Many young Muslims, particularly in Western countries, may find themselves in relationships that begin innocently but can lead to major sins, such as zina (adultery). When this involves a non-Muslim, it adds complexity regarding repentance and marriage.
While it is a major sin, the door to Allah’s mercy is always open. Almighty Allah states in the Qur’an:
“Say: ‘O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'” (Az-Zumar: 53)
“Allah accepts the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and repent soon afterwards; to them will Allah turn in mercy: For Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom.” (An-Nisa’: 17)
Practical Steps for Sincere Repentance
Prominent Islamic scholars advise a serious and immediate path to repentance. Practical steps include:
Taking a shower (ghusl) with the specific intention of repentance.
Performing two rak’ahs of optional (nafl) prayer.
Turning to Allah with sincere du’a’ (supplication), acknowledging the wrong, and begging for forgiveness.
Observing regular prayers and becoming more involved in Islamic work.
Giving sadaqah (charity) to the poor and needy with the intention of self-purification.
Making a firm resolve to never commit the sin again.
Ruling on Marriage after the Affair
The illicit relationship must be cut off immediately.
Marriage to the partner is only permissible under specific conditions. Scholars state that the woman must accept Islam genuinely, not just for the sake of marriage. If she does convert sincerely, Allah forgives her past sins, and marriage becomes permissible.
Handling Family Relations
If a marriage does occur, the partner should be introduced to the family. This news may be a shock, and they may find it difficult to accept.
However, it is essential to maintain good relations with one’s family. One should not separate from them because of the relationship. Wisdom and patience are required to keep the family ties intact.
