife's approval to stay away more than four months. Is that right?

Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is it Halal to have intercourse with a husband who doesn't pray? He always promises to do so. Also, he sometimes drinks, but Al-Hamdulillah he is not an alcoholic. He promises he'll quit, as his wife is a good Muslim and tries to help him. His character is good but his only faults are these two matters: laziness in praying and drinking from time to time. What is Islam's view on this? Jazakum Allah khayran.

What does the Shari`ah say in regard to the pills that people use to enhance their sexual desire and to be stronger and create more excitement?

Respected scholars! Is a Christian woman who is married to a Muslim required to observe `Iddah after divorce or death of her Muslim husband?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Does a man have the right to enforce the Islamic dress code on his wife against her wishes? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Do I have to divulge my past to a man that could possibly be my prospective husband? I am ashamed of some of the sins I have committed in my past and I have changed my life style drastically. Does he have the right to know if I don't feel comfortable sharing my past, and am afraid he will not talk to me anymore? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a wife ask to be divorced from her sinning (fasiq) husband who neglects prayers? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible for the husband and wife to pool their wealth together in order to meet life expenses? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Does Islam enjoin that a wife should stay at home like an insignificant object, looked down upon and treated like a maid?

I have a question regarding Hajj. One of my friends told me that she read in an authentic book that the cost of a woman's Hajj is not compulsory on her husband. Is this true? Meaning, does a woman have to do her Hajj with her own money not her husband's?

My husband was away on business for five months and after he came back he told me that he’d like to marry a second wife. Hearing him I was upset when I know that his would-be se cond wife lives in Morocco and I am in UK. How can he divide the days equally if he spends more time in Morocco than here in the UK. How can he give us equal treatment? Please reply as soon as possible.

Can a Muslim woman perform Hajj without seeking the permission of her husband?

Dear respected sheikhs, as-salamu `alaykum. I was surprised by the talk of some women. I know them to be God-fearing, and I hear their husbands are righteous and pious. However, they complained greatly and painfully about their husbands. They said that their husbands are selfish, rude, unkind towards them and treat them as slaves. One of them said to his wife, when she was giving him advice, “A woman should never be listened to unless she invites her husband to prayer or fasting.” I know this is not the Islamic way of treatment and mutual respect between husband and wife. What do you have to say about this issue? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Could you please shed more light on the mutual rights of the husband and wife? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible to read articles on how to stimulate your wife sexually?

I would like to ask that whether Islam permits husband and wife to take bath together.

Dear Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. My Christian wife and I are thinking about divorce. We have children. Who is going to bear the responsibilities of our children? Yarhamu kum Allah (May Allah have mercy on you)!

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it haram for a woman to ask her husband for a divorce because he wants to marry another wife? And if she does and he divorces her, is she going to be punished by Allah for that? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. If a Muslim's wife does not follow Islam totally and completely, and the husband does not make her change, will he be considered sinful? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykm. What does ghilah—which is mentioned in the hadith “I intended to prohibit ghilah. . ."—mean? And what is the legal ruling pertaining to it?

As-Salamu `alaykkum. Is it permissible in Islam for a husband and wife to have sex completely naked, while being covered with a black-colored sheet?

Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is there such thing as rape in a marriage? Is a wife obligated to do EVERYTHING her husband demands of her? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear Sheikh! There are many uproars nowadays condemning women’s staying at home and blaming Muslim woman for preferring house to having a job. I myself see that the main role of a Muslim woman is her role as a mother and wife. Can you shed light on this?

Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. What do you say about a husband who refuses his wife's demand to have sexual intercourse? Does this mean that he will be cursed by angels the same way a woman who does the same act will be cursed? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. I read somewhere that during the woman’s menstrual period, it is haram to do sex below the woman’s waist, while it is halal above the waist and there is nothing wrong taking part in sex with husband with upper body only. Is this correct in the light of true Islamic teachings? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `Alaykum. Could you please enlighten me about the Islamic ruling concerning divulging one’s bedroom secrets in public? Some people find no shame in discussing such secrets in public. Is such a thing permissible in Islam? Please cite an evidence in support of your view. Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

Should the husband divorce his wife if she refuses to wear hijab?

