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 Assalamo alaykom brother/sister;My name is Hicham, a Moroccan person. Some times ago I met a girl by net and God helped me make her a Muslim. But later on the relation dveloped that we are planning marriage now. I do want that very much going on the paths of our prophet; and I know my future wife has very diificult situation: she has two kids of unmarried marriages. She has two diferent kids with two different "fathers". I still accepet this because I know that turning again to Isalm cleans all the bad history, and my intention is so human that getting this marriage will help more people come to Islam esp her family.Anyway now i need your advice about parenting; I know that it's forbidden to say that someone is a person's son where is he is not in fact. But this is when the marriage is legal and halal.  The situation is different here and the mother is a Muslim now, so -1- it is possible i give my name to the kids.  2-  Can I accept to have the kids as my sons only as officially(only in papers); but legally and in Shri'a, I will not accept that and will all the time tell them am not the dad; and i will always take them to see the true"dad"(who are both addicts to drugs)Is this possible? Especially that this will help us gretly overcome lots of administration and bureacratique problems .In addition it may help make the kids more secured psychologically.the most important thi,g in all this  is that i will abide by what Islam states even if it say no.I should be very grateful if you could or even could not help  for we are all brothers. And i love you in Islam.Assalamo alykom

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. How should an educated Muslim woman make advantages of her university degree, especially if it is from an international university, without affecting her duties as a wife and a mother? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Assalamu?alaikum respected scholars. Am I still permitted to ask for divorce from my abusive husband even though since I told him I wanted a divorce we have had marital relations once very recently. We have been separated for nearly 2 years prior to that. My husband now believes that we cannot get divorced and that I do not have the right to ask him for a divorce. My fea r is that even though I committed to him nothing has changed in our previous problematic circumstances and I do not want to go back to him. What are my rights if any? Please reply soon! Jazakala Khair!

Salaam,Does a womans duty to her family end or lessen after she gets married? My sister got married about 2 years ago. My family was excited at first, but now after two years the attitude is basically, ?She?s married now, we?ve lost her?.I?ve often noticed that when a conflict arises between a woman and her in-laws, the imam and scholars will often say that it is haram to make a man choose between his mother and wife. They will often stress the fact that it is the wife has a responsibility toward her in-laws. Why is the same advise not given to the man when he and his father-in-law are in conflict?I swear to god when I say this, but at 30 yrs old, I have never heard an imam or scholar say that a man must respect his wife?s family. In fact many men will verbally abuse their wife by cursing and insulting her family. They do this quite mercilessly. On the other hand if the wife were to say something, the results are often disastrous.In the case of a conflict between the husband and father, the woman is often told to side with the husband, effectively pitting one party against the other. Why is the woman never told to try to find a balance, like the man is told too. Is she no longer a daughter? To add to the insult the man is often told to ?relax? in this area so that his wife can see her family, as it is some sort of privilege that the husband may give his wife if she is ?obedient?.I know that it is a grave sin for a woman to insult her husbands parents and to break ties with them, but does this also apply to the husband and his wifes family? Is the sin of bad behavior toward the husbands family equivalent to the sin of bad behavior to the wife?s family? In other words is it worse to insult the husbands family than the wifes family? Does the bad behavior towards the wifes family even classify as a sin?I?ve often been told that we shouldn?t question Islam because we cannot question Allah. I hate to say this, but I cannot understand why this behavior is accepted. I tried to tolerate it at first but as of recently I cannot help but question.

Alsalam alaikum, 1-Islamically, is cooking and cleaning solely part of a womens (married/unmarried)duty? Is it something she must learn to please Allah (SWT)? 2- Does a (married/unmarried) women really need to seek permission from a male relative if she's going somewhere. Especially when the male relative leaves whenever they want, and returns whenever they want. Put in mind that the women might leave to do necesary things like picking up kids from school, paying bills, getting groceries..etc. Letting that person know is understandable but Asking Permission every single time?"