It should be clear that a Muslim can read such works if they are written by qualified and pious Muslim scholars.
Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi, former president of the Islamic Society of North America, states: “As a husband, you may read such articles if they are written by qualified and pious Muslim writers. The problem is that most of the literature in the market or videos and films on this subject are prepared by those who do not know the difference between right and wrong.
It is possible that someone may teach you some techniques of stimulation that may lead you to do haram (forbidden) acts.
Al-hamdulillah, now we do have some Muslim scholars who are writing good books on this subject. Recently, I heard on Al-Jazeerah, Dr.Heba Ezzat speaking on this subject and she mentioned one of her works. She is a qualified and pious Muslim scholar and I would not hesitate recommending her work.”