As-Salamu `alaykum. If a husband does not allow his wife to work, is it his duty to provide her with spending money for her needs?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a wife who has been living separately from her husband for the past three years because of oppression, ill-treatment and deceit from the husband, divorce the husband even if the husband is not willing? I read from some sources that a wife does not have the right to divorce. If yes, what is the procedure for it? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Can a husband prevent his wife from attending Islamic women’s gatherings? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. What is the ruling concerning the deferred dowry in case of a wife's death? Should the husband give it as charity? Or should it be considered a right that is relinquished due to her death? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-salamu `alaykum, I am a Muslim woman and I want to know if a woman and a man are obliged to live together when they are married or if they can be married and live separately?

Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to perform Hajj without taking her husband's permission?

If before passing away a man tells his wife to remarry and even tells her whom he would like her to marry, is it wajib (imperative) for her to follow his will?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is a man allowed to have sex with his wife if the maximum time (forty days) for nifas (postpartum bleeding) is not over, but she has stopped her bleeding? She had a stillbirth. Please answer as soon as possible.

<![CDATA[Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What is the Islamic legal status of a woman who speaks to her friend about her conjugal relationship with her husband? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Concerning names, is a woman supposed to change her family name to her husband's name after marriage as it is in the West?

Is it permissible to read erotic stories with one's spouse with the aim of increasing one’s pleasure?

Dear sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum. I have only contracted nikah (marriage) with my wife with legal papers. But she still lives with her parents’. I am an immigrant in Canada and have applied for her immigration. After her papers come through, I will go there and consummate the marriage and have the walimah (wedding feast). My question is, am I responsible for her food and clothing or any other needs before the marriage is consummated and she is still living with her parents?

As-Salamu `alaykum. I got married four months back. I am a Muslim and try to follow Islam to the best of my ability. During the time of my wife's period (which is usually seven days) I get sexually aroused a lot. I would like to know if, during this time, it is permissible for me to masturbate? If not, is there any other option?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What is the point of view of Islam regarding a husband’s taking his wife’s salary by force? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Is the husband responsible to pay the education fees if his wife is willing to study subjects like Arabic and English for the purpose of knowledge or teaching in the future?

Can a husband look at the naked body of his wife and vice versa? Thank you.

As-Salamu `alaykum!How long can a husband stay away from his wife, e.g., traveling abroad?

As-Salamu `alaykum. I would like to ask whether or not it is permissible for a womon to use sex toys, i.e., vibrators, when her husband cannot satisfy her?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. May a newly-wed man divorce his wife if he discovered that she had lost her hymen? The woman swears by Allah Almighty that she did so by means other than sexual intercourse (such as practicing sport). Jazakum Allah khayran.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it permissible for the wife to open a personal bank account with her own income, or must she place her income in one account along with her husband's income, from which he could provide for the family? Jazakum Allah khayran.

I am married to a Christian and she wants to eat pork, but one of my Muslim friends told me I can prevent her since the Bible even spoke against it. Can you tell me what the Bible exactly says about that?

Could you please tell me whether a wife can ask her husband for money to buy gifts for her family whom she can only visit once a year, as she is staying in a different country? Should the husband give her? Is it not the husband’s duty to buy gifts for his wife’s family once a year just as he does for his family? Is it right for a husband to delay the debt he owes to his wife’s family when the wife repeatedly tells him that her family is in real need?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. After marriage, what should the husband’s priority be? Is it the wife, who is completely dependent on the husband, or his parents? Am I wrong to ask my husband to live separately from but close to his parents? Does Islam preach that we live in an extended family? Jazakum Allah khayran.

As-Salamu `alaykum! Is sucking one’s wife’s breasts haram? Does suckling one’s wife’s breasts make her as one’s mother (i.e., becoming unlawful for him)?

As-Salamu `alaykum. To what extent should a wife obey her husband? Must she agree unconditionally to whatever he says, or can she differ, if there are reasonable grounds? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Hi. I am a Christian woman married to an Egyptian Muslim man. We have been married for three years. My husband wants 4-6 children. We recently found out that I am pregnant. Ever since I told him the news he has been distant. He doesn't talk to me, and when we do talk, it usually ends up in verbal fights.  He seems to have no interest in the pregnancy. He sees no need to go to any of the doctor's visits with me, and when I told him that I heard the baby's heartbeat he just said, "That's nice." Is this normal behavior for an Egyptian Muslim man? When I ask my husband he says that men act differently to women. Please advise me. I am so confused and upset. I just feel so alone in this pregnancy. Thank you.

As-Salamu `alaykum. A single woman committed zina (illegitimate sexual intercourse) with a single man. There were no witnesses. She is now married and confessed to her husband about it. Her husband forgave her and she also repented. She would like to be punished according to the Islamic laws. Can her husband lash her 100 times without anyone being present?