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My wife and I enjoy a very healthy sexual relationship, but at times we get bored and we try different things but never anal sex, we recently tried oral stimulation as part of foreplay and really enjoy it as it helps us satisfy each other totally, We sometimes use chocolate and rub it all over each other and lick it off, sometimes we use flavoured condoms. I have researched all your fatwas and have read the article Islams stance on oral sex and I am still not sure, We dont have oral sex but just use it as stimulation for foreplay, Is this permissable as if it is not I want to stop.

Assalamu 'alaykum, Is it allowed to take medications without nuliffying ones fasting other than oral like the use of suppository, injectable, nebulization, eye drops and topical during Ramadhan as far Islamic viewpoint is concerned? Shukran

Dear Respected Sheiks & ScholarsAssalamu ai laikum, ORBALHUMDILLAH THANKS TO ALLAH, WE ARE HAPPY FAMILY FROM PAST 10 YEARS WITH 2 CHILDREN,  MY WIFE BEFORE OUR MARRAIGE HAD ANOTHER MARRAIGE PROPOSAL IN OFFING WHICH COULD NOT RESULT IN MARRAIGE AND THE BOY OF THIS PROPOSAL ON PRETEXT OF MEETING HER ALONE  FORCEFULLY PERFOMED ORAL SEX ON HER I.E  MY WIFE (BUT NO SEXUAL INTERCOURSE). MY WIFE WAS NOT KNOWING THE SERIOUNESS OF THIS SIN UNTILL SHE REALISED 2 YEARS BACK THROUGH SOME ARTICLES AND SINCE THEN SHE HAS BEEN FEELING VERY GUILTY & REPENTING FROM THE DAY SHE HAS REALISED, BY BEING NOT  ABLE TO COME OUT OF THIS MENTAL AGONY, SHE CONFESSED THIS SIN IN FRONT OF ME ONLY 3 WEEKS BACK. MY QUESTIONS ARE 1) IS THIS COMMITED SIN A ZINA OR NOT ? IF IT IS ZINA THEN WHAT IS THE PUNISHMENT & REPENTANCE ? 2) WILL THIS SIN EFFECT HER FAMILY & MY FAMILY AS HER PARENTS (MY-IN-LAWS) ARE SICK ?JAZAKULLAMOHAMED SHARIFF