I have few questions regarding Mahr. Many women (including my mom and sisters) back home in Pakistan forgave their husbands the Mahr on the first night of their marriage, because their husbands ask them to. My questions are:1) Can a woman forgive the man of her Mahr, if he says that he does not have the means to pay it or seeks forgiveness just so he can to get out of it (not pay it).2) If the answer to the above question is "yes", then can she demand it later at the time of divorce? Also, in this case isn't this a tricky way on the part of the husbands to deprive their wives from their rights making use of their shyness to ask for their rights. Will the money taken this way be lawful for the husband keeping in mind that the wife may have forgiven it out of shyness and the Prophet said this is unlawful? Thank you.
Is the dower--the money given by the groom's side which is known as mahr--supposed to be given to the bride or to the bride's father?
Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I have discussed my will with my daughter, and to my knowledge of Shari`ah, if you have a boy in your family, he gets 2/3 whereas the girl gets 1/3 of the assets of their father and mother (I have a son & daughter). She made it clear that she will carry out my wish, but she seems not happy nor fully understanding why a son gets more while Allah says they are equal. I told her as much as I know that the boy has more responsibilities towards his family, while no one can share her inheritance with her. She believes she is more educated than her brother and she will never need his assistance. In addition, if something happened to him or to the father or to the mother, she would be responsible too. Would you kindly explain it more? Jazakum Allahu Khayran.