cooking

I have recently become Muslim, but my family does not know yet. I plan to tell them when the time is right. My question regards a traditional dish that contains pork. I know I cannot eat this dish with pork, but I am expected to make this dish, but I do not know if it is allowed in Islam. I suggested beef instead of pork, but that did not go over so well. Perhaps you can tell me what I can do?

Alsalam alaikum, 1-Islamically, is cooking and cleaning solely part of a womens (married/unmarried)duty? Is it something she must learn to please Allah (SWT)? 2- Does a (married/unmarried) women really need to seek permission from a male relative if she's going somewhere. Especially when the male relative leaves whenever they want, and returns whenever they want. Put in mind that the women might leave to do necesary things like picking up kids from school, paying bills, getting groceries..etc. Letting that person know is understandable but Asking Permission every single time?"

Dear scholars, As-salamu `alaykum. Is it a wife’s responsibility to cook food, clean the house, and fetch household stuff from the market? Can the husband force the wife to do all this? Jazakum Allah khayran.