Making important life decisions can be challenging, especially when multiple options seem viable. Many Muslims turn to Istikharah, a special prayer seeking Allah’s guidance, when facing such dilemmas. However, there are often misconceptions about how Istikharah works, particularly regarding dreams and feelings of certainty. This article explores Istikharah’s significance, method, and practical application.

What is Istikharah?

Istikharah means “seeking the best course of action.” It is performed by offering two units of prayer (rak`ahs) and reciting a specific supplication in which one asks Allah to guide them towards what is best and to turn them away from what is harmful. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

“One who asks Allah for guidance in choosing the best course of action will never be a loser.”

Istikharah is only applicable to matters that are permissible in Islam. It is not meant for choices that involve forbidden (haram) actions. Instead, it is used when a person faces two or more permissible options and seeks divine guidance.

Does Istikharah Require Dreams?

Many people believe that Istikharah must be followed by a dream that gives a clear answer. However, this is a misconception. It is not necessary to have visions or dreams after performing Istikharah. If a person does experience a dream and feels strongly about it, they may follow it, but the presence or absence of a dream does not determine the validity of Istikharah.

Imam An-Nawawi explains:

“After making Istikharah, a person must do what they are wholeheartedly inclined to do and feel good about. If their feelings change, they should leave what they originally intended to do, as this indicates Allah’s guidance.”

Why Did My Brother Have a Dream, But I Did Not?

In a specific case, a person expressed concern that her brother had a dream after Istikharah while she did not. This led to confusion about whose Istikharah was valid. The truth is that Istikharah is not dependent on dreams. If one does not see a dream but feels at ease with a particular choice, that is sufficient. If no inclination arises, the person should proceed with the most reasonable option while trusting Allah.

Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi clarifies:

“Doing Istikharah does not mean that one should not use reason or experience. Islam encourages us to use intellect, seek advice from knowledgeable people, and make informed decisions. If we remain uncertain after Istikharah, we can repeat the supplication.”

How Long Should One Wait to Act on Istikharah?

There is no fixed timeframe for moving forward after Istikharah. If clarity comes immediately, one may proceed. If uncertainty remains, repeating the Istikharah is permissible. However, waiting indefinitely for a dream or an extraordinary sign is not necessary.

Consulting Others and Taking Action

In addition to Istikharah, Islam encourages seeking advice from wise and experienced individuals. The Qur’an states:

“And those who have responded to [the need of] their ruler, and established prayer, and whose affair is [determined by] consultation among themselves…” (Surah Ash-Shura 42:38)

Combining prayer, consultation, and reasoning allows a person to make well-balanced decisions.

Conclusion

Istikharah is a powerful tool for seeking Allah’s guidance in decision-making, but it should not be misunderstood as a process requiring dreams or supernatural signs. Instead, it is about putting trust in Allah, making informed choices, and believing that He will direct one towards what is best. If a person feels peace with their decision after Istikharah, they should move forward confidently. If confusion persists, they may repeat the prayer and consult others, knowing that Allah’s wisdom always prevails.