kissing

Dear scholars, as-Salamu `alaykum. I`m 26 years old woman, my problem is that I fell in love with a married man and he feels the same to me. the problem is that when we meet we exchange kisses and hugs and other things which come out of our feelings to each other, but we never-thank GOD- had  sexual intercourse and we are old enough and conscious for the fact that it is forbidden by our religion. In addition we both pray the five prayers   daily(thank God).He thought to marry me but my parents refused and I refused to let him devorce his wife, so he said to me that we can continue to meet till I get married.He realy loves me and respects me and never asked me to had sex with him but we touch each other in several parts of our bodies and he sometimes reaches orgasm by my hand( and sometimes I reach orgasm by his hand but I`m still a virgin) I tried not to see him but it didn`t secceed because of the nature of my work and studies and my place of living ( I`m a doctor ). SO I want to know if this relation is considered zina and what can I do to prevent myself from doing `haram` things and he also wants to know what to do, considering the fact that we tried being apart from each other for five days but we return to meet again (and every time we meet in a places empty of peaple). Please I want to know what I have to do and what is our punishment because  I blame myself a lot and it prevents me from working or studying well at the same time I can`t stop seeing him , so please help me as soon as you can !! Baraka ALLAHU Feekum.

Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. When a woman or man passes away, is the spouse permitted to kiss the deceased as a way of saying goodbye? If permitted, does this have to occur only after the body is ritually bathed, or is it acceptable to do so before this bathing? Jazakum Allah khayran.