Dealing with family resistance while facing financial hardship is one of the most testing combinations a believer can endure. As a mother who has reverted to Islam, balancing your love for your Christian daughters with your desire to see them guided—while simultaneously struggling to find work in a hijab—requires immense patience (Sabr) and reliance on Allah (Tawakkul).

Here is a breakdown of the advice offered regarding your situation, focusing on steadfastness, parenting strategies, and spiritual resilience.

1. Steadfastness Regarding the Hijab and Work

Your youngest daughter suggests removing the hijab to avoid judgment and find work. While this comes from a place of concern for your well-being, the Islamic perspective emphasizes that worldly sustenance (Rizq) is in the hands of Allah, not employers.

  • The Test of Faith: Hardship is often a test to reveal our true sincerity. Do not remove your hijab for the sake of finding work. Prioritizing the Creator over the creation is the ultimate success.
  • The Perspective of Prophet Ayyub: Remember Prophet Ayyub (Job), who lost his wealth, health, and family but remained patient. His steadfastness is a model for believers; he knew that loss was a test from Allah, and eventually, his blessings were restored and multiplied.
  • Teaching Moment: Use this struggle to teach your daughters that while work is vital, moral principles and one’s relationship with God are non-negotiable. If you compromise your faith for money, you teach them that principles are for sale when times get tough.

2. Guidance for Interaction with Your Daughters

You mentioned that your eldest daughters are holding onto Christianity and are not listening to your explanations of Islam. Pushing too hard when a heart is not ready can often have the opposite effect.

  • Shift from Words to Actions: If verbal explanations are being rejected, pause them. Constant preaching may push them away. Instead, let them see Islam through your character—your patience during unemployment, your kindness, and your inner peace.
  • Personalize the Message: When you do speak about faith, frame it around your experience rather than their obligation. Share how Islam helps you deal with stress or sadness. This allows them to see the beauty of the faith without feeling attacked or pressured.
  • Celebrate Small Wins: You noted that they joined you in fasting during Ramadan. This is a significant positive step. Acknowledge these moments without demanding more immediately.
  • Patience is Key: Just because you have found the truth does not mean they are ready to accept it instantly. Guidance comes from Allah; your role is to convey the message gently and lovingly.

3. Spiritual Coping Mechanisms

Feeling lost or sad is a human emotion, and even the Prophets experienced sorrow. However, despair should not lead to losing hope in Allah’s mercy.

  • The Prophet in the Cave: Recall the moment Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was hiding in the cave with Abu Bakr. When Abu Bakr feared they were caught, the Prophet reminded him, “Do not grieve; indeed Allah is with us.” Remind yourself that you are never truly alone.
  • Recommended Worship: To combat feelings of loss and to ask for aid, increase the following:
    • Du’aa (Supplication): Ask specifically for the guidance of your daughters and for a lawful job.
    • Tahajjud: The optional late-night prayer is a time when du’aa is readily accepted.
    • Duha: The optional morning prayer.
    • Sadaqah (Charity): Even if you have little money, give charity through your time, a smile, or helping someone else. This invites blessings (Barakah) into your life.