New Muslims often seek clarity on specific financial rulings, such as giving Zakah to relatives, while also navigating the natural fluctuations of their spiritual journey. Questions often arise regarding whether one can financially assist family members through obligatory alms (Zakah) and how to overcome feelings of spiritual distance from Allah.
The Ruling on Giving Zakah to In-Laws and Siblings
The general rule in Islamic jurisprudence regarding Zakah is based on financial responsibility. One cannot give Zakah to someone they are already legally obligated to support (such as a man supporting his wife or minor children).
However, prominent economists and scholars clarify that the ruling differs based on gender and relationship:
For Women: A Muslim woman is not financially responsible for her husband, siblings, or in-laws. Therefore, she is permitted to give her Zakah to her poor brother-in-law, her own siblings, or even her husband. This remains permissible even if she knows her husband might use that money to spend on her household needs.
For Men: A male adult may give his Zakah to his adult brother, siblings, or in-laws. However, he is not permitted to give Zakah to his parents, wife, unmarried sisters, or minor brothers, because he is already religiously obligated to provide for their maintenance.
Overcoming Spiritual Lows
It is not uncommon for believers to go through phases where they feel their faith is weak or that Allah is distant. This can be distressing, but it is important to remember that faith fluctuates.
A Muslim should never despair of Allah’s mercy. To draw nearer to Allah and restore faith, one should return to the authentic sources of Islam:
The Qur’an: Reciting the Qur’an and listening to it regularly acts as a healing for the heart.
Prayer: Offering obligatory prayers in the mosque (if possible) and performing optional night prayers (Tahajjud) creates a strong spiritual connection.
Good Company: Surrounding oneself with righteous friends helps maintain a supportive environment.
Community Involvement: Participating in beneficial community activities helps set a good example and increases a sense of purpose.
Recommended Reading for Spiritual Growth
Scholars recommend studying reliable books to deepen understanding and strengthen the heart. Some suggested titles include:
Islam in Focus by Hammudah Abdul Ati
Inner Dimensions of Islamic Worship by Al-Ghazali (translated by Muhtar Holland)
Kitab Al-Iman (Book of Faith) by Ibn Taymiyyah
The Ideal Muslim by Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi
The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam by Yusuf Al-Qaradawi
Finally, constant Du’a’ (supplication) is essential. One should ask Allah to guide them to the right path, grant happiness in this life and the Hereafter, and keep their heart firm on the religion.
