First of all, we should acknowledge that Allah has legislated marriage for both man and woman to form a lawful relationship and build a family. He, the Almighty, put determined rights and duties of man and woman and He wanted them to fulfill these rights and responsibilities through an atmosphere of love, cooperation and kindness. As stated by the Qur’an, Allah made in marriage a cordiality and mercy for both man and woman. He (exalted be He) said,

(And of His signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that you might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo! herein indeed are portents for folk who reflect.) [Ar-Rum 30:21]

This Ayah indicates that marriage is a source of tranquility and peace. Allah encourages people to marry in order to gain these merits as well as the reward of doing it following the sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).

As for the complain of a husband being busy and does not give his spouse adequate time for discussion, etc., we would like to deal this issue in the following points:

1-     No doubt that a wife has rights over  her husband as stated in the hadith in which the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you will be questioned [about those under his care]. The leader is a shepherd and will be questioned. A man is the shepherd of his family and will be questioned. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and she will be questioned. A slave is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and will be questioned. Each of you is a shepherd and each of you will be questioned [about those under his care].” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim). This hadith indicates the husband’s responsibility of his family, which includes providing for them, giving them advice when necessary, help them learn the teachings of their religion, etc.

Sometimes, a  husband tries to give his wife everything she needs such as, money, cloths, food, etc. This is a commendable effort. However, it should be known to such a person that both material and immaterial sides are equally required. In other words, he should meet his wife’s emotional and sentimental desires just as he cares for her needs of food, cloths because it is part of her rights which should not be deprived. 

2-     Nowadays, there is truly a crisis in what we called the immaterial side. People are affected with machines and computers, so they give little care to feelings and senses. Some husbands pay more interest to their works while they negligent the emotional needs of their wives. This is also common among businessmen and businesswomen as well. If this is the case a particular wife, it is advisable that she shows her husband the importance of the other side through reflecting its impact on her life. She should fill her house with warmheartedness, kindness, love and sympathy; She should let her house be the shelter which her husband would resort to. Doing so will  definitely make him willingly stay more time with her.

Also, we will also advise wives to be so kind and nice when speaking to their husbands about issues like this. They should know that Their husbands return from their works exhausted with their business problems and matters. Hence, when asking for such rights, it should be done gently. hopefully, they get to understand their demands and adjust.


3-     Women should not allow Satan to disturb their lives through inciting them to asking their husbands repeatedly to assign more time to them as that may make them reply in a bad manner. They should be patient, seek their husbands’ satisfaction and supplicate Allah to amend their lives.

4-     Lastly, we should know that Allah did not create us just for working and enjoying the luxuries of this life. Instead, He created us in order to worship Him. In order words, we should never forget this aim and let our works absorb our time.