I'm staying in London and planning to go to Makkah during Ramadaan and spend about 10 days there doing Ibadah (reason being the reward for praying in Masjid Al Harm is more than praying anywhere else). While staying in Makkah I also intend to perform Umrah. Can it be possible that I make intention of going to Makkah for Ibadah and after staying there for a day or two make intention of performing Umrah and then enter Ihram from the Hotel in which I'm residing.
I did Umrah on the 3rd of January, it was my first time. After i was done with it, i used a perfumed tissues thinking that this is it. I mean by doing the opposite of what i shouldn't do during Ihram in order to break it. And so i did. I cut a nail too. But after i showered and used perfume and everything, i was told that it was wrong and i should have only cut my hair to break Ihram.
My mother, my wife and I did umra, however, forgot to trim our hair. Later all of us removed our ahram. My wife and I also enjoyed our conjugal rights. However, my mother is an old lady and a widow. Next morning when we remembered, we trimmed our hair as normal. Please tell us: 1. If each one of us has to sacrifice a goat (give "dumm") 2. Whether such sacrifice to atone for mistakes in umra have to be done in Makkah? or they can be done in Jeddah or in Pakistan. 3. Who can eat this sacrifical meat.
I have three questions:1. I have long hair. My relatives were after me to cut them short. However, I had decided in my heart that I would cut (shave) them when I would perform Hajj or when I would marry. This was not a 'mannat'/vow but just an intention. I did not say it aloud and neither did I think of it as a 'mannat'. Now, I know that the Prophet (PBUH) had prayed for the one who shaves his head three times before he included the one who cuts his hair in his prayer. Also, that the Prophet told the muslims to perform Hajj Tamattu (and that it is preferable ???). Now my question is that I am going for Hajj this year and I intend to perform Hajj Tamattu, Insha Allah; so can I shave my hair after Umrah or do I need to cut it short after Umrah and then shave after performing Hajj (bcos my intention was to shave after Hajj)? I want to shave after Umrah itself because I want to get the full benefit of the Prophet's dua. I also want to perform Hajj Tamattu, because the Prophet told the muslims to do so. [Sorry if this question seems a bit childish, but it troubles my mind, so I have decided to ask rather than know later that I have done something wrong. By the way, my heart inclines towards shaving my head after Umrah, because it was just a intention and I don't think I upgraded it to a 'mannat'. I also wonder if I am wrong in thinking of Umrah as separate fro m Hajj, because I AM performing Hajj Tamattu which includes both Hajj and Umrah][P.S. I will be travelling for Hajj on the 14th of December from Mumbai, India, Insha Allah].2. What should I do if I have a wet dream (ihtilam) during Hajj ???3. Is it compulsory to marry before one performs Hajj? [My mother was starting to search for suitable brides, but I told her that I want to perform Hajj before I marry. I want to make myself as pure as possible before I engage myself to another person for the rest of our lives, Insha Allah. I have done sins for which I am ashamed of and hope that Allah will forgive all my sins and make me a worthy and pure husband and muslim and part of this ummah, Insha Allah.]