kids

I read Om Anas’s problem with her son who is scared of monkeys. My son Salem , 5 years old, is scared of cats and dogs. I think it’s a big problem because he sees cats and dogs daily in the streets and I want to help him overcome this fear.

 Assalamo alaykom brother/sister;My name is Hicham, a Moroccan person. Some times ago I met a girl by net and God helped me make her a Muslim. But later on the relation dveloped that we are planning marriage now. I do want that very much going on the paths of our prophet; and I know my future wife has very diificult situation: she has two kids of unmarried marriages. She has two diferent kids with two different "fathers". I still accepet this because I know that turning again to Isalm cleans all the bad history, and my intention is so human that getting this marriage will help more people come to Islam esp her family.Anyway now i need your advice about parenting; I know that it's forbidden to say that someone is a person's son where is he is not in fact. But this is when the marriage is legal and halal.  The situation is different here and the mother is a Muslim now, so -1- it is possible i give my name to the kids.  2-  Can I accept to have the kids as my sons only as officially(only in papers); but legally and in Shri'a, I will not accept that and will all the time tell them am not the dad; and i will always take them to see the true"dad"(who are both addicts to drugs)Is this possible? Especially that this will help us gretly overcome lots of administration and bureacratique problems .In addition it may help make the kids more secured psychologically.the most important thi,g in all this  is that i will abide by what Islam states even if it say no.I should be very grateful if you could or even could not help  for we are all brothers. And i love you in Islam.Assalamo alykom

Asalamo Aliiom, I live in Canada with my wife and my kids. The government here gives monthly payment, called child tax benefit, to low-income families with kids to help them raise their children.  This monthly payment depends on the total income of the family "total income of the man and the woman". The less the total income, the higher amount of money a family gets. The government, usually, sends this money to the wife by a check, or by any other way, but it's always sent to the woman.  My wife says that this money is hers because it comes to her account and she thinks she should keep this money for herself.  She says that this money is hers because she's not working and she takes care of the children and the house and this money is sent to her from the government because of that.  On the other hand, I think that this money is to help us raise our children and it should be added to the house expenses.  Although I'm working, the government still thinks my income is not enough to support my family and that is why they send us the money.  What supports my point of view is, as I mentioned before, the money that the government sends depends on the total income of the man and the woman.  When the total income reaches a certain amount, the government stops paying because it thinks that the income would be enough for the family.  My question is, should my wife keep the money the government sends or should she add it to the house expenses?  Is it haram if I take this money to cover our expenses?

My question has to do with family problems, especially those between my parents. They are always fighting and arguing and being abusive towards things and one another. There are a total of six siblings. I am nineteen years old and I have a younger sister and brother who have to witness this kind of behavior from my parents very often. I feel hopeless and frustrated because there is nothing or very little I can do to about it. I ask Allah to help me cope. Things are just not working out. They have been this way pretty much ever since I was a kid myself and now watching my younger siblings go through the same just eats me up.

Dear Sheikh! Please enlighten me on the case where mother or father is partial. In other words a mother or father treats children unequally, giving some of their children preferential treatment at the expense of others. In this case, does one still owe such parents the duty of respect and honor, despite the apparent injustice that characterizes the way they treat their children? Jazakum Allah khayran.

If my child is fasting, although it is not yet obligatory, should I send food to school (just in case)?

As-Salamu `alaykum. Is it allowed for a parent to spy on his or her children so as to check their morals and behavior?