Helping a sibling with pornography addiction requires a shift from strict policing to supportive rehabilitation. When a younger sibling falls into unhealthy digital habits, the natural reaction is often anger or punishment (e.g., cutting off the internet). However, without addressing the underlying emotional void—often caused by parental neglect or family trauma—restrictions alone will fail. Below are revised guidelines and regulations focused on rebuilding trust, establishing healthy boundaries, and fostering spiritual growth.

1. The Rule of Connection Before Correction

Before enforcing rules, the relationship must shift from authoritarian to supportive. A sister acting as a disciplinarian may drive the younger sibling further into secrecy. Do not punish or shame. Replace scolding with companionship. Acknowledge shared pain regarding the family situation (e.g., the loss of a mother). Use this shared experience to build a bond of alliance rather than opposition.

2. Revised Digital Boundaries

Access to the internet is a privilege that requires responsibility, but total isolation is often impractical for students. The rules should focus on how and where the internet is used.

  • The “Open Door” Regulation: Internet usage is permitted only in shared family spaces or in the presence of the older sister. Secrecy is the breeding ground for addiction; transparency is the cure.
  • Time Limits: Internet access is restricted to specific times, preferably after schoolwork is completed. Late-night usage, when the household is asleep, is prohibited.
  • Purposeful Browsing: Aimless surfing is discouraged. Together, seek out constructive websites (e.g., educational resources, Islamic youth sites, or local news) to occupy the mind with healthy content.

3. Active Media Engagement

Passive consumption of media can numb the mind and lower moral defenses. Replace solitary viewing with shared viewing. Watch movies or programs together once a week. Use this time to discuss the content critically—analyze the storylines and moral implications. This transforms passive entertainment into an active exercise in critical thinking and bonding.

4. Mobilizing Adult Support

A teenager cannot fully replace a parent. Seek external adult supervision. Initiate a serious conversation with the father about the need for a female guardian’s presence. Actively explore options for an aunt or grandmother to visit or stay more frequently to provide the maternal care both sisters are missing.

5. Joint Spiritual Rehabilitation

A “poor” religious environment contributes to a lack of self-worth. Spiritual growth is a team effort, not a lecture. The older sister must lead by example. Re-establish prayer (Salah) and invite the younger sister to join. Frame worship as a source of peace and dignity, rather than an obligation to be feared. As Ramadan approaches, use the season to fast and repent together, reinforcing that Allah’s mercy is greater than any past mistake.