Parents' consent in marriage
Does the son divorce his wife on his father’s will? I heard a Hadith that `Abdullah bin Omer divorced his beloved wife because Hazrat Omar did not like her? And she was the root of anxiety in their home. What do you say?
Dear Sheikh, As-Salamu `alaykum! From my discussions with many male youths here in the UK, I have come to the conclusion that the biggest problem facing the youth is the opposite sex. With the media and society in general pushing promiscuity in our faces all day, the temptation becomes too much for some.However, unfortunately, some parents disregard this and refuse the wish of their children to marry, putting it off till they complete their degrees and get jobs. Many times this means they are into their late 20s. Meanwhile large numbers of youth are being lost to this evil. Yet we know that Allah will provide for those who place their trust in Him. What advice can you give to the parents and youth? What are the responsibilities of both of them? Jazakum Allahu khayran.
As-salamu `alaykum. I am a twenty-eight year old Muslim woman who has found a man who wishes to marry me. He is a few months older than me and I wish to marry him in the name of Allah. He has come to ask for my hand and my parents have agreed. However, his parents are against the marriage simply because they think I am too old, even though I am younger than him. I am not his parents' type or culture even though he and I love each other.
As-Salamu `alaykum. It is stated that it is fard `ayn (an individual obligation) to listen to parents as it is obligatory on us to offer the Prayer, but it is only a sunnah to get married. Thus many parents force children to get married by using this principle. Please clarif y this because I am in a similar predicament.
I am a motherless daughter. I want to get married but my father had been taking this issue too easy. Either he refuses the proposals on the basis of petty issues or I end up getting a rejection. I have asked from my mother?s sisters and friends to look for a suitable person. Among them, there are ones who are sincerely taking this task and yet others who are not. Overall, I haven?t had much luck yet.What should I do? After consulting one of my friend?s mother, I registered my name in matrimonial websites with high precautions, such as not showing my picture to anyone unless I know a bit about them and who sound trustworthy. Till now, only once I had shown my picture (in Hijab, of course) to one very sound person in all aspects (though I know I can?t guarantee it). That person is starting his job currently so we haven?t got to talk much.I am the only daughter. My brother is younger than me. I am not that open and friendly with my father to show such concerns. Thus, I am totally helpless at what to do. I am not much happy with my current life since I lost my mother. My father has remarried to someone I truly ended up hating. So, I am eager to get married to someone I can be truly happy with, leaving everything behind even the country my family and me are in. I have tried Istikhara recently on which I just ended up deciding, yet again, to leave it to Allah. But shouldn?t someone or I be doing something about it too? I would like a detailed advice on this issue, given my current situation.