The Role of Spousal Affection in a Child’s Upbringing

In Islam, the family unit is built upon love, compassion, and respect. Many couples wonder whether displaying affection in front of their children affects their upbringing. The answer depends on the type of affection being shown.

If the affection includes kindness, compassion, care, and general expressions of love—such as a gentle hug or kind words—then displaying such behavior in front of children is not only permissible but beneficial. It fosters a peaceful and loving home environment, reinforcing strong family bonds. Children who witness healthy, affectionate relationships between their parents often develop emotional stability, confidence, and an understanding of healthy relationships.

However, any form of intimacy reserved for private moments between spouses should not be displayed in front of children, regardless of their age. Islam emphasizes modesty and honor in all aspects of life. The Quran states:

“O you who believe! Let your slaves and slave girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission (before they come to your presence) on three occasions: before Fajr (morning) prayer, and while you take off your clothes for the noonday (rest), and after the `Isha’ (night) prayer. (These) three times are of privacy for you…” (Surah An-Nur 24:58-59)

This verse highlights the importance of maintaining boundaries within the household, ensuring that children are not exposed to inappropriate displays of affection. Scholars have emphasized that excessive displays of physical affection may confuse children, lead to imitative behavior, or cause unnecessary discomfort.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and his companions maintained high standards of modesty in their homes. Displaying care and respect within marriage is encouraged, but it should always align with Islamic etiquette.

How to Remember Allah Throughout the Day

Increasing faith and maintaining a constant connection with Allah is essential for every believer. Worship in Islam extends beyond the five daily prayers—it encompasses every action done with the right intention.

Here are some practical ways to remember Allah throughout the day:

  1. Make Every Action an Act of Worship
    The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught that even daily activities, such as eating, drinking, or engaging with family, can become acts of worship if done with the intention of pleasing Allah. A sincere intention transforms ordinary acts into acts of devotion.
  2. Recite Daily Supplications (Duas & Dhikr)
    There are numerous authentic duas and adhkar that can be incorporated into daily life. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged Muslims to say:
    • “SubhanAllah wa bihamdih” 100 times a day to erase sins, even if they are as vast as the foam of the sea. (Sahih al-Bukhari)
    • “Laa ilaaha ill-Allah wahdahu laa shareeka lah…” 100 times daily to earn immense rewards and protection from Shaytan. (Sahih al-Bukhari)
    Using a small dhikr counter or an app can be helpful in remembering these supplications regularly.
  3. Incorporate Sunnah Practices in Daily Life
    Following the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) strengthens faith. Simple practices include:
    • Saying “Bismillah” before starting any task.
    • Reciting the morning and evening adhkar.
    • Making dua before leaving and entering home.
    • Thanking Allah after eating and drinking.
  4. Read and Reflect on the Quran
    Even a few verses a day can impact one’s heart and strengthen faith. Making a habit of reciting or listening to Quranic verses throughout the day enhances spiritual awareness.
  5. Surround Yourself with Righteous Company
    Being in the company of pious individuals and engaging in beneficial discussions about Islam serves as a reminder of Allah and encourages faith-based actions.
  6. Seek Knowledge and Act Upon It
    Increasing faith is directly tied to seeking Islamic knowledge. Reading books like Hisn al-Muslim (Fortress of the Muslim) and listening to Islamic lectures helps in staying spiritually connected.

Conclusion

A loving and respectful relationship between spouses significantly contributes to a child’s upbringing, provided that the affection displayed aligns with Islamic principles. At the same time, remembering Allah frequently throughout the day strengthens faith and brings blessings into daily life. By incorporating small acts of dhikr, supplications, and sincere intentions, a believer can transform everyday moments into acts of worship and draw closer to Allah.

May Allah guide us to live according to His teachings and grant us the ability to maintain a strong connection with Him in all aspects of our lives..