May a lady Refuse a Suitor Who Has No Job?
As-Salamu `alaikum, my question is on the criteria for accepting or refusing a marriage proposal. Everything is OK in terms of religion, morals, social compatibility, and close compatibility in material status. The main problem is that he doesn't have a job yet (he is in his last yea r in college). His parents promise to support him in the beginning of his marriage. My questions are:1. Does this mean that he doesn't have the ba’ah for marriage? In other words what is meant by ba’ah in the hadith: "man istata`a minkum al-ba’ah fal yatazawaj (O young men! Whoever amongst you is able to marry, let him marry)..."2. Would it be wrong for me to refuse such a person if this was his major drawback?3. Which matters are obligatory in choosing the spouse and which does Islam leave for us to judge?
