The decision regarding performing Hajj with children—specifically those of a young age (e.g., 5 or 6 years old)—presents a significant dilemma for Muslim parents. While the desire to fulfill the pilgrimage is strong, parents often fear for the physical safety of their children in the massive crowds and worry that childcare duties will distract them from the intense spiritual focus required for Hajj rituals.
Islamic scholars advise that the obligation of Hajj is conditional, and the safety of one’s dependents is a valid factor in determining when to perform the pilgrimage.
The Condition of Capability (Istita’ah)
Hajj is obligatory only on those who are physically and financially able to perform it (Istita’ah). This capability is not just financial; it includes the ability to secure the safety of oneself and one’s dependents.
Scholars emphasize that Islam is a religion of mercy and does not require believers to expose their children to dangers or hardships they cannot bear.
Safety Concerns and Focus
Due to the extreme crowding and physical exertion involved in the rituals, scholars generally do not advise taking young children to Hajj if it can be avoided.
- Physical Safety: The risk of children getting lost or injured in the crush of millions of pilgrims is a genuine concern.
- Spiritual Focus: Hajj requires deep concentration (Khushu’). Caring for young children often divides the parent’s attention, potentially reducing the spiritual quality of the pilgrimage.
The Ruling on Delaying Hajj
If parents cannot find a trustworthy relative or guardian to care for the children at home, they are faced with two choices: taking the children or delaying the Hajj.
- Leaving them with a Guardian: This is the ideal scenario. If a trusted person is available to care for them without hardship, the parents should proceed with Hajj.
- Delaying the Pilgrimage: If no trustworthy childcare is available, it is permissible to delay Hajj until a more appropriate time. The obligation of Hajj does not necessitate neglecting the safety of one’s children.
Alternatively, if the parents choose to travel, they might consider finding a trusted caregiver in Makkah (such as a nursery or hired help) to watch the children specifically during the performance of the rites, ensuring both safety and focus.
