Dr.Muzammil Siddiqi, former president of the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA), states the following: “All forms of physical, emotional and mental abuse can be a ground for divorce in Islam. Spouses are urged to live together and treat each other with respect and kindness; they are urged to love each other and provide peace and tranquillity to each other.
Speaking about the spousal relations, Allah Almighty says: “ And of His signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo, herein indeed are portents for folk who reflect.” (Ar-Rum: 21)
Allah also commands the spouses saying, “…Either live on equitable terms or separate with kindness….” (Al-Baqarah: 229)
Husbands are advised, “…And do not hold them (the wives) to injure them or take undue advantage…” (Al-Baqarah: 231).
All these verses make it very clear that according to the Rules of Allah, it is the duty of the spouses not to abuse each other physically or emotionally. Since husband is the head of the household, he is directly commanded not to injure his wife in any manner.
If a woman complains to an Islamic judge that her husband has been abusive and has caused her mental or emotional harms, then the judge has to investigate the matter through family counselors or psychologists to verify her complaints. If it is proved that her husband is really abusive then the judge has the authority to separate them and dissolve their marriage.
However, taking America as an example of a country without religious court, since American system does not allow religious courts, we cannot have Islamic judges in this country. Muslims, however, can establish Islamic arbitration committees to decide their disputes according to the Islamic law.
Arbitration system is acceptable in this country and many religious and other institutions use arbitration. Many of our matrimonial problems can be solved if we establish Islamic arbitration committees. At the time of marriage spouses should sign a pre-nuptial agreement stating that in case of disputes they will only go Islamic arbitration and will accept its decision. Most of the states in the United States also allow pre-nuptial agreements.”