Wife’s Obedience to Her Husband
Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaikum. My question is regarding Obedience to one?s Husband. I have been constantly bombarded with fights and challenges when it comes to my wife having issues when it comes to listening to me due to the fact that if she listens to me it would mean she is lowering herself. She know that I listen to her so it?s not a problem of I don?t listen to her. She fights for 50-50 in almost everything. I told her that as the Husband and the man of the house she has to respect my position, but she is not a person who if someone say to jump she would ask how high.the last fight I would explain to help you to understand what I am going through and would hope that you can give guidance. One of her guy friends brother had died recently, however, the friend is a person whom I dislike not the deceased, the brother who would be present at the funeral. My wife wanted to go to the funeral to show her respects. However, I informed her that I would not be comfortable with her going. She didn?t accept, she didn?t see anything wrong with going and so even though I was disturbed about it she still insisted on going and still went. She is saying what about what she wants to do, she says it?s not like she is going to do anything inappropriate she is just going to meet her friends. Is this a sufficient excuse for her to go to the funeral even though her Husband is requesting that he would not like her to go because he is not comfortable and also not in the country? Should I have lightened up due to the fact that it?s a death; let me add further that it was not a Muslim funeral. I trust my wife however, if I am displeased with her going, is her excuse for going valid? I told her she could have sent a card or called the person whom I still dislike, or if I was in the country we would have both gone together, just I ask that you don?t go to the funeral. This was still not enough because she still went to the funeral and met her friends and she was fine. She didn?t see anything wrong and I being displeased was not enough for her not to go because in her mine although I dislike the person she justified that it?s a death. How do you picture this situation and what do u foresee. I must add that I didn?t want her to go based on the fact that the deceased brother had a likeness for my wife whom she would meet at the funeral, I am not jealous but I prefer to eliminate risk instead of outing fires. She would be going to the funeral to send condolences and sympathy to the person whom I don?t like, cause at the time of meeting my wife this person knew that I was intending to be with her yet still he would want to be a close friend to her and she allowed it due to that fact that we were not married as yet or not close as yet. Can you please give guidance based on what is right as a Muslim married couple because we are trying to live an Islamic life?how can someone expalin to a woman that Man is the head? And it is equity not equality? Men are facing lots of problems with women when it comes to roles and responsibilities being mixed up.thanking you in advance and wish that you could answer my question in detail concerning the issue with the funeral and guidance for married women.
