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Assalamu aleikum, i have a question which i need its answer please. here it goes! if a girl is married and lives with her husband who is responsible for her is it her husband or her dad?does she has to listen to what her husband says or the dad.if the husband tells you to do something and the dad doesn't want you to do that thing will you get sins from your dad if you listen to the husband and not the dad.if i do what my dad wants and dont do what my husband tells me will i get sins?please help me whom should i listen to i need your help so badly.Maasalaam

My mother is constantly trying to turn me against my husband.  When I defend him (always speaking in a respectful way), she gets upset. She also provides me advice that, if I followed, would lead to my husband divorcing me. I love my husband greatly and have never complained about him to her or said anything bad about him.    She says I must put her first, not my husband.  What would the islamic ruling be in this situation?

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it true that in order to be eligible for Jihad (fighting in the Cause of Allah), one has to seek the permission of one’s parents, although thousands of Muslims are being killed?

Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. The question I have is related to the degree to which I must obey my mother. Her requirements of my time, money and effort become very strange and unreasonable. Sometimes she asks me to do things for her that will in effect harm her. For example, my wife and I do not go to Indian concerts because of the abominable activities that go on there such as drinking a lcohol, bad language, dance and music. My mother wants me to take her there.I politely refused mentioning that it is not allowed in Islam, and especially since this event is for teenagers. I am not in my teens. Secondly, the event is late at night 9 p.m.- 12 midnight in a downtown where I do not dare venture.For more serious examples, she enjoys going to functions where there is bid`ah (innovation) and expects my wife or me to drive her there. I do not believe in the activities that go on at such places and have made my opinions clear about not to go to such places. However, she cites the hadith concerning obeying the parents and my wife or I take them grudgingly. I drop them and pick them up but do not enter.What shall I do? How can I educate someone like this? Am I committing a sin by not taking them to a concert? Jazakum Allah khayran.